Oh dear my DH upset someone!

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Took our DS to the soft play today. It's a new one with a restaurant and large waiting space with chairs/ dining area.
My DH took our son inside the soft play area and was watching him, it was pretty busy with lots of parents and kids on this under 4 area.
Another parent was sat in the ball pool with her boy who marched up to her, yelled "mummy!", she then whipped out her boob in the ball pool and proceeded to breast feed her son.
It sort of caught my DH by surprise so he looked away to which the woman challenged him and said, "what's your problem?" My husband replied that food and drink shouldn't be consumed in the soft play area and the woman called him a fucking cunt. It was just a really odd scenario with a couple of parents moving their child away and someone muttering mind your language ( who she also told to fuck off.)
We aren't adverse to breast feeding in public and I still do but in the ball pool?!

I breastfed, I can’t imagine breastfeeding in a ball pool which is renowned for being full of kids wee, snot and germs though. Urgh.

Also, he looked away and got called out, should he have stayed and stared? 😂
Odd goings on all round I think.
Babies can actually wait more than 2 seconds to be fed, “on demand” does allow for that

Unrelated to the post (sorry op) but what does mean? I've often seen it and was curious

Unrelated to the post (sorry op) but what does mean? I've often seen it and was curious

Unrelated to the post (sorry op) but what does mean? I've often seen it and was curious

Breastfeeding isn't some special thing It really is, actually, and not at all like giving a child a bottle or a sippy cup.

It really isn’t though Navigator, it’s just making sure the baby is fed. How you do this is up to you but one way is no more special than the other.

@JoxerGoesToStuttgart
Oh how that made me laugh

are a way for posters to let you know that they don’t believe what you are saying without directly calling you a troll.

The no food/drink thing will be due to spillages and crumbs. Since it’s presumably a toddler that’s being fed, she’ll be past the milk squirting everywhere stage and you can’t exactly spill a boob like you can a cup so I don’t see how it’s the same! I can’t see how it’s unhygienic to breastfeed, although ball pits are so full of germs anyway.

It really is, actually, and not at all like giving a child a bottle or a sippy cup.

Because you can bond so well by sitting in a ball pool surrounded by screaming kids

If you're in public you should be able to feed your child however, whenever, and wherever you want, within reason and common sense. Breastfeeding isn't so protected that you can just plonk yourself down anywhere and feed, ignoring everyone else around you.

If anyone read the OP properly it wasn’t a baby but a child who demanded to be fed. The mother was daft, the toddler Im sure could be taken out the ballpool or offered a drink from a cup. Yes you are entitled to bf wherever you choose but a toddler in a ballpool, just screams look at me I’m a great mummy. Toddlers don’t need breastmilk.

@Nottheduchess thank you!

she’ll be past the milk squirting everywhere stage

Not when a nosey toddler pulls off mid feed.

People should stop with the "you can breastfeed anywhere" thing and realise that there are some places where it really isn't appropriate. It's not that hard to simply leave the actual ball pit and sit close by.

Toddlers don’t need breastmilk.

Yawn.

WHO recommends mothers worldwide to exclusively breastfeed infants for the child's first six months to achieve optimal growth, development and health. Thereafter, they should be given nutritious complementary foods and continue breastfeeding up to the age of two years or beyond.

Did you miss the bit where he told a breastfeeding woman off, saying no food and drink was allowed? Man sounds like a controlling arse to me, but that doesn't justify her language. Perhaps she has just had it up to here with men telling her how to feed her child?

No one told her how to feed her child.
She was a controlling arse by aggressively demanding to know why he looked away.
No one "told her off" he just repeated the ball pit rules which were "no food and drink".

But of course he has a penis and thus is wrong 🙄

DCITennison glad it's not just me. I read some threads that people are apparently falling about laughing over and I think ‘WTF? Are mothers really so vapid to find this hilarious?’ I think the last one was the thread about someone asking about air traffic controllers in Boots and making out she would be a marked woman in every branch or something. I couldn’t see the big deal at all.

Although each to their own I suppose... I lost it laughing over the Jabba the Hutt annotation on the ghost thread yesterday and many people would have thought my response a bit .

People should stop with the "you can breastfeed anywhere" thing

Yep. It should be more like "you can breastfeed anywhere you would also bottle feed". The laws exist to protect discrimination against breastfeeding mothers doing what bottle feeding parents would do. Not to give women free reign to feed in dangerous or inconvenient places. You don't have some sort of immunity to considering other people just because you feed via a boob.

what if the child had expressed a desire to feed whilst crossing the road? Would she have plonked herself down on the island to accomodate it?

She has a perfect right to feed her child wherever she likes, but common courtesy would suggest she get out of the 4 x 4 ball pool!

The language is unforgivable.

(Adults in the ball pit are in the way and should get out.)
It’s fine for the woman to whip or whap or just get out her breast and feed anywhere.
It’s fine for your husband to look away.
It’s a bit rude for the woman to then have a problem with your husband not looking at her.
Your husband’s comment makes him sound like a bit of a nob (but I could kind of imagine many, otherwise nice people, who would blurt out something like this).
The woman was WAY out of line in her subsequent swearing fit.

I agree, it sounds like she’s had a problem with her breastfeeding being commented on before and was primed to react.

There was a waiting area with nice seats with cushions and i breastfed my son there. It was 10 paces away. Just beyond that was an open plan restaurant area.
I think she was having a stressful day. We went there again today and another mother was asked not to take a sippy cup in with her.

So no food or drink allowed but she’s breastfeeding so she should be.. that’s what I’m seeing in the comments here. I don’t understand that, why would you feed in a ball pit? Also, he looked away, if he continued looking at her he would have got shit for that too, clearly can’t win no matter what he does because he has a penis. I thought his remark was funny, why shouldn’t he joke a bit when he has been shouted at for being polite? So quick to defend the woman just because she was breastfeeding.

Your husband did nothing wrong. She, on the other hand, sounds vile.

common courtesy would suggest she get out of the 4 x 4 ball pool!

It's bizarre how many people are fine with someone being in a ball pool until they have a toddler latched on.

Either it's inconsiderate to sit in there or it's OK. The BFing makes no difference.

It's not like BFing in the middle of the road because she wouldn't have been sitting there in the first place.

No mother should be expected to move from where she is sitting quite appropriately in order to BF. It doesn't matter whether other people think that the BFing changes things or whether, in their heads, there are more comfortable or more hygienic places. That's the whole point of the law.

If it's OK to sit there, it's OK to BF there, although there are now no doubt MNers all over the place desperately trying to think of a place it's appropriate to sit but not with a baby latched onto your boob.

In the driver's seat

Whilst driving