Oh dear my DH upset someone!

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Took our DS to the soft play today. It's a new one with a restaurant and large waiting space with chairs/ dining area.
My DH took our son inside the soft play area and was watching him, it was pretty busy with lots of parents and kids on this under 4 area.
Another parent was sat in the ball pool with her boy who marched up to her, yelled "mummy!", she then whipped out her boob in the ball pool and proceeded to breast feed her son.
It sort of caught my DH by surprise so he looked away to which the woman challenged him and said, "what's your problem?" My husband replied that food and drink shouldn't be consumed in the soft play area and the woman called him a fucking cunt. It was just a really odd scenario with a couple of parents moving their child away and someone muttering mind your language ( who she also told to fuck off.)
We aren't adverse to breast feeding in public and I still do but in the ball pool?!

Possibly cooks. AIBU isn’t my normal haunt so please don’t think I am being deliberately dicky.

It all sounds stressful and unusual. She was an arsehole in her response.

@Timandra alrighty

I think it’s really odd to feed a child in a ball pit. Mainly cause you’re taking up loads of space and getting in the way of kids playing!
Disclaimer: breastfed two ds’s everywhere, regularly ‘whipped’ them out, yada yada but that doesn’t mean you lose the inability to think of others!

Beastfeeding mothers should be comfortable to breast feed in public or when the need arises but feeding in a ball pit where kids are playing is just taking the piss.. it’s not hard to step out of it.

If your DP looked at her she probably would of been giving the same response.. nothing wrong with looking away.. it’s what we do in scenarios we are uncomfortable with.

I think it’s really odd to feed a child in a ball pit. Mainly cause you’re taking up loads of space and getting in the way of kids playing!

But it's OK that she was already sitting in it? Nobody had an issue until she was BFing, which, as far as I'm aware, doesn't make you bigger.

Are adults allowed in children's ball pools? Surely, they would take up most of the space if a few got in at the same time. A sign saying 'NO ADULTS' would also mean no breastfeeding in there. Job done.

@quizqueen the area was for under fours but there was much younger children in there. I wouldn't have wanted to be much further away from my 18 month old. Most parents sat on the outside of the ball pool when using it. Some were in it.

Firstly if I got out my boob, it would come with a whip and a slapping sound (cheers kids).

Secondly, I breastfed, I breastfed in public, I’m all for it. But in a ball pit? That takes the piss and it just shouts ATTENTION SEEKER- LOOK AT ME, I’M BREASTFEEDING IN PUBLIC!!!!!

No, I wouldn't have dared do it in a ball pit.
I wouldn't have bothered if anyone else did (probably wouldn't have even noticed) but sounds like this woman was feeling particularly defensive and ready to explode at anyone who happened to glance in her direction.

I was never that brave.
I got told told off for feeding my newborn in a doctor's waiting room! That was mortifying!

That takes the piss and it just shouts ATTENTION SEEKER- LOOK AT ME, I’M BREASTFEEDING IN PUBLIC!!!!!

Yet sitting in there while not BFing is OK?

Surely it's the shouting and swearing that's attention seeking. Not BFing where you were already sitting?

I would hate that language in a kids play area but breast milk is antibacterial so in the unlikely event of a drop of breast milk falling in a soft play area, it would probably do more good than harm

It wouldn't have even crossed my mind that a ball pit was an inappropriate place to breastfeed. I've walked around soft play with the toddler while the baby was on the boob many a time. Oops.

The woman sounds lack she lacks any class. The downside of public places is the riff raff that you have no control over.

Yep. I can vouch for the fact this happened.

I was the ball pit.

Of course it’s the mans fault LTB

Whipping a tit out in a ball pit and swearing is hardly appropriate. Yet she’s female so MN’s think can do whatever she wants.

Breast feeding in a ball pit, witty comebacks and a cunt bomb thrown in. What a busy day!

Things like this never happen to me. I don’t even frequent posh or “naice” places. I think I’m missing out on some drama!

She’s legally entitled to breastfeed anywhere she wants to. Literally anywhere

Not quite. It’s not illegal to stop a woman breastfeeding in a public if there’s a legitimate health & safety risk. Also not against the law to prevent women breastfeeding in a place that is providing a service just for men.

She’s legally entitled to breastfeed anywhere she wants to. Literally anywhere

Not quite true though- probably not entitled to breastfeed on the hard shoulder of a motorway, or on a runway. There has to be some kind of sense in where she chooses to do it, and doing it in the middle of a ball pit is a bit dickish when it's busy

All for breast feeding by the way, but also a big fan of common sense - it would have taken a minute to move to somewhere else and wouldn't have inconvenienced the other kids unnecessarily

Sleep deprivation.

🎶I whip my tit back and forth, I whip my tit back and forth 🎶

She sounds like she has a persecution complex about breastfeeding and is always ready to react.

I didn't just have a problem with her feeding in there. I think parents who get in the soft play are a royal pain in the arse and they should either leave their kids to play or accept they're not old enough if they can't or won't go it alone.

They are designed for kids not bit clumsy adults getting in the way, feeding or otherwise.

Christ, I'd have been embarrassed of my husband. Feeble joke.