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cooksomeeggs · 2019-08-03T20:43:19+00:00

Took our DS to the soft play today. It's a new one with a restaurant and large waiting space with chairs/ dining area. My DH took our son inside the soft play area and was watching him, it was pretty busy with lots of parents and kids on this under 4 area. Another parent was sat in the ball pool with her boy who marched up to her, yelled "mummy!", she then whipped out her boob in the ball pool and proceeded to breast feed her son. It sort of caught my DH by surprise so he looked away to which the woman challenged him and said, "what's your problem?" My husband replied that food and drink shouldn't be consumed in the soft play area and the woman called him a fucking cunt. It was just a really odd scenario with a couple of parents moving their child away and someone muttering mind your language ( who she also told to fuck off.) We aren't adverse to breast feeding in public and I still do but in the ball pool?!

Nautiloid · 04/08/2019 14:20

I am agog at 'food and drink shouldn't be consumed in the soft play area'.

BarrenFieldofFucks · 04/08/2019 18:57

She clearly assumed he was being a patronising/condescending arse. I think she was right, though I wouldn't have sworn at him.

I wonder though, if you were there too, and you clearly think she was in the wrong to be feeding there, perhaps there was more of an atmosphere than you are suggesting?

AlexaAmbidextra · 04/08/2019 20:24

The baby needed feeding so there was a need.

A baby needing to be fed isn’t normally a medical emergency. The baby could have waited thirty seconds while it’s mother got out of the ball pool and settled herself on a chair in the seating area.

crispysausagerolls · 04/08/2019 21:20

Parents need not be sitting IN the ball-pit at softplay.

NotExactlyHappyToHelp · 04/08/2019 21:42

See all this ‘it’s ok to be taking up the space in the ball pit before she was BF’ is bothering me.

Yes she was playing with her kid. The ball pit is for playing in. If the kid is BF they’re not able to play. If her child had moved on to another part of the soft play it would’ve been odd if she continued to sit in there. Or if they’d fallen asleep you wouldn’t sit in the ball pit with a sleeping child.

I’m all for breastfeeding whenever and wherever there’s a need but if you could move yourself to the side of a children’s activity that seems the more logical thing to do. It’s like breastfeeding sitting on a swing at the park. Sure you can do it but isn’t it easier for everyone to sit on the bench instead?!

PlaceYourItemInTheBaggingArea · 04/08/2019 21:56

My husband replied that food and drink shouldn't be consumed in the soft play area

Brilliant!

Isn't it just, what a dick! 😂😂

CrispbuttyNo1 · 04/08/2019 21:58

This just came up on my fb feed

FishyMcFishyfingersFace · 04/08/2019 22:14

If you are sitting in a ball pit and a 3 year old launches themselves into it in your direction you can try to prevent them whacking full tilt into you as you have two free hands.

If you are sitting in a ball pit breast feeding a toddler and a 3 year old launches themselves into it in your direction there is little chance you can stop them hitting you full tilt and you can't dodge out of the way either.

Imho it is dangerous to breast feed in a ball pit. But the same also applies to just sitting on a floor feeding in a busy place, young children can go running full tilt into you, not the wisest place to sit when you're not going to be very mobile. I wouldn't have done it with my children and I breastfed all four of them in many places. At least if you are sat on a chair feeding then there is a buffer if a child runs into you, it is unlikely they will be leaping on top of you.

Also, the language was appalling.

Clarinet1 · 04/08/2019 22:50

I am happy for anyone to breastfeed more or less anywhere but I would not be happy if my DH was staring at the relevant area while they were doing so - which was clearly what the OP's DH was trying to avoid. Come to that, if I were BFing, I would not be keen on someone else's DH staring at me either!
It sounds as though the mother in this case was being very U and rude.

Timandra · 05/08/2019 18:06

Imho it is dangerous to breast feed in a ball pit.

You're entitled to your opinion and each mother is entitled to make her own risk assessment.

Her decision being different from yours does not make it wrong.

Timandra · 05/08/2019 18:06

Imho it is dangerous to breast feed in a ball pit.

You're entitled to your opinion and each mother is entitled to make her own risk assessment.

Her decision being different from yours does not make it wrong.

Timandra · 05/08/2019 18:06

Imho it is dangerous to breast feed in a ball pit.

You're entitled to your opinion and each mother is entitled to make her own risk assessment.

Her decision being different from yours does not make it wrong.

Timandra · 05/08/2019 18:08

Imho it is dangerous to breast feed in a ball pit.

You're entitled to your opinion and each mother is entitled to make her own risk assessment.

Her decision being different from yours does not make it wrong.

chickensdontpocktheypeck · 05/08/2019 20:18

Christ Timandra

LOUD AND CLEAR

Notthetoothfairy · 05/08/2019 20:40

I would have looked away too, it’s a natural reaction. She was being rude and unreasonable —assuming he wasn’t staring at her and hissing “Bitty!”—

Notthetoothfairy · 05/08/2019 20:40

(Strikethrough fail)

Tattybogle89 · 05/08/2019 22:30

Bitty 🤣
Now THAT would have been priceless

happycamper11 · 06/08/2019 03:24

I bf both dc and was always happy to feed in public, however I'd not have fed in a place that forbid food and drink to be consumed. This is usually for the H&S of the person eating/drinking (especially a filthy ball pit) as well as that of others. You'd take your toddler out for a drink of milk from a cup, a sip of water or a snack. Similar to the lady that kicked up a fuss about being asked not to bf in the middle of a swimming pool. DC will have to get out of a pool to have a drink of water etc. I'm sure the baby would be happier wrapped in a towel to stay warm while having a feed too, it gets cold quickly when stationary. I still think it's funny your DH came out and said it thought, I'd have just thought it internally 🤣

happycamper11 · 06/08/2019 03:24

I bf both dc and was always happy to feed in public, however I'd not have fed in a place that forbid food and drink to be consumed. This is usually for the H&S of the person eating/drinking (especially a filthy ball pit) as well as that of others. You'd take your toddler out for a drink of milk from a cup, a sip of water or a snack. Similar to the lady that kicked up a fuss about being asked not to bf in the middle of a swimming pool. DC will have to get out of a pool to have a drink of water etc. I'm sure the baby would be happier wrapped in a towel to stay warm while having a feed too, it gets cold quickly when stationary. I still think it's funny your DH came out and said it thought, I'd have just thought it internally 🤣

happycamper11 · 06/08/2019 03:24

I bf both dc and was always happy to feed in public, however I'd not have fed in a place that forbid food and drink to be consumed. This is usually for the H&S of the person eating/drinking (especially a filthy ball pit) as well as that of others. You'd take your toddler out for a drink of milk from a cup, a sip of water or a snack. Similar to the lady that kicked up a fuss about being asked not to bf in the middle of a swimming pool. DC will have to get out of a pool to have a drink of water etc. I'm sure the baby would be happier wrapped in a towel to stay warm while having a feed too, it gets cold quickly when stationary. I still think it's funny your DH came out and said it thought, I'd have just thought it internally 🤣

SlightlyPsychotic · 06/08/2019 10:25

Maybe he looked away out of respect. It'd be different if he sat and looked as she'd have probably called him a perv. He can't win. not the place you'd expect to see a boob is it.

TheNavigator · 06/08/2019 10:29

Your DH didn't do anything wrong. I think his reaction was pretty normal. Did you miss the bit where he told a breastfeeding woman off, saying no food and drink was allowed? Man sounds like a controlling arse to me, but that doesn't justify her language. Perhaps she has just had it up to here with men telling her how to feed her child?

littlewriggler · 06/08/2019 11:00

Did you miss the bit where he told a breastfeeding woman off, saying no food and drink was allowed?

Would you have been OK if he'd mentioned the no food and drink rule if she'd been feeding with a bottle? Or a bottle of fizzy drink rather than milk?

Women should be able to breastfeed in public, I do and it pisses me off when women are made to hide away. But that means being able to feed wherever you'd normally feed a child. Breastfeeding isn't some special thing, it's just another method of feeding a child. If food and drink isn't allowed in the ball pit, why wouldn't you just get out to feed your child like any other parent would do? An exception might be if she was supervising a second child in there whilst breastfeeding, maybe.

NoTheresa · 06/08/2019 11:26

Nautiloid

I am agog at 'food and drink shouldn't be consumed in the soft play area'.

An I bad for finding that pretty amusing?

bumblingbovine49 · 06/08/2019 11:33

So would it be ok to.give a child a bottle of sippy cup to.drink while there are in the ball pit? I'd say not as.it is a health hazzard. Same for breastfeeding in a ball pit.

Remove the child from the ball pit before feeding them seems a reasonable rule.to.me . Not sure it will traumatise the child to wait.the 5 secs it takes to.do.this.