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Original poster

Was IBU to feed my baby in this situation?

71 replies

HotGlueGun · 03/08/2019 18:39

So I’d be interested to hear views on a situation I was involved in yesterday. I have a 4 week old baby and my mum has been to stay with me whilst my husband is away to help out with him and my 5 year old daughter. We nipped into town to get a few bits for meals/ the baby and paid for an hour on the car park. Shopping took half an hour, returned to car, loaded shopping and pram when my baby started to cry for a feed. As I was getting him out of the car to feed (he is bf on demand), a lady in another car asked if we were leaving (car park full). My mum (not realising that I needed to feed my son) told the lady that we were indeed leaving... I told her we couldn’t as I needed to feed which she relayed, very apologetically to the lady in the car. She proceeded to tell my mum that it was very unfair and that there was a queue of people wanting to park to take their children to the cinema (massive exaggeration... there were 2 cars). She then drove past shaking her head at me. She drove around another circuit and then managed to park easily. Was lovely being unreasonable in this situation?

OP posts:
Teachermaths · 03/08/2019 18:40

No

Kerberos · 03/08/2019 18:41

Nope. You were still using the space

Pipandmum · 03/08/2019 18:41

Jeez baby trumps impatient lady every time!

IsobelRae23 · 03/08/2019 18:41

As long as you have paid you could sit in your car for three hours.

Teateaandmoretea · 03/08/2019 18:41

Ywnbu at all. Baffled why she thinks taking her kids to the cinema is more important than you feeding your baby.

bloodywhitecat · 03/08/2019 18:43

She was unreasonable, you weren't. (Can't answer the poll as I am not sure what autocorrect has made of your question)

Shesellsseashellsontheseashore · 03/08/2019 18:43

You paid for an hour parking. Whether you were in a shop or sat in your car feeding your baby, you were entitled to be there for an hour until your ticket ran out.

froggybiby · 03/08/2019 18:52

No need to ask...of course you weren't. You had paid for an hour anyway & you apologised immediately so I can't see any problems.

Merryoldgoat · 03/08/2019 18:54

I know you were entitled to do as you did but I think you were inconsiderate.

Original poster
HotGlueGun · 03/08/2019 18:55

Thanks all.. I didn’t think I was being unreasonable and was shocked at the entitlement of this woman. I was admittedly slightly unreasonable (got a bit tiger mother) for having a go at her at the ticket machine (foolishly she used the one right next to my car). She still maintained her stance that I should have moved, not fed my crying tiny baby so that her screaming child, who was about 6 could go to the cinema. I get it’s annoying when you can’t park but seriously!

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WorraLiberty · 03/08/2019 18:55

If you were still within the time you paid to park for, the rest of the story is irrelevant really.

Littlechocola · 03/08/2019 18:56

@Merryoldgoat why? Op had paid for the space and was still using it.

Applejack5 · 03/08/2019 18:56

Not unreasonable at all. Your baby needed feeding!

Original poster
HotGlueGun · 03/08/2019 18:56

Merryoldgoat.... how was I inconsiderate? Should I show more consideration to the social life of a stranger’a child than the actual physical needs of my small baby? Enlighten me, what should I have done in this situation?

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Gustavo1 · 03/08/2019 18:56

I don’t think you are unreasonable to feed a hungry baby in any situation. Ever!

Sexnotgender · 03/08/2019 18:57

She’s a dick.

Hungry tiny baby trumps whiny entitled mother and child’s cinema excursion.

BoronationStreet · 03/08/2019 18:58

Obviously YANBU. You were using the space you paid for. End of.

ChrisPrattsFace · 03/08/2019 19:02

Maybe the other mother was merryoldgoat?

You were not unreasonable, baby needs feeding - baby gets fed. And you had paid.
End of.

KatharinaRosalie · 03/08/2019 19:03

Would OP have been unreasonable if she sat down in a cafe to feed the baby while the car was parked? No? What's the difference with sitting in the actual car then?

Teateaandmoretea · 03/08/2019 19:04

I know you were entitled to do as you did but I think you were inconsiderate.

How..? 🤷🏻‍♀️. Utterly batshit no more or less

phoenixrosehere · 03/08/2019 19:05

Yanbu. Your time wasn’t up. She also found another space easily so she was just being difficult for no reason. She could easily tell her six year old to be patient,can’t exactly say the same to a 4 week old.

Teateaandmoretea · 03/08/2019 19:06

Would OP have been unreasonable if she sat down in a cafe to feed the baby while the car was parked? No? What's the difference with sitting in the actual car then?

I guess parking in a space someone else wants could be seen as inconsiderate if you were an absolute doormat. Put others before yourself like a good girl Hmm

KitKat1985 · 03/08/2019 19:09

YANBU. Young babies need feeding. And you were well within your time for your car parking space.

Pinkout · 03/08/2019 19:14

YANBU, babies need feeding.

Gooseysgirl · 03/08/2019 19:15

I would have told her less politely to jog on. YANBU