Was IBU to feed my baby in this situation?

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So I’d be interested to hear views on a situation I was involved in yesterday. I have a 4 week old baby and my mum has been to stay with me whilst my husband is away to help out with him and my 5 year old daughter. We nipped into town to get a few bits for meals/ the baby and paid for an hour on the car park. Shopping took half an hour, returned to car, loaded shopping and pram when my baby started to cry for a feed. As I was getting him out of the car to feed (he is bf on demand), a lady in another car asked if we were leaving (car park full). My mum (not realising that I needed to feed my son) told the lady that we were indeed leaving... I told her we couldn’t as I needed to feed which she relayed, very apologetically to the lady in the car. She proceeded to tell my mum that it was very unfair and that there was a queue of people wanting to park to take their children to the cinema (massive exaggeration... there were 2 cars). She then drove past shaking her head at me. She drove around another circuit and then managed to park easily. Was lovely being unreasonable in this situation?

Best one I ever had was at the entrance to an underground car park. Large van in front had misjudged the height and couldn't go in. Clearly he needed to reverse, and I was waiting for the car behind me to reverse, so that I could go back and let the van out. While this was happening (busy town), the driver of the van opened the door and shouted at me "move your fucking car." I turned the engine off and waited. His passenger then came and said you need to move your car, and I explained that I would happily do that when he apologised. It took 5 minutes. Totally unnecessary.....

Did you have a go at her after she’d driven off and found a space?

'was admittedly slightly unreasonable (got a bit tiger mother) for having a go at her at the ticket machine (foolishly she used the one right next to my car). '

Why would you wind down your window and start 'having a go' whist feeding your dc though?

I hate parking wankers. Nothing makes me move more slowly than someone being aggressive over my space.

YANBU! I hope she didn't make you feel bad. Feed your baby when you need to, wherever you choose to!

Without even reading the op i said no. Baby needs feeding. End of conversation x

Your baby needed feeding. You fed them. Whilst legally and safely parked. YANBU.

Yes you were inconsiderate, you could of found somewhere more suitable than a busy car park to feed baby

You mean, like somewhere the OP would have had to PARK to use? If she had stayed in the shop to feed, would that be ok? Even though her car would still have been occupying the space?
And it’s ‘could have’

Don’t even need to read your post to know the answer to that question.

You had rented the spot and hadn’t finished using it yet. YANBU. Even before we get to baby being hungry.

baby needed feeding - end of!

I dont care where I am,if my child needs feeding or changing its happening and I dont care how many people i piss off if im taking up a space or whatever!

honestly some people are just thick! you were not wrong!

@ethelfleda all of this!

Plus where else do people want baby to be fed?! In the fast lane of the M25 while driving?!

It is never unreasonable to feed your child. Full stop

Yes you were inconsiderate, you could of found somewhere more suitable than a busy car park to feed baby

What counts as 'more suitable'? I've lost count of how many times I've sat in the car to feed my baby... it's safe and it doesn't affect anyone else. Seems suitable to me...

If OP had gone somewhere else ('more suitable') to feed her baby before returning to her car, the parking space would still have been occupied (therefore affecting/delaying other car park users in exactly the same manner) but nobody would get worked up in that scenario...

No - hungry baby and you paid for parking. It’s your space.

YANBU I do it all the time when I drop dc to clubs I sit in my car and read or eat my McD’s!

I just shake my head if I see someone stopping near my car. I pay £12.20 to park for 3 hours I’m using up my moneys worth

And to the pp who said you should have given the space and then sat in the car park aisle to feed... How exactly is that better. When cars queue behind her is she supposed to drive out of the way whilst feeding...?

I bet she’d had HER lunch! You absolutely did the right thing. The woman was an idiot. You paid for the space, and your baby needed to be fed. Good on you op, and congratulations on your new baby 😊

Absolutely not unreasonable whatsoever at all!

The grumpy lady was bring very unreasonable however

Unfortunately once you have a child you will meet people like this , who will be horrible and rude and make us doubt ourselves and feel bad

We should be er have to apologise for doing the right thing for our children, without us humanity would die out

*never have to

I wouldn’t start an argument or lose my rag. I’d just be a bit miffed.

Explain to us why you consider you are more entitled a space in a car park than someone else. Absolutely bizarre no more or less.

If the OP can park somewhere else so can you 🙄🤷🏻‍♀️. You obviously consider yourself to be very special.