To think this is late for an 11 year old?

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I know it's the school holidays, but I'm surprised at the time a lot of ds, 11yo friends seem to go to bed.

Ds goes up about 9pm, usually asleep by 10pm. I let him watch a film in my room or read until he's ready to go to sleep, as it's the holidays I've let him watch the laptop a few times.

His phone is still buzzing now at gone 11 with friends ringing and texting, he's been fast asleep since about 9.30pm. A couple of the dc were bragging that they stayed up until 4 in the morning.

Aibu to think it's too late. Occasionally ds would stay up really late for example if we are on holiday, or if he had a sleepover, but generally asleep for 10pm is late enough isn't it?

My 11 year old is still up, he will lie in and get around 11-12 hours sleep. It’s the holidays, I let them go with the flow.

If they go to sleep at 11 and wake up at 8, that's 9 hours sleep, 9 hours is within the normal range of sleep requirements, as is of course 9:30 until 8. Some kids need more, some need less - there's nothing better about a particular amount, just that an individual gets enough. Waking naturally at the time they need to is what most likely indicates that, rather than any particular hour.

So he will lie in until 11am tomorrow?

Ds gets up early no matter what, so guess he needs the sleep.

4am seems ridiculous.

I have a 10 year old and in the summer holidays she is still sometimes up at midnight (if it's really hot and no one can sleep), some nights she's in bed at 10.30 though. I don't let her contact any friends at that time though as I'm aware others may be asleep earlier.

My 11 year old up to he sleeps in till midday I'm going with the flow school holidays only

DD is 7 and still awake. She'll sleep until 9-10 tomorrow morning so it's all good.

During the summer my 11 year old is asleep by 10 pm most nights. Awake around between 8.30 and 9am.

Gosh, ds is such an early riser then, he's never up later than 7.30am, literally never.

If I go to bed very late and sleep in I always feel really groggy but I guess everyone's body clock is different.

My kids get sent to hed at 10pm but I don't enforce lights out till midnight on holidays. We all like a lie un till 10 or 11.

My 11yr old sleeps from 10-7.30 ish. I think he would stay up later during the holidays but I need him to get up so I can go to work.

Mine is 10 and was in bed by 8:15 and asleep by 8:45. He's quite an early riser, will be up around 7:30.

Although at his dad's it's more likely to be 10pm+ -6ish. He then comes home in a horrid mood and will stock up on sleep. Fine in the holidays, not great during term time.

Mine don't stay up that late just for the sake of it as we end up having busy days a lot of the time so don't want to sleep in until 11/12 every day. If they are up then they aren't on phones but reading watching films (unlike me who is a right hypocrite still being on the phone!)

Same purple ds would be in a right mood if he gets too tired.

He doesn't object to going to bed at 9, but I do it's leave him to it in the holidays as in I don't have lights out, but he just falls asleep.

His friends have been ringing and ringing him to play Xbox, but he's been fast asleep, don't want anyone making fun of him for going to bed so early.

Maybe he is secretly Spanish? Dd been on an exchange the whole family go to bed around 1-2 am get up 11ish lunch at 5 dinner at 10ish. Dd very impressed

His friends have been ringing and ringing him to play Xbox, but he's been fast asleep,

Bless him. We have the opposite, daughters friends trying to FaceTime from 8am when she prefers to sleep later.

Suspect the children are exaggerating with 4am but I would have thought that 11 year Olds should be going to bed at 10pm at the latest. We have to get up to go to tennis camp etc. In the morning and don't have all morning to lounge around. Our kids don't miraculously lie in and get too tired if they go to bed late as they still wake up at 7am.

don't want anyone making fun of him for going to bed so early

I hope his friends wouldn't do this. But if they do and he's bothered, he could say he was watching a film or was in the garden and didn't hear his phone. He obviously needs his sleep and if he's happy to go to bed earlier than others, don't worry.

My 10 year old is still up, if he’s up later during hols he lies later in morning though, if he was still waking up really early I’d want him to be sleeping earlier. Will be a nightmare getting him back into normal routine for school tho

DD is 10, nearly 11, given a choice I am sure she would stay up til 4am but the rule here is in bedrooms and quiet/leaving me alone by 10pm for her and DS(15) DD is allowed no technology at all after 11pm, DS is expected to use his common sense and not wake people (so like he can whatsapp friends he knows are still up)

DC bragging about being up late is generally 90% bollocks by the way. When I used to do scout camps they were all bragging about being up to 4 or 5am, they were not because as adults we took it in shifts to be awake, kids just like to brag about how late they stay up.

His friends have been ringing and ringing him to play Xbox, but he's been fast asleep, don't want anyone making fun of him for going to bed so early.

If it's an issue he can always blame you, just tell him to say he isn't allowed his phone in his room. Won't make you the cool mum but most kids that age will just accept it.

My 10 year old is in bed for 9.

My 5 year old is still up.
I don't think it does then any harm to choose when they go to bed in the holidays. It will be hard to get back to routine for school but we will get there and I feel its worth it. I reckon from about 13 I would stay up as late as possible. So maybe 4am is rather late for 11 year olds but maybe they do have a lie in so it all balances out.

I’m sitting next to my 5 and 9 year olds who are still up at midnight. I admit that I allow this because I stay up late myself (still got some work planned for tonight) and I don’t want to have to be up early in the morning. I definitely don’t want children up before 09:00 at the weekend. I realise this is not great parenting. I’m just being honest here because it’s anonymous!

Yikes. I was in bed at 830/9pm until I was about 16 school holidays or not. My 5 year old has been in bed from 7pm.

At 11 mine pretty much set their own bedtime during summer. I found that they usually conked out by 10, maybe 11-ish.

I remember at that age staying up til 12.30 with my Big Sis to watch late night TV. I was an adult before I realized that my parents let me stay up because her boyfriend was also there and they (parent) wanted to go to bed. So I was the unknowing chaperone!