To be disappointed that no one notices my weight loss?

[Shoppingishardwork]

Ok so I know that this sounds childish and attention seeking, but I can't help feeling a bit miffed.

I've lost a stone. It hasn't been easy. I wasn't very overweight to begin with, my bmi was just over 25, but I was tipping overweight and felt and looked rubbish, but I'm now in my healthy weight. I'd like to lose around another half a stone.

Nobody has noticed that I've lost any weight. At work or family and friends. I even asked my mum and she said that she couldn't really tell.

I don't know why I feel this way as I don't want a big fuss, but weight is a big talking point amongst my work colleagues and friends and family who usually notice minimal weight loss.

I know I'm being silly, it's just nice to have a bit of encouragement.

I lost two and a half stone and not one person noticed, not even my daughter mentioned it despite knowing I was on a totally different eating regimen. The only time it was noted was when I went for my annual "MOT" at the doctor's and they weighed me. I put it down to Older Woman Invisibility Syndrome.

I lost 3 stone and went down only one dress size. Nobody noticed

Regardless what people say or not say.
GOOD FOR YOU .

A stone is not that noticeable to people who see you regularly, especially when you aren't very overweight to begin with. My OH has lost 2 stone and people sometimes notice. I've lost over 4 stone since Jan, so was very overweight. People only commented when I'd lost well over 2 stone.

Gosh gorse and yesqueen makes my 1 stone look a joke.

And we'll done- you must feel great for losing the weight and shouldn't give two hoots if anyone noticed or not. Some people think it rude or inappropriate to give women praise for weight loss because it puts a value on our size.

The most I will ever say (unless I know the person really well) is some generic comment about how nice they look today, usually directed at the clothes they're wearing rather than their person. You know, "that outfit looks really lovely on you" or "have you done something different, you look especially nice today" or something similar. Usually it will elicit a response about weight loss and then I can say "Well, I thought there was something! Congratulations! You look great!"

When I lost my weight in the past and it never bothered me if someone said a simple "Have you lost weight?". But it would kind of hurt my feelings if they said "You look good, have you lost weight?".

Did you do it for them or do it for you?

I never comment on anyone’s weight, even if on the odd occasion I do notice.

If you want congratulations, tell your friends you’ve done it.

20 lbs. In me experience, 20lbs is when people start to notice...

I think I read once that it takes 4 weeks of losing weight for you to notice and 8 weeks for other people to .Something like that anyway

@Shoppingishardwork

YABU. A stone is not that much, and many people have to lose more than that before people notice, even if you are not particularly overweight. You sound a bit precious feeling annoyed that people haven't been fawning over you.

If I found someone was pissed off because I didn't comment on their weight loss, I would think they were a bit pathetic and attention-seeking tbh.

It’s probably really noticeable to you if a stone when you weren’t huge to begin with probably isn’t that obvious to others.

I've always found its people that don't see you as often that notice weight loss. People who see you every day take longer to notice.
Congrats! I wish I had some will power myself right now to loose some!

YABU. A stone is not that much, and many people have to lose more than that before people notice, even if you are not particularly overweight. You sound a bit precious feeling annoyed that people haven't been fawning over you.

Didn't say I was annoyed or that I wanted anyone to fawn over me I certainly don't want anyone to fawn over me.

I said I was a bit disappointed that no one has noticed.

I know someone who lost 4 stone before anyone noticed. For some reason it was very sudden at that stage and people were commenting everywhere she went.

I agree with PP it's the clothes; people don't really notice that your normal clothes are slightly loose on you now. When I lost weight no one at work commented until the Christmas party when I wore a new little black dress and lots of people said wow, haven't you lost a lot of weight!

To be fair I wouldn’t comment cos saying you’ve lost weight is like saying ‘you’ve lost weight-you where a right porker before!’

Learnt the hard way on that one

Thanks all.

For the record I don't want or expect everyone to start falling over themselves as though I'm slimmer of the year.

I literally mean people who know I'm dieting but can't tell. Like I told me mum I've lost a stone now, I asked can she tell but she couldn't. Doesn't mean I'm annoyed at all, just a bit disappointed but I can tell because I'm the one doing it.

I know what you're saying. The truth is, sometimes no one else really notices because they're too wrapped up in their own lives/selves! No one is nearly as judgmental as we are about ourselves.

Well done on being a healthier weight!

I've had quite a big transformation so I did get a lot of comments, but only once the first few stone were gone. Going from a size 22 to an 18 you couldn't really tell - fat was still fat. But once I was a size 12/14 the praise and positive attention starting coming. At my biggest, teenagers would start singing 'who ate all the pies' when I passed them on the street.

I'm a size 10 now and get told 'you should eat a burger.' I'm still losing a bit of left over fat and toning up; but only improve for yourself, OP, sod other people.

Bunch of jealous cunts

Harsh!

Well done on your weight loss OP, but if you weren't that overweight in the first place, AND you're wearing the same clothes, it is possible that people can't tell.

Buy a new work outfit that shows it off a bit more and people may notice more.

mushyseas you're right I've been so down on myself over my weight but no one else really cares. Rightly so, I don't judge people on their weight.

Well done on your weight loss too. It's disgusting that people would harass you for being overweight. It is true that you can't win, once people do notice and comment they tell you not to get too thin.

If it helps I'm 5'9 and (started out BMI 26, baby weight) and I've been solidly dieting and working out for six months and not a single person noticed until very recently (2 and a half stone later and BMI 21.5).

I include my husband in this, who had been completely oblivious to any difference until the other day when he walked in to the room the other day, stopped and gave me a puzzled look before eventually exclaiming "you're skinny! When did that happen?"

I think when you see a person daily it can be hard to notice gradual changes day in day out.

Congratulations on losing a stone, though! It's really tough.

They probably haven't noticed if they are you on a regular basis so the skin down would be gradual. If they hadn't seen you for a couple of months they might notice the weight loss because it would be sudden if that makes sense?

Stupid autocorrect. I meant slim down not skin down.

Agnes that would be my dh. 21 would be my ideal bmi, bet you look great at 5"9 too.

It is tough, it's a lot harder to lose than it is to put on.