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AIBU to expect my hairdresser to not f up my wedding hair?

110 replies

SailorJerry13 · 31/07/2019 14:13

Four months ago I contacted my mobile hairdresser and ‘friend’ because I wanted to go from brunette to blonde in time for my wedding day.

I wanted a specific colour, and found the name of it so she could order it for me. All fine. :)

It’s taken a month longer than expected to go from dark brown to a brassy blonde, and I have had to sport some rather dubious hair colours in between. It’s not the hair appointments that are taking so long, it’s that my hairdresser just hasn’t been proactive at all in organising herself.

But That’s ok, I know to trust the process and trust that we’ve got plenty of time to do it in.

Last week I contacted my hairdresser again to make our last appointment before the big day, she wanted to have my hair looking fresh for the day so said she would come this week to do it. We made an appointment for today, as it suited her.

I get married on Friday. This week. In two days.

And she has just text to say she can’t make today as the colour hasn’t arrived !!!

AIBU to expect her to have ordered the colour weeks ago?! When she knew what colour I was going to be (after strand tests etc)

I am so so panicked that it is going too last minute, if it even happens at all now.

if something goes wrong or she still doesn’t have the right colour I am worried I will have to get married with bright yellow/brassy hair....I mean I look ridiculous, but have been getting in with it because I trusted her not to let me down before the big day.

Please offer some kind words, I am in no way a bridezilla and have tried to be very chilled out about it all - I don’t care about the little details etc. I just wanted to look pretty for one day. :(

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FilledSoda · 31/07/2019 15:07

Cut your losses with her , she clearly doesn't give a shit.
Is she actually trying to sabotage you ?
Throw whatever you can afford at the best colourist you can find.

Blahblahblahnanana · 31/07/2019 15:07

Tbh she sounds a bit 💩 if she’s left you with brassy hair! She should have put a toner on it for you to tone it down. I’d go else where in future for that alone...

whatsleep · 31/07/2019 15:13

Hope you’ve managed to get into a salon, at least you know it will be done properly and they will have all the products on hand to deal with any colour issues

SeeSomethingSaySomething · 31/07/2019 15:15

Is she actually trying to sabotage you

I thought this too!

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 31/07/2019 15:16

Hope you get it done x

DaisyChainsGetBroken · 31/07/2019 15:16

Find the most experienced poss expensive place you can. Dont fuck about with Juniors who might mess it up accidentally.

MrMeSeeks · 31/07/2019 15:18

No she should have ordered the colour WELL in advance. 2 days before your wedding is not ok.
Even as an experienced hairdresser things can go wrong! 2 days before is not acceptable ( your hair may not go the right shade, may need more bleaching, or lifting, you may need toning etc)
Call any salons ( have a look online at reviews first though!) and explain.
Do NOT pay your hairdresser.

mussolini9 · 31/07/2019 15:19

I haven’t paid her in advance, Iv paid at the end of every appointment but think she will expect me to pay for the colour she has ordered for me.

Bollocks to that.
She can send it back, or use it on a different client.
If she can't that's HER problem. She failed to order it in time.
She's neither a professional or a friend.

Good luck at the next hairdresser - & in the meantime, if you can order this in time for the honeymoon it will help keep away any dreaded brassiness - www.bathandunwind.com/fudge-clean-blonde-damage-rewind-violet-toning-conditioner/

Enjoy your wedding!

DaisyChainsGetBroken · 31/07/2019 15:20

I agree no way should she have left it until 2 days.

Be aware a lot of salons want to do a 24 hour patch test. You need to phone right now so you can poss get in today to do this.

Original poster
SailorJerry13 · 31/07/2019 15:20

I have found a salon that Iv been to before, although it was a couple of years ago, I’m hoping they can sort it for me this evening.

When I say she is my friend to elaborate - I know her from the school run and someone else I know recommended her for hair. She has become a sort of friend since (we will have a cup of tea and a good chat etc)

I don’t think she’s done it on purpose I actually think she is just so incompetent she hasn’t given it much thought. I felt I was being unreasonable because of course it feels like my big day is important to me, but clearly no one else !

We did have a conversation early this morning and butted heads though, I think she may have taken personal offence at a general comment I made. It was an hour or two after that she claimed the colour hadn’t arrived. Which does seem odd considering our appointment was meant to be at 2pm.

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DaisyChainsGetBroken · 31/07/2019 15:20

And DO NOT PAY A PENNY. If anything she should be bloody paying you for the stress. Is she coming to the wedding?!

mussolini9 · 31/07/2019 15:24

We did have a conversation early this morning and butted heads though, I think she may have taken personal offence at a general comment I made. It was an hour or two after that she claimed the colour hadn’t arrived. Which does seem odd considering our appointment was meant to be at 2pm.

Too odd. She has deliberately sabotaged you. What a bitch.
However - don't give her any more headspace.

You can think about what kind of review you might like to leave on her e.g. facebook page when you get back from a lovely honeymoon :)

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SailorJerry13 · 31/07/2019 15:25

Thankyou @mussolini9 !

Gosh reading some of your replies I really feel like such a fool for trusting her. I had a feeling this would go wrong when it started taking so long even with a month and a bit to go...

What an idiot I am

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SailorJerry13 · 31/07/2019 15:27

Iv already left a review from a previous colour - a glowing one ! I’m not sure you can do it twice.

However I think next time I see someone asking for a mobile hairdresser I shall be warning them off her!

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LagunaBubbles · 31/07/2019 15:27

Who is doing your hair for the actual wedding day?

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SailorJerry13 · 31/07/2019 15:29

I was going to do my own hair on the day, I can style it quite well and ...ironically....didn’t trust anyone to not let me down last minute on the day. It felt like a stress and expense I could do without!

She was not invited to the wedding, it is only a small ceremony although her and few other school mums seemed to take offence that they weren’t all invited as they had invited me to theirs.

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SeeSomethingSaySomething · 31/07/2019 15:32

Awwww, you’re not a fool, anyone of same mind could not imagine this - some people are seriously fucked up.

This is beyond cruel!

Did you manage to find a salon?

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 31/07/2019 15:32

Ah, and there's your reason for her behaviour!
How very dare you not invite her to your wedding! (Joking)

SeeSomethingSaySomething · 31/07/2019 15:33

Sorry, I see that you have got an appointment now, great!

RuggerHug · 31/07/2019 15:36

Tell her she's paying for the salon appointment!!! It wouldn't have been needed if she had been organised so it's her own fault.

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SailorJerry13 · 31/07/2019 15:42

Thankyou @SeeSomethingSaySomething

I really tried to plan it as far in advance as possible, have always made myself free for appointments and never complained that she’s turned up late etc.

I would force her to pay for it but she has offered me an appointment tomorrow morning (which will mean afternoon as she is never ever on time) and will think that is sufficient but part of me thinks she will cancel then too!!

I am going to chat with a salon lady this evening, hopefully they can fit me in tomorrow. And none of my friends who were expecting to see me will mind that I am busy now 🙈

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lilbumblebee · 31/07/2019 15:43

@SailorJerry13, so sorry to hear that this has happened to you 2 days before your wedding, I would be having kittens if that was me. I honestly can't believe she didn't order your hair colour in time. Hopefully the local salon can sort it out and your day goes amazing.

Definitely avoid her for future appointments, she's too unprofessional and it's not worth it.

SeeSomethingSaySomething · 31/07/2019 15:46

Tbh, I wouldn’t trust her with your hair tomorrow.

I’m sure the salon will be able to help, and hopefully it’ll be a lovely pampering experience too.

Your friends will definitely understand.

TheCatThatDanced · 31/07/2019 15:48

Get yourself to another appointment with another salon - the best you can afford and preferably a recommendation and deal with your friend's ineptitude another time!

TheCatThatDanced · 31/07/2019 15:49

oh and friends and hair stylists often don't work well - in my experience! Have been there and got that t-shirt...