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AIBU to expect my hairdresser to not f up my wedding hair?

110 replies

SailorJerry13 · 31/07/2019 14:13

Four months ago I contacted my mobile hairdresser and ‘friend’ because I wanted to go from brunette to blonde in time for my wedding day.

I wanted a specific colour, and found the name of it so she could order it for me. All fine. :)

It’s taken a month longer than expected to go from dark brown to a brassy blonde, and I have had to sport some rather dubious hair colours in between. It’s not the hair appointments that are taking so long, it’s that my hairdresser just hasn’t been proactive at all in organising herself.

But That’s ok, I know to trust the process and trust that we’ve got plenty of time to do it in.

Last week I contacted my hairdresser again to make our last appointment before the big day, she wanted to have my hair looking fresh for the day so said she would come this week to do it. We made an appointment for today, as it suited her.

I get married on Friday. This week. In two days.

And she has just text to say she can’t make today as the colour hasn’t arrived !!!

AIBU to expect her to have ordered the colour weeks ago?! When she knew what colour I was going to be (after strand tests etc)

I am so so panicked that it is going too last minute, if it even happens at all now.

if something goes wrong or she still doesn’t have the right colour I am worried I will have to get married with bright yellow/brassy hair....I mean I look ridiculous, but have been getting in with it because I trusted her not to let me down before the big day.

Please offer some kind words, I am in no way a bridezilla and have tried to be very chilled out about it all - I don’t care about the little details etc. I just wanted to look pretty for one day. :(

OP posts:
Bibijayne · 31/07/2019 14:15

Call round local salons and explain the issue. See if someone can fit you in today/ tomorrow to fix it

bakingbabyv · 31/07/2019 14:16

@SailorJerry13 YANBU, is a hairdresser and I would have had your appointment booked last week to help the colour settle before your big day. If I was you I'd book into another salon, I know it maybe costly but you'll get a fresh looking colour and you'll have a lovely pamper which will make you feel a million dollars.

Sorry you're having this added stress ❤️

bakingbabyv · 31/07/2019 14:16

I'm a hairdresser**

Zebraaa · 31/07/2019 14:16

Ooh that’s not on, I’d be getting incredibly anxious now. You need a back up plan!

TheSquiffyQuiff · 31/07/2019 14:17

Yup. Get on the phone to local salons.
Deal with your anger later.
Enough other stuff to be think about at the mo.

YorkshireGoldFanClub · 31/07/2019 14:18

I'm sorry that must be really stressful but I think you need to cut your losses and get an appointment elsewhere! If you can afford it, throw some money at the best salon in your area (I think most salons do late Thursday opening so that helps) for peace of mind that they will do whats required. Although they might stock a different brand, a good colourist will be able to get exceedingly close with any brand and its encouraging that your hair colour is obviously ready for the colour you are trying to achieve so you arent asking for a miracle, you have put in the hard work.

Regarding you "friend" I don't think I'd be able to forgive that kind of a let down!

MamImHere · 31/07/2019 14:20

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Billballbaggins · 31/07/2019 14:20

You really need to get to a proper salon today. Your friend is unreliable and you say you’ve had ‘dubious’ colours during the process- this really shouldn’t be the case!

HeyMonkey · 31/07/2019 14:28

Fuck her, i'd get to a salon now.

Original poster
SailorJerry13 · 31/07/2019 14:33

I am going to call the local salon, luckily there’s a few around in the nearby towns but I really don’t have much spare time - we’ve got friends and family arriving over the next 24 hours although luckily my to do list isn’t too long ....I had hoped for a relaxing couple of days before the big day...

I haven’t paid her in advance, Iv paid at the end of every appointment but think she will expect me to pay for the colour she has ordered for me.

I’m trying to be proactive but really don’t have the spare money or time for such a stupid thing to have been let down with Sad

Thankyou for your encouraging words though, I am so grateful

OP posts:
BeanBag7 · 31/07/2019 14:39

she will expect me to pay for the colour she has ordered for me
I would absolutely refuse. She should have been more organised and got it sorted last week if not earlier. That's no way to run a business.

TruffleShuffles · 31/07/2019 14:41

She should have been planning to do your hair last week, my hairdresser wouldn’t colour mine the week of my wedding as she wanted the colour to settle and that was a colour I’d been having years.

Don’t pay for the colour OP, she hasn’t got it in time fore when you needed it and I can’t imagine it cost more than a few pounds anyway.

MyKingdomForACaramel · 31/07/2019 14:46

Get to a salon... I can’t believe that she left your last appointment so late as it is (I went from brown to blonde for my wedding but I did it via highlights and took a year!)

MyKingdomForACaramel · 31/07/2019 14:47

Oh and no matter what - you’ll look lovely anyway Flowers

TSSDNCOP · 31/07/2019 14:49

Now is the tone not to scrimp on the quality and experience of the salon colourist. Pause, phone everyone you know with good hair and find out where they go. If your friend charges you for the last colour it’s fine, she can apply it for free after your honeymoon.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 31/07/2019 14:51

No, do NOT pay her for the colour she's supposedly ordered! Why should you when she has fucked you over to the extent that you're going to have to go to another salon and probably pay them much more to get the job done in a hurry?

Maybe if she has to wear the cost of her fuck-up, she'll think twice before being so slack in future.

SeeSomethingSaySomething · 31/07/2019 14:52

You are def not bu and she can send the colour back at her own expense!

That’s absolutely shocking.

Hopefully you can get another appointment today.

If the worst comes to the worst (and this shouldn’t happen), could you do a strand test with a toner?

Anyway, have a wonderful day on Friday!

cjt110 · 31/07/2019 14:53

She'd be told to get fucked if she expects paying now...

SuperPixie247 · 31/07/2019 14:54

Youre going to have to get a move on as salons will require a patch test before they will dye your hair.

Liverbird77 · 31/07/2019 14:58

OK, deep breath.
Call round local salons. If you know exactly what colour you want, and you don't need then on the day, don't say it is wedding hair - you'll save a fortune.
You absolutely should not pay this woman, as she has messed up and it is her own fault.
Worst case scenario... You'll get married with brown hair, and you'll look beautiful. Honestly, when I look back on our wedding, I don't remember things like hair. It is such a special time, please try to enjoy it.

Derbee · 31/07/2019 15:00

Absolutely don’t pay her for an colour she’s ordered. It’s too late to be of use to you, and it’s her problem.

FunnyHappyGirl · 31/07/2019 15:01

Crikey - what stress! I'd be tempted to reply with "you do realise I get married in TWO DAYS???"

Can't believe she's being so calm about it. It's not like it's a normal appointment is it?! Is she doing an "up" do for you too? Can you trust her to turn up on Friday if she isn't??

I hope you manage to get it sorted and enjoy your day.

ohcanada · 31/07/2019 15:02

Get yourself to a really good (read expensive) salon and get it fixed.

Honestly this: I wanted to go from brunette to blonde in time for my wedding day was your first mistake. Getting it done by a friend was the second.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 31/07/2019 15:06

Get yourself to a salon, get the colour done.

Will you need her on the day ?

Benjispruce · 31/07/2019 15:06

I feel your pain. Major changes in your look before a wedding day are a bit risky. That doesn't help now I know so good luck. I'm sure a salon will be able to tone it at the very least. Stock up on that purple shampoo too!