Slapped in street - AIBU

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My FIL is staying with us right now. This morning in the local high street he saw me but I didn’t see him so he walked up to me and slapped me (quite hard) on the arm. It was meant as a joke but it really shook me up to the point of tears in my eyes. I thought I was being mugged Initially then when I realised what had happened I just felt really, really embarrassed in case someone I knew had seen that I had been slapped in the street! He apologised when he realised he’d upset me but AIBU to have a real go at him later? After it happened I was a bit shocked and after exchanging a few words I just wandered of. Now sitting in a cafe I think it was an incredibly sexist action from a man to
a woman. I still feel upset but my period is due any minute and I’m very hormonal. Please can you give me some perspective - was this a shitty thing to do or do I need to find my sense of humour?

I would have jumped at this OP and been bloody annoyed. He sounds a dick tbh.

Give it a few days and then ask yourself if it’s reasonable to have a real go at him when he has already apologised?

Not unreasonable, though, to reiterate that slapping anyone unexpectedly is very likely to upset and startle them and quite possibly alarm them greatly. Suggest in future he calls your name?

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He apologised and realised he did wrong.

Let it go.

If he left a mark you should be angry and tell him to keep his hands to himself. If he just scared you you can just chalk it up to a male moment and take the piss out of next time. Put your hands up when the family are around say “don’t hit me” or ask if he’s beaten up anyone else lately. Let him know that is not appropriate without coming across too strong.

As for the original question
He apologised when he realised he’d upset me but AIBU to have a real go at him later?

It depends on the apology. If he genuinely apologised, then yes, YABU to drag it up again and have a real go at him.

He's apologised. I'd let it go. What good do you think bringing it up again will do?

You've admitted in your post to being 'very hormonal' and this would explain your being so upset over this. - how does this happen?! The same poster tells the OP to "have a bubble bath"

But then OP invites this by telling us all she's due to have a period?! So many things - you say its sexist then minimise what he did and your own reaction by saying I'm hormonal I'm due a period. Then someone seizes on that as an opportunity to tell you to get over it by having a bubble bath FFS?

Your FiL is a dick, who has no respect for anyone by the sounds of it, and he literally saw you coming.

I can sympathise that you were shocked and it wasn't OK. I am sure he didn't mean it, but sexist? how can this be a sexist action?

I wouldn't have liked that at all, have a word with him

It wasn't sexist. He was treating you as if you were an old mate, and in my opinion that's nice. Don't 'have a go' at him. He's apologized already.

Move on and don't make a fool of yourself over this.

Your FiL is a dick, who has no respect for anyone by the sounds of it,

Oh come on. He misjudged a jokey greeting. He instantly realised he'd done the wrong thing and apologised. Sounds to me like he DID respect the OP.

A dick with no respect for her, would have mocked her and claimed she was in the wrong for making something out of nothing.

It’s quite ironic he’s being branded sexist yet OP wants her hormones taken into account.

If he left a mark you should be angry. If he made a mistake and scared you just say at next family gathering “are you still beating up people on the streets” joke but let him know it’s not appropriate and make sure he’s uncomfortable about it.

I think that too many people are over-sensitive, he upset you, he apologised, there's no need to make anymore of it, I'm sure he'll be pleased to ignore your existance in future.