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To tell friend to get a taxi

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CupidIsFired · 29/07/2019 22:12

Going on holiday tomorrow, flying from my city. My friend is coming too but she lives an hour and a half away on a train so is travelling up in the morning. Originally she was going to book a train to get her in for 4 hours before the flight, we would meet her at the station and then head to the airport. She booked a ticket to get her in 2 hours before the flight time... I told her she was cutting it fine and not giving any time for delays or traffic as this time of the year is very busy in this city. So she changed it to arrive at 9:30am which is 5 and a half hours before the flight, that's fine I said she can come to mine and we can go from there. She called me today to say I need to meet her at the train station as she's hurt her back and has been told not to/can't lift anything and bring her back to my house. I have a DD who is 15 months who's also coming on holiday, I have to sort her out and also myself and make sure everything is organised as I'm a very stressful traveller (I hate this trait about me) so now having to wake earlier to make sure I've given DD breakfast got her ready and myself ready. And be at the station in time. WIBU to tell friend I can't come, to get a taxi to my house and I will help her from there? She will have to get to the train station in her city and on the train herself anyway? Or would I be a bad friend for this?

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Cherrysoup · 29/07/2019 22:15

Taxi, definitely. YANBU.

sneakypinky · 29/07/2019 22:16

Why can't she get a taxi or Uber?

flowergirl78 · 29/07/2019 22:18

Taxi

CalmdownJanet · 29/07/2019 22:18

Definitely tell her get a taxi or she'll be treating you like baggage porter for the holiday

Leeds2 · 29/07/2019 22:21

Has she explained why she can't get a taxi?
How far is the station from your house? If you are all driving in your car to the airport, would it be possible to pick her up and go straight to the airport, even if this means you arrive earlier than you would otherwise choose?

pasturesgreen · 29/07/2019 22:22

Taxi and firm boundaries, or you'll be the unpaid bellboy for the whole holiday.

Chickychoccyegg · 29/07/2019 22:22

how far away from the station are you? how was she originally getting from the station to your house?

AtSea1979 · 29/07/2019 22:22

How are you getting to the train station later for your flight?

Sunburntnoseandears · 29/07/2019 22:22

Should she be going at all with a bad back?

Bookworm4 · 29/07/2019 22:23

She’ll be getting herself on the train at start of journey so I’m sure she’ll manage at your end, taxi driver will put her luggage in boot.

Expressedways · 29/07/2019 22:26

YANBU. I’d offer to revert to the original plan since that was at your suggestion where you would pick her up from the station on your way to the airport. She can wait at the station and have a coffee. Or if she doesn’t want to do that she’s welcome to take a taxi to yours, or go ahead to the airport in a cab and meet you there. Taxi driver will put her luggage in the boot if she asks. As you rightly point she can obviously manage just fine if she’s getting to the station in her town and then getting the luggage on/off the train. And brace yourself for the holiday if she’s already demanding you rearrange your morning for her clearly over exaggerated bad back!

Sycamoretrees · 29/07/2019 22:32

Could she wait in a cafe at the station and you pick her up on way to airport when you're ready?

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CupidIsFired · 29/07/2019 22:34

Original plan was to meet her at the station and get the bus or tram to the airport as the stops are right near the station. With her new arrival time we were going to get a taxi from my house to the airport which will cost around £25-£30 so split between 3 of us (my mum is coming too) wouldn't be so much more than tram/bus fare. She said she would have either got the bus, or a taxi to my house she hadn't decided yet. Only thing with leaving earlier and picking her up on the way is that we would be mega early as our flight isn't until 3pm. Plus I had some stuff that I needed to do before going to the airport. I had already suggested that coming to meet her that early was going to be a bit of hassle for me as DD doesn't wake usually until 7:30 and she replied with she can wait around a little until I'm ready to collect her. I feel like PP are right and I'm going to be used as a bell boySad I don't want to cause and atmosphere, I'm already stressed about DD being on the flight so I'm trying 5o avoid any extra stress...

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Littlejets · 29/07/2019 22:35

So who's going to be carrying her stuff at the airports if you've got your own bags and a 15mo??

VenusTiger · 29/07/2019 22:39

Text her at 8:30am to say you don’t want to wake DD up as she’s still fast asleep and ask her to get a taxi

Original poster
CupidIsFired · 29/07/2019 22:47

@Littlejets I assume she thinks me or my DM. But I'm going to try and stop that happening as my DD is a handful now that's she started walking, so I'd rather not have something else to worry about.
@VenusTiger good idea, I'll maybe try this

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SeeSomethingSaySomething · 29/07/2019 22:47

Tell her straight! Or text her straight rather!

Say to her you won’t be able to pick her up, she needs to sort that out.

If she pushed it say you’ll be ready at whatever time does actually work for you, even if that’s three hours after her train arrives.

Also say that you’re worried as neither you or your Mum will be able to carry her bags and then ask her how she’s going to manage.

Being polite and nice means you’ll have to find room in your luggage for a nice bellboy cap.

Dunno what this woman is like, but being polite and nice is what cheeky fuckers count on to get away with.

Good luck!

BumbleBeee69 · 29/07/2019 22:50

Taxi

NoHummus · 29/07/2019 22:59

She needs to either get a taxi to yours, or wait at the station until whenever you and your mum can meet her there/ you can pick her up. Assuming it's a main station with cafes, shops and stuff, she'll be fine. All part of the holiday! Wink

scubadive · 29/07/2019 23:00

You’ve absolutely got enough to do, getting yourself and a 15 month old ready to travel and under no circumstances should you wake your 15 month old the day of travel. You never know when flights might be delayed and the last think you need is a tired toddler to start a journey by plane. Your friend should understand, why did she book a train so early? Just say sorry I will be busy getting my DD ready, please can you get a taxi here.

carly2803 · 29/07/2019 23:02

um.....taxi to yours!!

be firm now OP else this holiday will be a NIGHTMARE

MustShowDH · 29/07/2019 23:02

Yes, you are a stressful traveller - you can tell you're getting stressed already!

How far is the station from your or your Mums house? Can you mum nip out and get her so you don't have to disturb your DD.

She should get a taxi, but if she's in pain she may be panicking so if you can make it easier for her it would be a nice thing to do.

Enjoy your holiday.

BMW6 · 29/07/2019 23:02

Just say firmly "No, you will have to get a taxi".

MsPavlichenko · 29/07/2019 23:05

Don't wait till morning. Tell her now. You will be busy with the wee one so she needs to get to yours on her own. Though tbh you don't need to explain as she has no right to expect, let alone ask for a lift. She is a chancer.

msmith501 · 29/07/2019 23:12

Nip this nonsense in the bud before you become the holiday mule. Set your stall out and stick to it. It's your holiday too and whilst I'm sure you're willing to make allowances for her back ache, that should not include changing your plans to suit.