The constant questions or comments that drive you mad when pregnant

[PollyRoe16]

Anyone else get so annoyed with the same questions or comments all the time whilst pregnant? (Probably partly hormones 😂)

Mine for example:

Not long to go now!
Wow you're getting big
You better get all the sleep you can now...

Was it planned? (Are you asking if I intentionally had unprotected sex with my husband?)
Wow are you sure you're not carrying twins? (Yes I'm sure, I made the sonographer check twice, also thanks for destroying my self esteem)
What are you having? (A baby. My husband wanted a cat but they're sure it's a baby)
Are you gonna give up work? (No it's not 1940 any more, I quite enjoy my job thanks)
How much is childcare gonna cost? (More than my bloody mortgage, thanks for reminding me)

• Omg you're huge
• Is it normal to be that big at 5 months?
• Can't believe the size of your boobs
• At least your legs are still skinny

Comments I hate are generally around my growing size. Was a size 8 before, probably a 10 at the moment and only going to get bigger. I'm pregnant so meant to get bigger- get over it.

'Are you sure it's just the one'
'You not had that baby yet'
'Is it a boy or a girl'

Was asked the first two on a regular basis from month 6 to birth - same person would regularly ask the first question so much so that she got a mouthful when she caught me on a bad day and avoided me like the plague until I had the baby.

I know it's because people don't always know what to say and feel they have to ask/say something - but the size question always bothered me. Yes I know I'm big - I don't need to be reminded!!!!

@Bobbiepin OMG the "was it planned" comment pisses me off so much 😂 can't believe the cheek of some people asking!

Do you know what you're having?
When are you due?

Fair questions but asked by everyone all the time

@Bobbiepin someone actually asked me if I wanted the baby seeing as I was going back to work

Why yes, I do want this baby, but I also quite like the idea of keeping a roof over our heads too. Dick!

@DobbyLovesSocks me too, I mean I'm growing a human I'm meant to be big, it would be seriously worrying if I was not!

Got a small baby. You get a whole new load of annoying comments if they cry in the street -

'Someone's tired!'
'Perhaps he's too hot'
'Maybe he's hungry'

OH REALLY those possibilities never crossed my mind

‘You can’t even tell you’re pregnant from behind’ was always a weird one...
‘Are you sure it’s not twins?!’
‘Are you sure you’ve still got two months to go?!’

• “Haven’t you two got a tv?!”
• “Have you figured out what caused it yet?”
• “Going for the full football team are you?”

Oh do fuck off
I’m pregnant with my 3rd baby, not my 13th

When on maternity leave, everyone will be desperate to know how soon you will be returning to work. And will then judge you, regardless of your plans.....

‘Wow you’re massive!’

Thank you so much! Your tact and grace are remarkable. Do have a lovely day in which you do not by any means stub your toe or drop your toast butter side down.

@Cyclemad222
I was in BHS cafe with DS aged a couple of weeks with my mum. Started getting his feed etc sorted and mum offered to feed him so I could actually have a hot drink while it was, you know, hot
Two old ladies at table near us looked over and shook their head at me when I handed mum the bottle to feed him. I felt like shouting 'it's BREASTMILK' but instead loudly said I would have to express some more if DS drank it all.
I'm pretty sure if I whipped my boob out someone else would have had something to say about this #cantwin

Aww no, I love it! But I really wanted to be pregnant so badly, I still can’t quite believe I’m lucky enough to be pregnant. Any questions, attention, fussing etc related to my bump or baby are gratefully received and lapped up lol.

What is it
What do you want
When is it due
Was it planned
How are you feeding it
Are you having any more

I think people are just trying to connect and show some interest so trot out the same old lines again and again. I had someone tell me I was massive and another tell me I was tiny on the same day. There’s really very little new anyone can say to someone who’s pregnant so I don’t judge someone for just whipping out something for the sake of it, it’s nice to me they’re showing an interest (but totally get not everyone feels that way).

@JemimaPuddlePeacock how far are you?

@Cyclemad222 but I fed it yesterday. Wait, you're meant to do it every day? Oh shit, someone should have told me that at the hospital.

With my youngest after my previous baby was premature and in neonatal for 4 weeks: "I bet you're hoping for another early one" Err NO! I don't want to go through that hell again.

"Why haven't you had that baby yet? SIL has had hers, hurry up". Maybe that's because SIL was due 3 months before me.

Logically I know everyone means well but my hormonal 35 week brain thinks otherwise 😂

It doesn't get any better when they arrive, my DD is now 4 months and I'm sick of hearing "so when are you having another" my daughter is IVF most know this but yet still ask when we're having another because obviously it's just that easy for us and we had IVF for fun, "are you feeding her yourself" I combi feed but find this question quite intrusive and feel like saying no I let her get her own tea. Now she's 4 months I also get repeatedly asked about weaning when I reply about current advice being 6 months I get various anecdotes and unsolicited advice about weaning early.

I love talking about being pregnant but one of my inlaws is obsessed with if my feet have swollen, asks all the time (they haven't) and has insisted that I'm carrying all at the front from an early stage. I actually just carried a lot of my weight on my lower stomach before pregnancy so it was all only ever fat she was pointing out.

Pet hate - Why did you choose that age gap?

(Ds is 3.5. Baby due when he's almost 4).

We didn't. It chose us. Some people aren't lucky enough to have that much control, and 3 miscarriages don't help.

SleepingStandingUp almost twenty weeks! Do you reckon I’ll be sick of it by the end? 😂

At 17 weeks pregnant, at my own birthday party I had a friend bring a date with him (who I'd never met) and on meeting me for the first time said "wow! You're only 4 months?! But you're huge! Are you sure it's not twins?!" All without a hint of irony...
Even friend, who is not the most subtle and easily offends people with his humour, said "you can't say that!"

I smiled and walked off!