The constant questions or comments that drive you mad when pregnant

[PollyRoe16]

Anyone else get so annoyed with the same questions or comments all the time whilst pregnant? (Probably partly hormones 😂)

Mine for example:

Not long to go now!
Wow you're getting big
You better get all the sleep you can now...

“Oh you’re sooo tiny, are you sure there’s s baby in there?” Ho fucking ho.
“How’s the morning sickness” (I was sick right up to the bitter end -didn’t appreciate this being subject of casual chit chat)
“Can I touch your belly?” (seems like you already are, Patricia )
“Don’t want to scare you but my baby was born at 24 weeks/my vagina exploded/I’ve never had sex again since delivery blah blah blah” (I’m just minding my own business, I don’t need or want to hear this shit)

Gosh remind me never to make polite conversation with a pregnant lady again!

Load of crabby crabs on this thread.

The "was it planned?" question almost makes my head explode. As though these people think they are entitled to know about your sex life with your husband. WTAF. My "favourite" question was asked about a week after my first was born. I went out to a cafe with my mum and my baby for the first time after birth, and we ran into a friend of my mums. She asked, "So when are you planning on the next one?" I just have birth 5 fucking seconds ago and she thinks I'm planning for another already? I just gave her my best blank look and walked away. Idiot.

"Don't go into labour on me ha ha!" I'd be worried if I did, I still have 3 months to go.

"Are you sure you have X months to go?" I'm sure that both me and the medical professionals aren't that far wrong!

Are you sure it's not twins? Unless I've seen a lot of inept MWs and sonographers, I'm pretty sure!

"What's wrong with your leg?" Nothing, I'm just pregnant. "But you're limping, what's wrong with your leg?" Nothing! I'm just waddling because I'm pregnant! (Turned out it was undiagnosed SPD, but it wasn't my leg

My bump was huge though, and all out of the front, so until quite late on, I still had a waist from behind. It was funny on a few occasions when I did turn around completely surprising someone who hadn't expected a gigantic bump based on my slimline rear view.

"You can't tell you're pregnant until you turn round" - always thought this was an odd comment.

I was fine with most of the usual chit chat because it is just making conversation. (Although I do find the “you’re massive” comments rude.)
The part that frustrated me were the constant messages from my due date asking if he’s here yet. He was 10 days late! I was enjoying myself getting the house ready and spending quality time with my elderly dog. I didn’t need the same question asked by several people every day for 10 days. Close family & friends I understand because they’re excited but acquaintances just pissed me off. Like they cared that much that I was having a baby? Very bizarre! Most of them have still never met DS and he’s over 1 year old!

I've already got a DS and I'm pregnant with girl. Every single person has said 'Oo one of each that's good'

I've had a lot of 'was it planned?' this time. It's my third baby in five years so people either assume an accident or assume that I'm desperate for a girl (I have two boys). Neither is true!

Was it planned?
Was it ivf?

Pregnant with twins conceived naturally at 41 - 100% planned

"You'll need a crane to pull you up" courtesy of mil when I was about to get up

"Was it planned?"

"Are you sure there aren't two in there?"

"Are you disappointed it's a boy? Didn't you want a girl this time?" Oh the ignorance...

Can still feel the pregnancy rage

"Are you having any others"? Jeez, let me get the first one out first!"

JemimaPuddlePeacock I really want my baby too and I'm over the moon being pregnant after 6 pregnancies but only 1 living child and being told it would be very very unlikely that I would be able to conceive any more. It doesn't mean I'm happy for people to tell me how big I look/if I'm having twins/if I'm sure I've still got X weeks left/commenting on how swollen my legs and feet are etc to the point where I've been in tears because I can't walk from one end of the building to the other without everyone who sees me commenting.

I already feel guilty for complaining about having HG even now at 35 weeks and on medication I'm still sick round the clock. And currently being kept in hospital but work still phoning me and worrying about childcare etc for my eldest.

None of the above means I am less happy about this pregnancy than you are about yours or anyone else is about theirs. I can't wait until the baby's here. That doesn't mean I have to enjoy people being nasty about my appearance.

I can't believe anyone would think it to be "polite" conversation to call someone massive/huge even if they're pregnant! Pretty sure they wouldn't like it if I did the same to them!

I bet you hope it's a girl
(After ds1, ds2 and ds3 - the 4th is a girl)

Did you keep trying till you got a girl?

Bet you're glad you can stop now!

You'll be busy/hands full etc

Do they all have the same father?
(Because no normal married couple would have 4 together )

Them : have you had much morning sickness?
Me : no
Them :

Never realise how many people wanted me to feel ill til now.

Oh, and "wait till the baby's here, you'll be fighting for survival" as though I'm giving birth to a velociraptor, not a baby.

Just this morning after telling my dad and step mum I wasn’t planning anymore after this baby was born. My dad “never say never, 3 is the perfect number of children” My step mum “I want 6 grandchildren, you can’t stop at this one” I ttc my son for over 8 years, have had a miscarriage and a recent missed miscarriage, I’m extremely grateful to have my son and to be half way through a so far healthy pregnancy. They were told nicely to learn to appreciate what they have.

None of the above means I am less happy about this pregnancy than you are about yours or anyone else is about theirs. I can't wait until the baby's here. That doesn't mean I have to enjoy people being nasty about my appearance.

I take your point, but are they being nasty? Thoughtless, sure. But nasty? Is anyone actually trying to hurt you?

"I hope you keep your teeth"
From MIL

I am going in to be induced tomorrow and have been warned I am likely in it for the long haul (up to 10 days) but all of a sudden everyone is an expert on being induced and there's no way it will take that long!!

Random people in work (not colleagues just people who happen to work in the same building iyswim):

Was it planned?

I didn't see you for a couple of weeks Did you have the baby then?

My mum:

Well, that's ridiculous! How will you get round with 3 children?

Long-standing colleague:

Well... you normally lose the baby weight quite quickly, don't you?

"do you want a boy or girl?" my answer was usually "yes!"

JemimaPuddlePeacock yes I think it's nasty to call someone massive/huge every time you see them. To look at you body and say what a shame it is for it to be ruined now since I was so slim before. To liken you to an elephant because your feet and ankles are swollen. All this and I haven't put weight on anywhere else so I can only imagine how unkind people would be if I carried differently.

@JemimaPuddlePeacock by 32 weeks yet. When you've had incessant when is it due, haven't you had it yet, oh my gosh your so big / small and then as soon as you've delivered when are you having another?

My employer: “I don’t mean to be mean, but we can’t let it affect your work and progress.”