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Do you think festival should have helped me?

258 replies

MyAppleTree · 28/07/2019 15:49

Not really a big deal, but home and musing. Went to a festival this weekend, on my own. Had an ok time.

For context my stuff was really heavy, 8 man tent huge heavy, only one I could borrow and obviously had to bring it back.

The night before I’ve left my asthma inhaler ran out, and I’ve started bleeding and cramping from a minor procedure I had done last week. I had an asthma attack about a week ago too.

Anyway the car was absolutely miles away, through mud and hills. Sincerely worried I could not physically make it. So I thought I was sensible going to camp welfare and asking if there was any way to hire a buggy to take the stuff to the car. They said no but sent me to first aid to see if I could get an inhaler to manage the asthma doing the drag.

First aid wouldn’t give me a spare inhaler unless I was having an actual attack, not just feeling wheezy. No help available obviously for the cramping as I need a gp to assess that.

So basically no help.

Now I did make it to the car. Very very breathless and in pain, car got stuck in the mud and had to be towed. Stupid gear and I fell down a few hills too!

Hence not a big deal because while breathless I have made it home (2hr drive) and have my inhalers. And yes it’s my own fault for not picking up my spare!!

So just a hypothetical really, were they unreasonable not to help me when I asked? It could have ended differently.

OP posts:
user1473878824 · 28/07/2019 15:51

I think you are being a little U but see your point.

Nautiloid · 28/07/2019 15:54

I don't think they are under any obligation to help you, but if they had the staff and the time it would have been kind. But I think you are being unreasonable, as I wouldn't expect it at a festival.

BathshebaKnickerStickers · 28/07/2019 15:54

I doubt they would have had staff to help you carry the tent.

Keep an eye out for far smaller tents during the end of summer sales.

Treaclesweet · 28/07/2019 15:55

I mean, you didn't actually end up needing help did you? Presumably if you had then it would have been provided. Literally nobody wants to cart their stuff to the car on the Monday morning. Sorry I think you are being a bit unreasonable, what did you want them to do?

IvanaPee · 28/07/2019 15:55

I think they did what they could. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Hefting tents around festivals after a procedure seems foolish but was entirely your choice.

DontFundHate · 28/07/2019 15:56

Wow surprised by the responses, I think they absolutely should have at least escorted you to the car carrying a spare inhaler in case, and really they should have helped carry your stuff. however I do think it was a silly situation to put yourself in carrying all that after a procedure. I would complain

Decormad38 · 28/07/2019 15:56

Why take an 8 man tent when going on your own? YABU. If a festival had to help carry everyone's excess baggage it wouldn't be able to run!

Princessfaffalot · 28/07/2019 15:57

Why would you go to a festival a week after an operation, no matter how minor? I think ywbu to have gone knowing you’re not fit enough.

raspberryk · 28/07/2019 15:57

You're a grown adult who should have got your shit together including a small tent and medication. You shouldn't have gone following your procedure either by the sounds if it.

BlueMoonRising · 28/07/2019 15:58

Personally I think you should have been better prepared, or chosen not to go.

The festival isn't responsible for making sure you have medications that you know you'll need and should plan ahead for. They aren't responsible for the fact you chose to take a massive heavy tent (despite knowing that you'd had a minor procedure and an asthma attack in the last week) instead of investing in a more manager one. They shouldn't provided buggies when plenty of people take wheelbarrows to transport heavy stuff when camping at a festival.

I'm not sure why they should take responsibility for any of that when you failed to!

colourlessgreenidea · 28/07/2019 15:59

my stuff was really heavy, 8 man tent huge heavy

The night before I’ve left my asthma inhaler ran out, and I’ve started bleeding and cramping from a minor procedure I had done last week. I had an asthma attack about a week ago too.

Anyway the car was absolutely miles away, through mud and hills. Sincerely worried I could not physically make it.

That’s quite a number of ill-considered decisions on your part. Confused

bumblenbean · 28/07/2019 15:59

I agree they could have been more helpful but tbh I don’t think it was the wisest move to go when you’d recently had a surgical procedure and asthma flare up Sad

MrsGrannyWeatherwax · 28/07/2019 16:01

YABU as all of that was within your control

But it might have been kind of them to give you an inhaler or a lift if they had spare vehicles/people

Hope you’re recovering

Sooverthemill · 28/07/2019 16:03

I don't think they were wrong, I think you were insane to go with no inhaler, a tent that was too heavy, a week after asthma attack and after a surgical procedure. However, you survived.

BlueCornsihPixie · 28/07/2019 16:03

I'm guessing that if you use an inhaler that's it, and they only have limited inhalers, so save them for an attack.

I think really whilst they could have helped you they weren't obliged too.

It was you who chose to bring a load of heavy stuff, they can't really employ people just to carry people excessive stuff

Areyoufree · 28/07/2019 16:04

Personally I think you should have been better prepared, or chosen not to go.

Well, yes. Hindsight's a wonderful thing! At the same time, you don't mess around with asthma. Sure, they're not responsible for the OP, but at the same time, they're also not responsible for all of the people who drink too much, or take drugs. But they will still provide support for them. I don't think you're being completely unreasonable - glad you made it back safely, OP.

WindsweptEgret · 28/07/2019 16:05

You could have bought a small tent, if you couldn't afford one then maybe you couldn't really afford to go. You could have sorted your inhaler in advance. I don't think the festival are responsible for your poor decisions.

Hedgehogblues · 28/07/2019 16:06

You should have taken a spare inhaler and a lighter tent

Babymamamama · 28/07/2019 16:06

All the facts were known to you before you set off: you are asthmatic needing medication m, recovering from an op, bringing a tent far too huge for your needs. On that basis YABVU to expect anyone to assist you. You didn’t have an episode requiring assistance. The transportation of your stuff is your responsibility.

FunkySnidge · 28/07/2019 16:06

The issues here were your inappropriate tent and your failure to bring your medicine. Your problems were not accidents or unforeseen!
If you collapsed from your self inflicted predicament you would have real wives excellent medical attention I am sure!

FunkySnidge · 28/07/2019 16:07

Received not real wives lol

fedup21 · 28/07/2019 16:07

Why did you need an 8 man tent just for you?!

It sounds, based on your posts, like it wasn’t a good idea for you to go, but you went anyway and now want to blame other people for not leaping to your defence and sorting out your self-made mess.

Shoxfordian · 28/07/2019 16:07

Yabu for not making better decisions and expecting them to look after you

Chocolatelover45 · 28/07/2019 16:10

I think you need to take responsibility for your own actions. If you actually were in desperate need (having asthma attack for example) they should help, but if struggling a bit due to lack of planning, then that's not their problem.
Most people would not have put themselves in this situation

DDIJ · 28/07/2019 16:14

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