To be fuming sleeping on the sofa 33 weeks pregnant?

[Sophie0983]

As in title. Partner had beer in bed which sent him nicely to sleep. I tried to fall asleep before him anticipating his snoring and succeeded. He is now snoring so loudly he has woken me up. I tried to sleep with relaxing music on through my head phones but could still hear him. I asked him to roll over to help him stop snoring and he ignored me. I’ve now stormed off to sleep on the sofa and obviously NOT happy to be doing this heavily pregnant with heartburn and just generally so uncomfortable. He asked where I wasn’t going and I said to the sofa so I can sleep because he’s so loud and he said something along the lines of thanks for waking me up !!! So pissed off !!!!!! Aibu?

Oh that is shit but it did make me laugh a bit. I'm 35+4 and my husband snores every night! I kick him or push him on his side. if I were you I'd have woken him to ásk him to sleep on the sofa!
Sympathies

@whisky2014 I’ll probably laugh in the morning but certainly can’t now !!! I’d have no chance asking him to sleep here. I am sooooo full of rage

Ha, Whiskey, you beat me to it. You don't ask a drunken (or not) snorer to roll over, you use both feet. Especially at 33 weeks pregnant when you couldn't enjoy a beer on a hot evening.

You definitely have my sympathies, Sophie. YADNBU

If that is his normal sleep pattern he should be heading off to the GP for a referral to a sleep clinic. People with loud snoring can have sleep apnoea which is a deadly condition. He can be treated which would stop the snoring AND make him healthier.

The idea that your DH drinks beer in bed just makes me cringe !

I know, it is so frustrating. Just try to read for a little bit and hopefully your eyes become tired. I'd be making sure he treats you to bed and breakfast in a few hours!!

He had BEER IN BED??

That's gross. As SeaEagle says, it's cringey and awful.

I think I'd have a massive problem with that alone! Never mind his refusing to turn over.

What’s the issue with beer in bed?

SoMuch It's slatternly and gross. Who drinks beer in bed? Sit in the sitting room like a normal person. Beds are for sex and sleeping.

Not slurping beer. Yuk!

Did he brush his teeth after drinking the beer in bed. Beer breath smells vile. But back to the subject of snoring. I spent 28 years getting up in the night to sleep in the spare room because my ex snores so loudly. It feels like they are doing it on purpose and I often fantasied about putting a pillow on his head to drown out the sound. The rage you get is immense so I sympathise

My ex snored like that. Thankfully he never got me pregnant but there were a lot of nights I got up and slept in the spare room. We once had friends over to stop the night; ex went to bed about 1am whilst we were all still up. He started snoring about 15 mins later. It was noticeably loud through two closed doors and one floor down. Friends were like "Does he do this every night?" Me: "Yep, hence the enormous bags under my eyes."

I eventually managed to drag him to the GP (I had to make the appointment myself and accompany him after the first two appointments got cancelled as he "didn't have time" had time to download and watch Desperate Housewives while supposedly working from home though )

He was assessed for sleep apnoea, diagnosed very quickly with it and given a CPAP machine. Was told he was very high risk due to certain factors (overweight, smoker, of african descent, family history of high blood pressure) and this could cause a stroke or heart attack if left unchecked.

We split up about 2 months later. I realised he hadn't taken his CPAP machine with him (because I found it under the bed when I packed all my stuff up.) Apparently he didn't want to "look like a cripple" in front of his new GF 🙄

A month after that he had a heart attack and wound up in hospital for 6 weeks. Read into that what you like.

Heartburn is the worst thing ever, that used to keep me up all night regardless. Try some herbal tea.

I slept on the couch when heavily pregnant so I was upright, it helped with heartburn. You will probably laugh in the morning.

He sounds like a selfish git, pregnant or not, he’s not kind. And beer in bed sounds foul.

Beer in bed reminds me of Onslow from keeping up appearances. I hope he doesn’t wear a strong vest as well op

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You are making the choice to be a martyr here and I strongly suggest you woman up and stop it. With a baby on the way you need to be clear about what’s acceptable and what support you need, and if that means he sleeps on the sofa then so be it. Don’t be a wimp: for your own health you need to be assertive.

I'm pregnant and DP had a beer this evening, he jumped into bed and I could smell his beer breath.

Part of my brain went "ugh beer breath, did he not brush his teeth?"

Then my pregnancy brain went "oooo I love your beer breath" takes long, deep sniff

It's slatternly and gross. Who drinks beer in bed? Sit in the sitting room like a normal person. Beds are for sex and sleeping.

Beer in the sitting room?

Slatternly and gross. What is acceptable to drink in bed then? Maybe he was winding down reading or watching tv and had a drink whilst doing so. OP did say a beer not a full on session.

I’m in similar situation and I’m fucking fuming.
DH went out last night and fell asleep on sofa, that’s fine, his shout. Then he woke at 5.45am, thought it would be a good idea to get 4yr old Dd out her bed, and bring her into our bed. Except there was no way she was going back to sleep, our bed isn’t big enough for three and I’m 38+4weeks pregnant. Getting kicked in the back by a four year old isn’t fun.
I got up to sleep on sofa, but I was too bloody annoyed to didn’t sleep. Neither did DD.
DH is bloody asleep though. Selfish git.
I’m absolutely stewing

Just roll him over? He isn't snoring on purpose, as rage inducing as it is. I used to snore when pregnant so guessing maybe he had beer to help him dose off first haha. Men are sometimes quite black and white to be honest, you said you were going on the sofa be probably very wrongly assumed you were happy with this.

Ex snored like that for ages. When I finally convinced him to see a doctor he was diagnosed with severe sleep apnea and has a CPAP machine. He could have caused himself brain damage, or had a stroke.

Officially been up all night! Been to the shops to get bread and milk etc to kill time. Partner had asthma attack about 5am and asked why I didn’t help him. I didn’t know tbf just sounded like coughing to me and I knew his inhaler was in the bed. When I went out he said to get back into bed and I said I can’t with you in it being so loud.

As for the beer it was his second of the night and just to chill out after a long day at work, reasonable I think ?! Possibly slovenly to have it in bed and the smell does make me feel sick but I’m not that bothered.

I’m still pissed off as he won’t wake up until 11am/12pm now unless I wake him and ask to have the bed to myself for a few hours. Would that be really mean? I feel bad about his asthma but still so pissed off as haven’t slept a wink.

It'll only be a gadzillion times worse once baby is here. If he's already getting arsey with you for waking him up now, what's he going to be like once the baby starts doing it every hour/two hours?

Sounds terrible. I would sort out water tight contraception after this baby!