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An honest mistake...

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PriestessModwena · 27/07/2019 10:00

I really need cheering up!

The boys have gone away this weekend, I get random lyrics in my head, I was thinking about 'You're my best friend' by Queen. I sent it to my OH half saying this is perfect for his best mate who was with him & himself.

(Don't start sipping your morning coffee after this bit or you might choke!)

I text a few times to see if they'd gone to bed, as was meant to get a call. I got that call, it didn't help I'm a cup half full type of person. So as he was going on about how horrid I was for sending it, no matter how much I protested I thought it was a sweet song about best friends, when he quoted various lyrics, I couldn't stop laughing. My OH thinks I'm actually evil.

So I wondered what have other people done as a wholly innocent mistake that went very very wrong.

No texts this morning or phonecalls, tried to call but got through to answer machine. I've got a feeling I'm definitely not in good books still.

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bookishtartlet · 27/07/2019 14:11

Can you talk us through the conversation? Is he regularly an arsehole for no reason? I send stupid random lines to my husband all the time, and usually get an equally silly reply. I don't think this sounds healthy. How are things otherwise?

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PriestessModwena · 27/07/2019 14:14

Literally put, had this song in my head, it's perfect for 'friends name' and yourself. (Thinking oh it's a song about best friends, they've been friends 40 years, trying to be thoughtful.)

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PriestessModwena · 27/07/2019 14:26

Sorry didn't see last post.

As he left here he said will call you before bed. So I text as it was late, totally randomly, thinking he would like it as he loves music.

I guess it was shock really that made me find it funny, as I can see I made a mistake, the reaction wasn't what I expected. I'm not a vindictive person, nor do I stop him from going out, text frequently. Plus when I haven't text in the past, it's been queried.

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PatriciaHolm · 27/07/2019 14:29

TBH it sounds like this is just a drop in the ocean - he shouldn't be making you feel this bad about what was a daft mistake; and why does he query it when you don't text? Not sounding good at all....

haggistramp · 27/07/2019 14:34

I understand you op. I think it's quite funny. I listen to that song a lot, never actually clicked it meant romantic love 🤣 I thought the same as you, it was about friendship.

SavingSpaces2019 · 27/07/2019 14:37

doesn't sound 'thoughtful' to me.
It actually comes across as passive aggressive taking the piss because he's gone out with his mate.

I text a few times to see if they'd gone to bed, as was meant to get a call. I got that call, it didn't help I'm a cup half full type of person
Then you start harassing him?

It's obvious you're secretly pissed off/resentful about him going away and you're determined not to let him enjoy it.

bookishtartlet · 27/07/2019 14:39

What did say back to you though? Why would he make you feel bad about something so trivial? Does he do that a lot? You've said you're worried you're still in his bad books which suggests you've done other stuff that he gets upset over.

TwistyTop · 27/07/2019 14:56

If he's off on a jolly with his best friend then maybe he got really pissed last night and is now sleeping off a hangover, rather than ignoring you. I can't really see why he'd give you the silent treatment for sending some song lyrics as a joke? If it turns out that he is annoyed with over this then tell him to get a fucking grip.

steff13 · 27/07/2019 14:58

Literally put, had this song in my head, it's perfect for 'friends name' and yourself.

I get that you didn't know the lyrics, but to someone who does know the lyrics, this implies that he and his friend are more than friends. From that point of view it seems quite passive aggressive. I think you need to wait until he gets home and talk about it. Even if you've explained, that could be seen as backpedaling. As you said, Queen is your favorite band, it's reasonable for him to think you did know the lyrics to the song, and that it was about a couple.

ysmaem · 27/07/2019 14:59

OP sent lyrics from a song she believed to be about friendship to her OH to commemorate his friendship with another guy
OP was unaware said song was a song about romantic feelings between 2 men
He went mad at OP for implying they had romantic feelings
OP found her genuine mistake hilarious which wound up her OH even more.
Did I get it right? I wont lie the post is a bit scatty but I just don't get why he got so offended tbh. Bit pathetic.

Lovemenorca · 27/07/2019 15:00

Choke on my coffee

More like quizzical eye brow raise re what the heck you’re going on about

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 27/07/2019 15:13

It's definitely a song about lovers being best friends as well. It even refers to the subject of the song as 'Girl', which, with Freddie singing it, possibly raises more puzzles than it answers, though....

It's nowhere near as explicit (i.e. crystal-clear, not rude), but I think the sentiment is very similar to that of the Don Williams song of the same name, clearly written about his wife.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 27/07/2019 15:17

It is very much one of those songs where the title doesn't give away the whole story. As has been mentioned in other threads about misunderstood threads, it's like people who have Every Breath You Take as their first dance at their weddings. They think it means 'we're so close to each other as we're so very much in love' when it's clearly much more 'I'm stalking you - get in the back of the van, love!'

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 27/07/2019 15:18

other threads about misunderstood threads

other threads about misunderstood SONGS, that should be.

SavingSpaces2019 · 27/07/2019 16:05

OP sent lyrics from a song she believed to be about friendship to her OH to commemorate his friendship with another guy
'Commemorate'???? Grin Grin Grin
Isn't HE doing that already with the trip away with his best mate?
Why does it even need to be a 'thing' which needs congratulating/commemorating?

thetimekeeper · 27/07/2019 16:47

Plus when I haven't text in the past, it's been queried.

How so?

AnyFucker · 27/07/2019 16:52

Do you always communicate with your partner via the medium of song lyrics ?

It's not working. Try mime. Or semaphore ?

Boyskeepswinging · 27/07/2019 16:59

I thought Freddie wrote the song for his long term friend/lover Mary Austin? I thought it was commonly understood that Freddie was bisexual?

PatricksRum · 27/07/2019 17:40

I thought Freddie wrote the song for his long term friend/lover Mary Austin?

He didn't write it.

Boyskeepswinging · 27/07/2019 17:47

Sorry, my bad. Every day is a school day on MN. All these years I thought he was singing about Mary ...

MatildaTheCat · 27/07/2019 17:56

Queen ...a flash in the pan

Absolutely, Freddie Mercury, one of the all time great performers, just a flash in the pan. Hmm

OP. I’m surprised nobody has said this so: LTB.

Animum2 · 27/07/2019 18:10

John deacon wrote the song for his wife

Mumsymumphy · 27/07/2019 18:24

Coulda been worse - you could have texted the lyrics to 'It's raining men' by Gloria Gaynor

ClownOnCruise · 27/07/2019 18:49

I thought Freddie wrote it for his ex girlfriend too! I love that song.

Animum2 · 27/07/2019 19:17

Freddie wrote Love of my life for his ex gr8, John wrote your my best friend for his wife

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