An honest mistake...

[PriestessModwena]

I really need cheering up!

The boys have gone away this weekend, I get random lyrics in my head, I was thinking about 'You're my best friend' by Queen. I sent it to my OH half saying this is perfect for his best mate who was with him & himself.

(Don't start sipping your morning coffee after this bit or you might choke!)

I text a few times to see if they'd gone to bed, as was meant to get a call. I got that call, it didn't help I'm a cup half full type of person. So as he was going on about how horrid I was for sending it, no matter how much I protested I thought it was a sweet song about best friends, when he quoted various lyrics, I couldn't stop laughing. My OH thinks I'm actually evil.

So I wondered what have other people done as a wholly innocent mistake that went very very wrong.

No texts this morning or phonecalls, tried to call but got through to answer machine. I've got a feeling I'm definitely not in good books still.

I think it's perfectly clear what the OP is saying...and you're all being very disingenuous in your mock-protests!

She says very clearly that she made a genuine error when she got the lyrics to the song 'You're my best friend' in her head' and casually texted her husband mentioning that this would be a good song for him and HIS BEST FRIEND! Because, you know...he's away with his bestie! No biggie! She didn't send the whole sheet of lyrics...just somehow the song popped up in her head! The actual words probably didn't even filter...I know I'm shit at song words and wouldn't have noticed the context at all to be fair. It was a sweet gesture ('you're my best friend' that backfired because her husband got the hump (timing...he was tired probably?). Nobody to blame 🤷‍♀️.

OP...you misfired here...I'd have 'got it' though, and found it funny and sweet...and then laughed about the unfortunate 'context' 😂

^^ and if you believe that you’ll believe anything

It’s a really weird thing to do though

So, were you making a bit of a passive aggressive dig at there being more to this friendship because you were feeling a bit sad/lonely/left out?

Actually a PP may have a point. OP does describe them as "boys" so they may well be 12, 13 at a push.

You thought people would choke on their coffee at this?

i cant find words for this one really

You really don’t need to feel panicked at this. If he’s going to be a dick about a very minor mistake like that to the point where it becomes a really big deal and you’re worried and upset over what is essentially a complete non-issue, I’d suggest you might need to evaluate whether this is a good relationship.

If he’s going to be a dick about a very minor mistake... but it might not be an isolated incident.

True. But it’s the OP we’re talking to, not the other party, so I’m going by what she says and taking it at face value.

I think you're right Nink but what she's saying doesn't make much sense.

The gist is, I was trying to be nice, failed, really really failed.

Don't be daft, OP. This is amusing, not the stuff of a proper row.

When your OH gets back from the weekend in Paris, you can make it up to him with a take away and a romantic movie. May I recommend Brokeback Mountain?

I'm grateful a minority get it.

Totally isolated, one off incident, we both love music, I really hope he has a great time, I got some garbled lyrics in my head. Sent a random text checking everything was ok, mentioned song as I found out what it was. Nothing untoward intended, he's a grown man, he can do what he wants.

Apologies again for the incoherence.

Aw OP So what did you get wrong??

Both coffee and cornflakes all over my phone.
Thanks for the warning OP but I was beside myself.

@Lilyofthefields It's weird as now I think about it, the reaction I got was a bit OTT. I should possibly have listened to it properly, at the same time I spent 25 years singing one line of a song from a band I adore, I had it totally wrong. I'm not infallible after all. People get things wrong.

OK it was an exaggeration about it being funny, I don't really know why I found it amusing, I guess because I think I'm a total idiot, it was a really stupid mistake.

Nope, still don't have the foggiest what this is all about.

I don't understand how he could be upset with you about this? for you though cos you seem quite upset?

Queen are a shit band tho so YABU for that.

@northernknickers thank you for explaining, l didn't get it. His reaction is a bit ott though.

Easy mistake OP. I think he is way overreacting.

Send him this and tell him you mixed up your Queen friend songs

Friends will be friends
When you're in need of love they give you care and attention
Friends will be friends
When you're through with life and all hope is lost
Hold out your hand
'Cause friends will be friends
Right 'til the end

I’m confused why you need to be txting him to check everything is ok and if they’ve gone to bed and waiting for a good night call.

He’s away with his friends, can’t you leave him to it for the evening? . Then you text him a song which is clearly about more that just friends .

Queen are a shit band tho so YABU for that.

Yeah, flash in the pan. Everyone will be “Queen who?” this time next year.

When you said 'the boys', I assumed your dh had taken your sons away. I didn't realise 'the boys' meant him and his mate.

I too was confused. Glad a pp cleared it up.

The words mountain and molehill spring to mind.

Yabu for calling them 'the boys'. Leave it till he gets home, let him clarify the issue and maintain that from your side it was a innocent joke.

Aside from the implication that they're having a sexual or non-platonic relationship there is literally nothing 'evil' in that song so I've not the foggiest idea what you can have put that would be misconstrued like that