Petty things you still can't forgive people for

[Milkbath]

I have two

First one is my SIL (husband's sister)
She means well, but we're very different people, and she can be brash and overbearing. We're constantly working on maintaining boundaries for her, as otherwise she'd stamp all over them.

When I had my baby, she arrived unannounced a few days after we came home. This coincided with the community midwife visiting, and instead of making her excuses and leaving, SIL sat there and listened as the midwife asked me all the usual questions, some of which were extremely personal. Meanwhile SIL's toddler DC was trashing the house. In hindsight I wish I'd said something, but I was so weak and exhausted. The midwife should have as well, she kept glancing over at sil with that sort of expectant "time to fuck off now" look but sil has the hide of a rhino. Midwife was younger than I was at the time and I think she was a bit intimidated too. Even sometimes now I think back to it and it infuriates me!

@ForalltheSaints...did you ever taste the awful lukewarm milk? Mrs Thatcher did many things to enrage me, but seriously this was one of her better decisions! We would hide in the loos to avoid the stuff.

In year 4 of primary school the mother of a classmate was listening to me read aloud. I read the sentence "the policeman pursued the robbers across the moor" (or v similar) and she "corrected" me to "persuade". I was quite a shy child, but I argued this one, because it didn't make sense! She was adamant that the sentence was "the policeman persuade the robbers across the moor". I went back to the classroom in a massive huff and when I told the teacher why, she bloody agreed with her. I am still livid to this day, as I was definitely right!

I didn’t circumcise my DS in the face of massive daily pressure from DH’s family. They were all shit to me for ages about it but his aunt especially, who is a counsellor and works with children, demanded to know why I wasn’t doing it. I said it was his penis not mine and he can choose what to do with it when he has the ability to make an informed choice and give consent. She said “well it’ll be too late then” and got very angry at me at a party at her house when he was very tiny and I shouldn’t even have been out.

She now calls circumcision child abuse because she’s been on a few more courses. She’s “woke”/a hypocritical, pressuring, emotionally blackmailing bastard who shouldn’t be allowed near kids because her attitude is toxic.

So fuck you, I don’t tell you what to do with your vag so don’t tell me what to do with my sons penis.

Our brownie pack had a new helper and we were told to find a name for her as we already had a Snowy Owl, Brown Owl and Tawny Owl. I was a very pedantic child so pored over my df's bird books and settled on one which resembled the helper.
I got slung out of the brownies at 7 years old for suggesting Longeared Owl.
She DID have long ears and I'm still raging.
Stupid brownies and their stupid toadstool 🤬

@ForalltheSaints you're not the only one who hasn't forgotten. I went to a fancy dress party dressed as Thatcher a few years ago and a man driving past in a car absolutely roared "Oy, milk snatcher!!!" out the window at me

My son was 18 months old when he started fitting. We were terrified and rushed him to the nearest hospital. I was beside myself as I rushed into A&E with him. The nurse looked at me and him and said in a very condescending manner "have you never seen a febrile convulsion before?" Well, no, of course I fucking haven't and I thought my son was fucking dying. Of course at the time I was just relieved he was ok but was soon seething at the bloody attitude of the nurse. 26 years ago.

My niece came to see me after I had my first DD by emergency c section. I'd had preaclampsia and was swollen up like a sausage....it had gone down a lot but she walked in, took one look at me and said "you still look pregnant"

I was so upset. Never showed it though. She was in her 20s and should have known better.

Always wanted to be a bridesmad and was sure my chance had come when my DS announced her engagement. She told me in front of a group of mutual friends that she had chosen her bf and future sil to be bridesmaids. Said, you probably wouldn’t want to be a BM and for the sake of my dignity I laughed and said she was right. Spent the entire wedding day deflecting questions from family as to why I wasn’t BM, mortifying.

It really made me question our whole relationship and upset me for an embarrassingly long time. I’ve kept my distance but remain cordial at family’s events. This happened years and years ago and I’m sure I’ll get eventually. 😆

Some of these are mental!

I have to many things to mention but one I've never forgiven 9 years ago we were living with ILs. Baby had woken early had feed and gone back to sleep.

MIL came into our room and lifted him "to give him breakfast" actually she wanted to show him to her pal who was visiting.

Sorry but you dont lift and sleeping baby. And nor do you enter somebody else's bedroom.

My mum got extremely drunk at a party and blamed me for "stressing her out".

Ooh. This is the perfect thread for me right now, as my period is due and I have the hormone-induced rage! Feeling proper angry for lots of you! 😁
My own, very petty additions to the thread, are that the bus I had run to catch was early, so I missed it and now have to walk instead! Stupid bus. 😡
Also, my employers, who I'm currently in the process of cutting down my hours with, have asked me to work the exact days I said I could do, when in my head - so completely unbeknownst to them - I'd decided I only wanted to work one of those days !
Lastly, and slightly less petty-ly (too grumpy to think of the correct word) my good friend, who I've spent months and months working through a personal crisis with, couldn't have been less interested when I was talking through a current dilemma I'm in. Grrr!
Wow. That felt good to get that out and I'm sure I will actually get over these things once the hormones die down (except the friend thing might smart for a bit).

Amortentia that happened to me! My very best friend of YEARS chose an utter cow to be her maid of honour.

She had two little girls as BM and this woman who'd been a bitch to her as MOH.

I was so upset. I realise now...10 years down the line, that she thought I'd overshadow her. She always complained my figure was better than hers and that I was prettier.

At the time I didn't see it but I'm getting older and not-so-pretty now and she was RIGHT.

Doesn't make me feel better though.

The place were unused to work for not sending me the usual hamper when I gave birth to ds. Everyone got this and I even had £2 a month taken out of my wages to go into a kitty but my boss hated me so I got nothing. Also I got a really cheap bunch of flowers presented to me by him while at the same time my other colleague who had been there less time then me got given a beautiful expensive bunch. I took great delight in throwing the cheap bunch in the canal on the way home.

Another boss telling me I should have worn a thicker pad after I had to go home after starting to to have a misscarrage (I have had some lovely bosses) this one was a bitch to everyone not just me.

My SIL when she put up over 100 photos for FILs 60th birthday and I was not on any of them. I had been with DH for 7 years at that point and there were even pictures of our wedding included (just none with me on)

My MIL when DH gave up his season ticket when DS was born to spent more time with us (his decision) accused me of making him give it up and I should have realised when I married DH that football comes first in this family!!!! Lucky DH does not have the same opinion

My in-laws making up lies when DH and I went through a bad patch about me and my mum to try and drive the final nail in

The paramedic who said he could smell alcohol on my breath after I had a seizure in front of my then boss (lucky this boss was a nice one and had a go at him knowing I would never drink at work). Despite this I made the hospital give me a blood test to prove I had no alcohol in my system

My brother just before his wedding-
I was 11 and had a diseased kidney and had been in and out of hospital for a year whenever the pain flared as it was so bad it made me scream and vomit and I had to be given morphine.
Doctors had tried to save it but I ended up having to have it out three weeks before his wedding as an emergency op in the end. I had also been re admitted twice since the operation due to complications with the surgical wound and had to be put on intravenous antibiotics.

During those 3 weeks I had lost almost 2 stone in weight due to almost constant vomiting and my mum has decided I was not strong enough to be a bridesmaid.

I thought my brother was ok with this until he took me aside and said I better not ruin his wedding with one of my “illness episodes” and I had already ruined the photos that would be taken of the wedding party as there would now be more groomsmen than bridesmaids.

He apologises after the wedding blaming stress but I have never been able to forgive him

I will never forgive @Blueoasis because I haven't had chance to see the new Avengers movie and now I don't need to 😡🙄

We went out for a meal with my great aunt and uncle when kids were around 5, 4 and 3.

When it came to coffee time two of the adults gave the little biscuit to my nephew and niece. Uncle took his biscuit and gave it to my niece despite her already having one saying he liked this child the best leaving me to deal with a 4 year old DD who was really upset at not getting a biscuit when her cousin got two.

The old sod is dead now and it still pisses me off.

@ispepsiok that's your own fault, that films been out ages and was released twice. Should have seen it if you were that desperate 😂

My English teacher made me write a stupid essay as a punishment for something, I can't remember what. I was a bit of a stickler for rules so it can't have been serious. Anyway, the story was Christmas themed and I wrote about the snowman's tree having baubles. The teacher put a line through it and wrote above it "bobbles". I am still not over that, 33 years on...

DSis and I both had dc going to the same primary school. I donated a lot of craft stuff we had stored in plastic crates to the school, as DS isn't into crafting and I thought school would get more use of them in their craft activities. A while later, DSis told me, "Oh, I've got a card for you" - it turned out the school staff thought it was she who'd donated that hundred quid's worth of materials so did a thank you card especially for her. I'm annoyed that she didn't want to tell them it was my donation not hers. I know it matters not in the grand scheme of things, but SHE TOOK MY CREDIT grrrr

DM (who is not short of a bob or two) mentioned going to a concert next May, asked if I would like to go and she would get me a ticket. I said yes that would be nice, it's not really my sort of thing but it's a free night out.
Little did I know it would be my birthday present. Petty I know, but I would have said no if I knew it meant I would miss out on a birthday present.

I've been enjoying reading these, however I am now consumed with fury for all of you

Yeah my BF chose someone else to be her BM. They had a massive falling out because BF turned in to a total bridezilla and I spent the day curling her hair while her BM chain smoked. She said she would have picked me but I’d moved too far away.

On a very petty note, I said I would help a friend with the kids who had just had a baby and was struggling, while she got a few hours sleep. When I got to her house, she’d gone out and her mum was there, already helping out with the baby. Her mum looked at me like I was mad. I’d left my own kids to do that. I vowed to never help her out ever again, I found out she actually has an abundance of help.

The absolute arse of a primary supply teacher who made a derogatory and sarky comment about lesbians to a 8 year old me. It was coming up to Christmas and we were told to make a Christmas card. I drew one of Jesus in the manger with lots of female angels surrounding them in the sky. All good. I was so proud of it! It took me ages and I thought it was really good. It comes time for the class to show our work to both the normal teacher and this supply teacher come to think of it why was he even there. He takes one look at mine and says nastily 'are you a lesbian or something? Why are they all female'. Everybody laughed including the normal teacher. I didn't even know what a lesbian was. This was before the time of lgbtq pride and children often brandished the word gay as an insult.
I truly hope he never qualified as a teacher. Vile nasty man that he was!

My eldest brother drew glasses and a beard on my Tiny Tears doll AND used my dolls pram as a go kart and wrecked it.
For over 50 years i've never forgiven him. The wound is too big and the scar too deep. The bastard 😭

I went into work when my DS was a few weeks old to show him off to my workmates who I got on really well with. My manager (who before I had gotten pregnant was also a good friend but that's a whole other story) walked in, took one look at me and my son and then walked to her desk and totally ignored us. That's when I knew she could fuck off. Luckily I didn't go back to that workplace after maternity as I got a new job so didn't have to spend any more time with the miserable woman!

I'm annoyed at a few previous bosses . The one that's quite petty is my ex boss asked me to to sort out old paperwork that had been archived . A lot of it was stored away in warehouse and was filthy. I sorted it all out and arranged for shred it to come in and shred the very old documents. Anyway MD came in while shred it were there and said to my boss well done for sorting this my boss just stood there all smug taking the credit , I was speechless and raging . I could believe he would take credit for my hard work it really pissed me off and I'm still seething now .