To not tell ex-husband name of hotel?

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I'm takinh the children abroad for a holiday with my new husband and his children.

Very briefly ex is an ex-prisoner still on probation; abusive marriage; police harassment warning against him and now a civil restraining order in place. Court has ordered a dedicated email account for comms re practical child arrangements only.

He has asked for flight numbers and hotel name for holiday. In any normal circs I'd consider this reasonable. I've provided flight times.

However my concern is that if I give hotel name he will research it, probably contact the hotel, trawl social media to try spy on us.

He's also demanded the children take their ipads to "maintain contact". We are having a screen-free holiday. And i don't want him seeing into our hotel rooms etc.

Aibu??

When you return, I suggest you check the terms of the Court’s orders about his taking the children abroad on holiday at a future date.

Who holds the children’s passports - obviously you at the moment - & how do separated/divorced parents manage the children’s passports between them?

In this situation, would the Court expect you two to have the same arrangements? Or would the varying legal restraints on him prohibit him from holding their passports?

Find out before he does.

Soz, not when you return...somehow I thought you were almost there (!).

The heat frites my circuits.

Find out soonest about the kids’s new passports so you are prepared in case he demands them anytime soon.