To be annoyed at plans cancelled last minute

[FutureMrsC]

Maybe an obvious one. Apologies.
For context me and dp don't live together, 1 DC each.
Dp said he would come round in the morning (my day off) I agreed and said I would let him know when I'm awake.
I text to say I was awake. Few hours later he replied and said hell be round in an hour or two.
Just before the hour I rang (he didn't answer) i assumed he was drivinh, I was going to suggest we go out with kids my treat. I rang again an hour later (the 2hr mark that he'd said) again, no reply. I sent a text asking if he was ok. Still no reply.
2.5hrs later he replied with '"yes. My phone is on silent".so I rang back. No answer. Text again. No answer.
An hour after this he text to say he's not going to come as its getting late and DC being difficult. I just though ok then, rang to ask. Again no response back.
Aibu? Could he not have text me a lot earlier to say he was cancelling? As appose to cancelling hours after the agreed meetbup time?!

I think you’re kids with need a lot of therapy when they grow up.
Disgusting. Your poor kids.

Your*

Sorry that was supposed to say we separated but have got back together having some time apart. I'm not in the catergory of you mumsnetters who don't work and have all the money in the world. We private rent, not married so we split and went separate ways. We rekindled but not have enough money between us for a deposit on rental property. You don't know me, my dp or our DC. You don't know about DC additional needs and frankly I don't need to go into it either. Parents know what's best. Not strangers the otherwise of a screen!!!

I work
You are in denial if you think this does not affect your kids.

Well, don't ask for advice on here, then.

Hm-hm.

Some points to take on board:
Happy children. Additional needs. One on one. Family time. Separated couple. Loving parents. Low income from jobs. Currently staying with family. Families are not bloody millionaires. Family (mum dad DC) contact every day. Support from other family. Children attend childcare.

Children see each other 3-4 times a week. (Sometimes siblings in same house won't see each other much due to childcare, sleep patterns, extra curriculum)

You've said you private rent. Then you said you don't private rent and you live with family. Wtf?!

People can only go on the info you give and until now what you said didn't sound good unfortunately. So are you trying to save to get back into one house so the kids can be together? Understand sometimes kids have to have 1 on 1 parenting and not possible to have both, it's just so detrimental for siblings to be separated long term even with additional needs is all people are trying to say. I'm sure you're doing everything you can OP just make sure you are fighting in the right direction and for your kids not your partner.

In answer to your question it was shit of your OP and you need to say something as clearly this is long term and you arent walking away.

Takes less than 10 seconds to text, it’s just rude and disrespectful not to let you know.

This is the strangest thread I've seen on mumsnet so far, and I've been a lurker for about 4 years!

Sometimes siblings in same house won't see each other much due to childcare, sleep patterns, extra curriculum

Really? Not the siblings I know...

So you don't like assumptions being made about you but are happy to say that on MN none of us need to work? I definitely do and I'm willing to bet the majority of people on this thread do.

Poor kids.

We WERE privately renting before splitting and having to live with family. Yes of course the aim is to save and live back together as a family.

Did you choose to split the children up when you separated or when you got back together?

I cannot imagine ever being in a position where I split 2 siblings like that. It’s beyond unfair. Poor kids.

Yes of course the aim is to save and live back together as a family

Well, double dipping into the benefits pool will certainly help with that

I’m assuming you feel judged ? Since you’re throwing out judgy comments yourself.

You’ve posted in AIBU and drip fed information which honestly doesn’t come across very well.

You say mums know best, but do you think separating the children is really best? Or just currently (felt to be) unavoidable due to whatever situation you’re in now.

Most people wouldn’t think separating children is the best option, unsure regarding what situations it is in the best interest of a child. Perhaps a violent aggressive sibling then separating might be needed. And it’s fairly similar theme to a film or two.

The additional needs could make a difference I suppose.