To be annoyed at plans cancelled last minute

[FutureMrsC]

Maybe an obvious one. Apologies.
For context me and dp don't live together, 1 DC each.
Dp said he would come round in the morning (my day off) I agreed and said I would let him know when I'm awake.
I text to say I was awake. Few hours later he replied and said hell be round in an hour or two.
Just before the hour I rang (he didn't answer) i assumed he was drivinh, I was going to suggest we go out with kids my treat. I rang again an hour later (the 2hr mark that he'd said) again, no reply. I sent a text asking if he was ok. Still no reply.
2.5hrs later he replied with '"yes. My phone is on silent".so I rang back. No answer. Text again. No answer.
An hour after this he text to say he's not going to come as its getting late and DC being difficult. I just though ok then, rang to ask. Again no response back.
Aibu? Could he not have text me a lot earlier to say he was cancelling? As appose to cancelling hours after the agreed meetbup time?!

Oh now I get it, you did it to swindle more benefits out of the system, is that it?

This thread is vile. You've got bigger issues than just having an odd relationship. Benefit fraud is not worth splitting your family up.

Are you the poster who split the kids up because you got back with an ex?

What the fuck?? Did ye put names in a hat to see who got what child? I clicked yanbu but if I could I'd change it to option 3: "This is so fucking weird, I can't wrap my head around it enough to vote"

Voted YANBU without reading through. YABU. So sad for your kids if this is true 😢

Bloody hell

MN bingo. I spotted the benefit fraud too 🤷

Maybe if you lived together as a family instead of splitting up for the sake of a bigger house and more money from the taxpayer, you wouldn't have to make plans to see each other and would solve your original question

How extraordinarily odd. I would be fuming that I'd wasted the day. Next time, just go out without him. And your other DC. #weirdest setup ever.

I feel so sorry for those kids to have to put up with such crap parents.

OP is never coming back after that!

How strange. You could have left that bit out but you wanted people to know. Why?

Wtaf??

The actual fucking fuck??

I used to work in benefit fraud. This happens alot. 2 council properties. Two lots of benefits and yet they're still together and staying in one or both houses.

Maybe someone's informed on your situation so he's trying to make it all look a bit more real.

Omg-this thread is awful!

You can’t afford to live together, but can afford to live separately running 2 houses?! How does that work?!
I think this arrangement could fuck your kids up for the future. I’ve never heard anything like it in my life.

Oh this is something else!

Also how do people know the kids are 5years old? Could be younger?

My DH works away, we have no money. People always tell me to do this. It's illegal.

If you're doing it for the benefits wouldn't it look more believable if both kids lived with you?

Surely neighbours see you together? Do you put photos on social media?

How do you afford to run 2 houses?

Ooh OP.

I waa full of sympathy for your wasted day but now I only feel for the DC.

Why split them up? Poor kids

Well this is interesting. If you are living in social housing, would they give the 4 of you a one bed? Therefore your reason to live apart doesn't quite add up. Your post is about your partner not putting you first but actually you need to start thinking about putting your children first. On the basic information you've given us it doesn't sound like you are!

I am sure this is a NC, I have only ever read this once before and the kids were under 5 and mum worked in a nursery; same as the OP here.
The other post was that she had got in touch with an ex and was going to leave DP to move in with him and take a child each, it was a few months ago, I’m thinking same person and the flings went pear shaped 🙄