To be annoyed at plans cancelled last minute

[FutureMrsC]

Maybe an obvious one. Apologies.
For context me and dp don't live together, 1 DC each.
Dp said he would come round in the morning (my day off) I agreed and said I would let him know when I'm awake.
I text to say I was awake. Few hours later he replied and said hell be round in an hour or two.
Just before the hour I rang (he didn't answer) i assumed he was drivinh, I was going to suggest we go out with kids my treat. I rang again an hour later (the 2hr mark that he'd said) again, no reply. I sent a text asking if he was ok. Still no reply.
2.5hrs later he replied with '"yes. My phone is on silent".so I rang back. No answer. Text again. No answer.
An hour after this he text to say he's not going to come as its getting late and DC being difficult. I just though ok then, rang to ask. Again no response back.
Aibu? Could he not have text me a lot earlier to say he was cancelling? As appose to cancelling hours after the agreed meetbup time?!

Your poor kids. I’m guessing the kids were spilt so both of parents were entitled to housing, due to having dependants. If mum had both then dad probably wouldn’t be entitled, or certainly not a priority anyway. Christ this is sad.

Bizarre thread and bizarre set up you have bigger issues than this

It's ok, I've seen this one. The kids are played by Hayley Mills and Hayley Mills. Far from being benefit fraudsters, OP has an opulent house in New York and the ex has a ranch in California.

No. Hayley Mills found Jesus in a barn.

Haha! She was thick as pigshit.

Why was Jesus in a barn? Were the 3 Kings there?

No, but there were some kittens.

He weren’t Jesus. He were just some fella.

When i opened this thread i wondered why nearly 20% were voting yabu. I now know the dc who was being difficult was your own child op and instead of being gutted you wont see your child today you are moaning about your "partner".

Seeing my children is the most important thing in my day. If i planned/hoped to see them and my partner said i couldnt because they were playingg lego i would be furious and broken hearted.

Op you may well not be presented accurately here but please please don't put your partner and relationship needs above the needs of your child. Living with a full sibling is a hugely important thing for a child and being separated can have massive and lasting negative effects
Not to mention the effect of esentially having a parent choose which one they want to keep.

Try to imagine how you would have felt as a child to be separated from your sibking and each of you live with one parent. The reason it doesn't happen anywhere but on tv is because it's putting the needs of the parent above the needs of the children.

The reality is that if he was a partner worth having then after 5 years he would be a partner worth living with.

If you're doing this for the benefits, it won't be long before one of the kids lands you in it. My DS' friend has a family set up like this, when children think something is normal, they think nothing of casually mentioning that they live between two houses where both parents are together and not working. There are plenty of people out there who would waste no time in reporting it.

Sounds like your partner isn't interested in spending time with you.

Also your living situation is ridiculous. WTF

When my parents divorced when I was 6, my DF kept my brother and I moved out with DM to live with her.

It didn't end well.

I think people are naive about the benefit system.

You care far more about this snub to you than the wellbeing of your children, or, apparently, defrauding the rest of us. You are bring VVU.

For goodness sake do NOT have any more children.

Why are you upset that your partner didn't show but not upset about not seeing your baby?

How can you afford to live separately if you can't afford to live together?

Are you actually a couple?

This has to be the biggest drip feed ever

Actually crazy that you're comfortable with seeing one of your children only 3 times a week. I don't care if we were all in a hostel, I'd want to be with my children and for siblings to be together. You are doing your children a massive disservice and focusing on the wrong thing... did you not miss seeing your child today? Why can't you get a 2bed and try harder to make the family live together.

I think you need serious help because no parent in their right mind would separate the family for the trivial reason you have done, and then talk about your child that lives with their father as though they're not yours.

It's ok, I've seen this one. The kids are played by Hayley Mills and Hayley Mills.

Yes and in the update they were played by Lindsay Lohan and Lindsay Lohan and we know how things turned out for her.

I think people are naive about the benefit system.

What do you mean? If you are inferring that this can’t or doesn’t happen then I have to say it does. I know someone who did exactly this.

Well, I know the OP is never coming back but this is the weirdest thread ever.

Who the hell lives like this? I mean, separates two siblings in order to exploit the benefit system. I know, I'm impossibly naive and it probably happens all the time but...

And the OP was so indifferent to the child! It was all about the partner not coming round and the OP's feelings and all of that inconsequential shit - when the "difficult" DC is her own child!

I'm wondering if they swap kids or if it's completely a "his and hers" situation.

@MadamWaffle we'll find out when she starts the same thread again in two weeks because 'I posted on the wrong forum and people were so mean last time'

This is crazy!!

Excuse but I work full time so I don't spend my whole life on mumsnet like a lot of you presumably do!!!! I didn't disappear. We sepelarated and are still together. Nothing to do with benefits that doesn't even come into. You don't know me, my dp or our DC and what needs they have etc.... Just saying!!!!