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to think she's a rude idiot?

132 replies

fumingdogowner · 23/07/2019 11:38

I am very angry so sorry if this comes out aggressive.

I'm a dog owner, a sweet little dog that we rescued. I also volunteer for a dog charity on a weekly basis. I love dogs.

My dog kept us up all night from 1am with the runs and vomitting. We think this is from her little chew on a piece of furniture. She is fine in herself but needs to let it pass.

My dog is going out for a walk more frequently because of said sickness. On our normal walk my dog goes to poo but absolutely nothing comes out, this keeps happening - she's sick. So we carry on walking and from across the road the woman on her front drive goes 'are you not going to pick up your dog's poo?'

Now I know that some owners don't and it's disgusting. But don't tar us all with the same brush. Don't assume and don't accost me from across the road. I have had to work from home to look after my dog so am in my very casual clothes and I do look about 16 when i'm like this but I just can't imagine the woman saying it to anyone that may look even slightly more intimidating or older. I also think it's entirely none of her business.

I then had to shout across the road to say 'No she's sick and constipated. I always pick up her poo' which I do, religiously. I live on the same road so why wouldn't I?

Sorry I am so ANGRY.

OP posts:
notsohippychick · 23/07/2019 13:42

Oh do calm down dear.

HeadintheiClouds · 23/07/2019 13:43

Nobody’s going to say Sorry, do you mind making sure you pick the poo up? in advance, op. She only collared you because you appeared to be walking away.

SnotandBothered · 23/07/2019 13:44

AIBU is mad today.

Every op is BU

Sorry OP. YABU

newmomof1 · 23/07/2019 13:46

@SnotandBothered must be the heat!

LegionOfDoom · 23/07/2019 13:47

Sorry, do you mind making sure you pick the poo up

But what does she have to be sorry about? She’s asking a valid question.

I can tell this is going to be another thread where everyone tells the op yabu and the op disappears because they don’t want to hear it!

Strugglingtodomybest · 23/07/2019 13:49

Yeah, sorry OP, but yabu. It's not nice to be accessed of something you didn't do, but surely you can see her side too. Let it go...

timeforakinderworld · 23/07/2019 13:49

Still waiting to hear what you did about the vomit because taking out a vomiting dog and not clearing up would be very anti-social....

HeadintheiClouds · 23/07/2019 13:52

Did you leave vomit and get the arse because someone questioned you about poo?!

NoSquirrels · 23/07/2019 13:54

OP, you are tired, cranky and worried about your dog being sick.

Your neighbour wasn't being out of order at all. Let it go.

LottieLucie · 23/07/2019 13:54

If she shouted over aggressively then YANBU OP. Yes we all get sick of those owners who don't pick it up but she could've got her facts straight before accusing you.

You should have just smiled sweetly and says no then let her get in a froth about imaginary poo.

Yogurtcoveredricecake · 23/07/2019 13:56

Last week I had to clean a massive pile of dog shit from the pavement in front of my house, the week before I spend half of nap time cleaning shit from a wheel on the pushchair. Good on your neighbour I say. Hope you cleaned the vomit up too.

longwayoff · 23/07/2019 14:02

Solve my dilemma please. Sometimes, if I have to, I take my dog for a quick emptying in a car park nearby. If he poohs, I pick it up and pour some water where he's been, small dog, no effort. 2 other people walk their dogs there and happily leave their dog pooh lying around most of the time. This infuriates me. I could pick up their dog pooh and this would be preferable to my dog sniffing around it BUT if I do that, I'll likely become The Woman Who Picks Up the Dog Pooh and before I know it, they'll be expecting me to do it. So I leave it. What would other dog owners do?

StroppyWoman · 23/07/2019 14:03

YABVU.

You also sound like a cranky toddler. Take your dog to the vets and go for a nap.

HeadintheiClouds · 23/07/2019 14:07

They’re leaving it anyway, without the expectation that you’ll do it, longwayoff, there’s no dilemma.
If you don’t want it left, pick it up.

Luckingfovely · 23/07/2019 14:09

You sound 16 as well as looking it Grin

haloumi · 23/07/2019 14:10

People are being harsh on you.

BUT the woman is probably fed up to the back teeth of dog shite everywhere …..

Let it go. Look after your pooch and ignore things that really don't matter.

SagAloojah · 23/07/2019 14:11

@longwayoff

You are really nice to do that. Could you take a video of the fuckers in action and send it to the council?

didofido · 23/07/2019 14:13

When my dog had the same problem I pretended to pick up non-existent poo. Especially if I knew i was being watched. Cowardly? Yeh!

pancaketits · 23/07/2019 14:16

You're overreacting. I shouted to a bloke in the park last week who was walking ahead of his dog and hadn't noticed the giant turd said dog had produced.

I'm not sure if you've ever had to scrap dog shit off a child (not just shoes, but trousers and coat too) but if you had you'd appreciate that potentially uncollected dog shit is everyone's business.

Jellybeansincognito · 23/07/2019 14:17

You left dog vomit?

Disgusting.

FlyingTingTing · 23/07/2019 14:19

YABU.
Calling someone a "rude idiot" isn't called for.

LuaDipa · 23/07/2019 14:24

I think people are being a bit harsh op.

My dh had exactly this situation last week. He too, overreacted (sorry op), and ended up shouting at the poor chap and made him get out of his car to come and look at what the dog hadn’t done. He then came home furiously muttering about busy bodies and told me what happened. I calmed him down, and told him that he had completely overreacted and to apologise if he saw this guy again as he was in the wrong.

There is a huge issue with irresponsible dog owners not picking up after their pets in our area, so it was completely understandable that the gentleman in question speak up if he imagined that he was witnessing this. What he was unaware of is the fact that our dog is dying, which is why my usually placid husband overreacted in such a way.

I do think that people could think before they speak sometimes, as this guy was wrong in his assumption. But I can’t get too worked up about someone who is trying to ensure that their neighbourhood stays clean and unsoiled.

Kezza8 · 23/07/2019 14:31

LookWhosInTheRejectBin Yes, I totally agree that the OP is incorrect, but lots of replies are saying that he lady on her drive shouldn't have shouted or been rude, but the post doesn't say she shouted or was rude, people were just assuming it.

ContactLight · 23/07/2019 14:42

You might love dogs, but it isn't compulsory.

That woman might be sick and tired of finding piles of dog shit at the end of her drive.

aharddaysnight · 23/07/2019 14:44

In my opinion, YANBU. Doesn't matter if someone sees a dog squat, unless you see an owner not picking up their dog's poo, she shouldn't say anything. My dog squats the same whether she is weeing or pooing. That many dog owners don't clean up after their dogs is irrelevant.