To think she can seduce him?

[Ghok]

My best friend isn’t on MN but she asked me to ask your advice please.

She’s very attracted to a man who she’s beginning to suspect is a narcissist. They have been flirting for a year but nothing has actually happened. She wants to seduce him and hopes he will fall in love with her.

I don’t know a huge amount about narcissists. I have Googled it and suggested that she needs to appeal to his ego.

She cannot be persuaded to walk away from him. She wants him.

Please can you give me some advice to show my friend how she can woo and seduce this man? Thanks.

P.S. the reason she thinks he might be a narcissist is because he likes to be in control, his word appears to be final a lot of the time, he’s always the one to dictate how and when they meet, she suspects he’s insecure inside and he seems quite low on empathy.

Goforitgirl in what way was it awful? Always prioritising himself?

what a bizarre thing to want to get help for your friend about?

surely who she fucks and how she manages it is up to her. This isnt friend territory.

Youre asking about yourself arent you

I’m married with kids and haven’t dated for 15 years. I was just trying to get help for her from people who remember those days better than me!

I take it he's married?

I’m going to leave the thread now. Apologies for not reading about narcissists properly before posting. Thanks for the people who gave advice and advised her to stay away, it sounds sensible.

He isn't interested. If he wanted her, he would be with her by now as she sounds keen enough to have taken him up on his offers.

Narcissists chip away at a person until they are nothing but a shell of their former selves. You do not want this for your friend. Tell her, that as a friend that cares about her, you cannot in good conscious help her lure a monster.

If he truly was a narcissist and your friend truly is this sweet, shy, solvent woman he would be all over her like a rash.

The truth is more like he is just a friendly bloke who is not interested in your friend for anything more than is going on now.

This has massive fail written all over it, but I'll give it a go anyway.

Has she tried asking him out on a date? That's how I started things with my DH.

Sorry but your friend needs to sort herself out and stop being so stupid. Seduce a man?? Get a grip ffs

No way did you Google 'narcissist l'and the story of Narcissus and Echo came up before NPD.

if you google Narcissus, you would also else several over views where it points out that he had a habit of driving his admirers to suicide.

Narcissist is just a term that's over used on MN. It's all over all social media platforms. I simply dont believe you actually looked it up and are taking bollocks.

Please clarify how she is not shy to seduce him and openly flirt with him yet is shy to just ask him out and get a straight answer?

This entire thread is ridiculous, you both diagnosed this man without knowing him at all and are behaving pathetically.

Perhaps your friends ego is dented that he flirts but does not pursue her further. She can quite easily stop flirting back and most likely he would stop. Problem solved.

It's so frustrating how irresponsibly people are called narcissists on here, it's almost like a free pass to never being in the wrong because you were with a narcissist or you know of one.

Just in this thread alone everyone has assumed and accepted this man may be a narcissist on absolutely nothing, you two don't even know him properly!

What a high school thread

Also the "asking for a friend thing " is bloody hilarious.

I hope your "friend " successfuly seduces this narcissistic,low on empathy, controlling man. He sounds great 😊

Fgs just get a copy of 50 shades (there's bound to be one kicking about your school friends) and let your mate live her fantasy the nice safe way. A real, actual proper narcissist is not something anyone should be lusting after. Tbh what you describe says "married" way more than "narcissist".