About dh dominating communal areas?

[siberianwinter]

It’s really starting to piss me off.

He watches a lot of TV. I’m also starting to wonder if he has a hearing problem because the TV is on so loud when he watches it it’s actually quite uncomfortable. This means I’m consigned to the bedroom. I was stuck in the bedroom from about 730 last night through to this morning when he left for work

Probably just venting here - I’m not bu or am I?

The problem is... I have to be quiet for the duration of it
So what happens if you don't? Honestly @siberianwinter sounds like you're in an abusive relationship if you're thst scared of him

Turn it down and put subtitles on. If he complains offer him the headphones. Say the volume drives you away upstairs and you want to be able to sit with him.

My hearing is bad. My hubby complained that the tv was too loud, so I put subtitles in and keep the volume down. I also use headphones sometimes (but it’s a bit antisocial so prefer subtitles).

Can you set up one night a week you have a casual date night at home? Take away picnic with wine in the loungeroom or the garden of the weather is nice.

If your hubby didn’t watch tv every night, what would you like to do together? Maybe suggest one of your ideas (ahead of time- e.g. let’s play cards /have a bath together/look at holiday destinations Thursday night after the kids go down).

My dh wears headphones when he's watching tv or playing ps4 without me, because my room is behind the living room & tv

It's just about being considerate really. I don't know why your dh won't consider your feelings op but its not a great sign is it?!

@MarianaMoatedGrange completely disagree. Everybody needs to listen Led Zeppelin

My GDad is losing his hearing more and more by the day.
He uses Bluetooth headphones so he can have it as loud as he wants but no one else has to suffer.

If your DP isn't willing to even entertain them then I think you need to have a conversation about why he thinks his needs trump yours.

I have 2 that like to have the tv on loudly. Both had grommets as kids and have always been borderline on hearing tests but the main thing with both of them and it has improved with one of them is they get distracted when there is background noise. So turning up the tv drowns out anything else and they can concentrate on watching it. Our compromise is tv in their rooms at a quieter level and if we are all watching something together we dont chat all the way through it.