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I'm right not to believe them?

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Dontlikeoranges · 21/07/2019 16:31

Absolutely beyond devastated today. Been with DP nearly two years and thought he was the absolute love of my life. Don't have the strength to speak to anyone right now but need to get stuff out.

Last weekend when dp opened his what's app in front of me I noticed one of my best friends was near the top of his list of chats. Didn't think too much about it, just thought they'd messaged regarding me as I've had stuff on lately they've both been involved in.

Anyway yesterday he's showing me pics in his gallery and a photo of her glammed up for going out is amongst the very recent pics. I questioned why this is and he said that she'd just sent him a pic of her. I thought about this for a while then asked him to show me their messages.

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OoohOnly90CaloriesIllhave10 · 22/07/2019 14:25

Oh that's miserable.

What absolutely complete and total bastards.
I'm so sorry OP.

Dontlikeoranges · 22/07/2019 14:31

I've blocked them both on social media and what's app

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SleepWarrior · 22/07/2019 14:31

I've been in a very similar situation... please do stop replying. It doesn't matter how lovely you thought the relationship was, how nice he is, or how sorry he is. Bottom line is that this was something you were never meant to find out about. He didn't come and confess to you that he'd made a mistake (although he may try and convince you he was about to tell you - don't buy it), you stumbled across it by chance.

These two people that supposedly both care about you were perfectly happy to scurry around sending dirty messages to one another and for you to be none the wiser. There is no making up for that and it cannot be put right. The fact that she was a friend really doubles the betrayal as each knew how much it could hurt you and still went for it.

He may be genuinely sorry, I hope he is, but he is not someone to continue a relationship with in any capacity.

Look after yourself Flowers

karzard · 22/07/2019 14:53

Your being taken for a fool.

Get rid of both.

No loyalty or respect.

UnapologeticallyUnsociable · 22/07/2019 15:01

Well done OP, you deserve better than this pair of scumbags! Stay strong and feel empowered that you've cut the shit from your life x

TowelNumber42 · 22/07/2019 18:22

Good for you. Drawing a firm line means your recovery starts now, which means your life will be a better life sooner.

Thank god you found out before he moved in and was shagging her in your bed.

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