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Odd question from lodger

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toffeeapple123 · 21/07/2019 11:55

I woke up, rolled out of bed and headed to the bathroom. My lodger asked if I was going to the shop. Er, no, I have just got out of bed and going to take a piss. I don't offer a 24 hour guest service. I work really long hours in a demanding job, and you are a student. Go and buy your own f!cking breakfast, you CF.

Anyone else find this odd?

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TanMateix · 21/07/2019 13:19

It was the icing on the cake, honestly. My then husband was polite enough to tell him “if you need anything, give me shout” when the job was offered. That was the big mistake.

The nightmare started when he called us at 3 am from a train station miles away saying he had arrived and could we pick him up? ExH explained he would meet him the next day, so that’s when he said he had nowhere to stay. So he came for the “night” and stayed for 6 weeks. It was like having a 3 year old, he used to leave the bathroom a mess, even his towel on the floor every day, never made his bed, expected us to provide dinner (never contributed a penny to expenses) so at some point we started eating out to avoid him, just to come back home to a kitchen looking as if he had cooked Christmas dinner but he never offered any or cleaned after him.

If we were having visits and were in the living room, he would come down in pijamas, turn the TV on and stay there watching it in silence without acknowledging anyone (we are a turn the TV off when you have visits household)

It was relentless.

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toffeeapple123 · 21/07/2019 13:21

TanMateix omg how did you cope? i felt sick reading that. how are people so rude and entitled? no self awareness or they just don't care!

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stucknoue · 21/07/2019 13:25

No, not odd, could be any reason eg they had a really bad headache, you have a car and they don't and would have asked if they could join you, trying to be friendly sort of thing. I picked up stuff when I had a lodger and vice versa, it's good to be friendly

TanMateix · 21/07/2019 13:29

I think it was one of the contributing factors to my divorce Grin

But the story doesn’t end there... it was a summer job, so he was gone at the end of the season and never paid the deposit back.

A year after he applied for the job again, assumed he was getting us so gave us a ring to say he was coming again, but he was bringing his wife and a Great Dane dog, which he had already told us it was rescue who tended to bite and attack other dogs and had destroyed their house. He said he would be staying with us but if we found it more convenient could we found him a suitable house in time for their

I suppose my “Absolutely fucking not h@££” was heard all the way to the country he was from.

TanMateix · 21/07/2019 13:30

In time for their arrival

Bookworm4 · 21/07/2019 13:32

@Tanmateix
Christ on a bike what a cheeky fuck

Badcat666 · 21/07/2019 13:34

@toffeeapple123

Don't you know that according to some on MN once you do something for another person JUST once you have to carry on doing that same thing for that person UNTIL YOU DIE!!!

It is YOUR responsibility! In fact you shouldn't sleep at all in case your flatmate wants something from the shop. If you do need sleep, sleep fully clothed with shoes on so you can run as fast as you can to the shops for them.

Also leave a notepad on the table so they can write down whet they want so you get it right.

And when they move out you must also carry on this task, even if you are on holiday or have other plans.

Grin Grin

BTW, did she ask if you wanted anything from the shops before she left?

MaybeitsMaybelline · 21/07/2019 13:38

I think it’s cheeky OP, because it is exactly the same thing my DS used to say on a Sunday morning when he woke with a hangover and couldn’t be arsed to go to the shop. Thought I could bring him back lucozade and cheese strings to make him better.

I always said no son, I went to Asda, Morrison’s, Tesco yesterday.

Lazy bugger wanted you to do her munchy run.

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toffeeapple123 · 21/07/2019 13:39

Badcat666 of course she didn’t ask if I needed anything 🤣

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toffeeapple123 · 21/07/2019 13:40

Lucozade and cheese strings 😂 MaybeitsMaybelline

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toffeeapple123 · 21/07/2019 13:41

TanMateix disgusting!

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ysmaem · 21/07/2019 13:45

It was just a question. He did not ask you to go for him he only asked if you were going.

Luckingfovely · 21/07/2019 13:46

This is so funny.

"thetimekeeper No I haven't said anything about the lack of reciprocation, because I'm a grown adult, and can make my own way to the shops. It's not a big deal"

Um you're not adult enough to have an adult conversation? Or you're too adult to have an adult conversation? You seriously sound like you're fifteen years old. Get a grip.

Or, you know, don't, because your petulance and irrationality is making me laugh Grin

DarlingNikita · 21/07/2019 14:02

I just don't like people who take the piss and who are in my face the minute I wake up. I'm not a morning person

No, that's very clear.

Littlechocola · 21/07/2019 14:13

I really want a bagel now. Please op?

Funkyslippers · 21/07/2019 14:23

He only asked if you were going. He didn't say "Go to the shop for me"

Ilovetea33 · 21/07/2019 14:26

And could you bring me a vanilla yogurt?

DarlingNikita · 21/07/2019 14:37

THE LODGER IS A SHE

And cancel the cheque.

cheeseorchickentwisties · 21/07/2019 14:41

She thinks you doing extra for her is part of the arrangement. I'd stop doing anything for her.

SagAloojah · 21/07/2019 17:28

Yep stop offering her a damn thing, cheeky bint.

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