to have said this re my friend not being like a single mum?

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I am a single mum. Lone parent. Left domestic abuse. Raised my son for the last few months on my own. He's 8 months old and I'm exhausted (but love motherhood regardless!).

With a couple of friends today. One has 2 kids, one has 1 aged 1. The friend who has one aged 1 made a comment saying she feels like a lone parent and that it's so hard as her DP is away 3 nights a week (but has 3.5 days off work and at home every week too!). I don't know if she just didn't think, but she went on, and on, and on about how hard it is practically being a single parent and how amazing it is when her DP comes home and runs her baths and takes the baby.

I said 'youre not really a single parent though are you?' - that's it, that's all I said. She went in to a proper Huff and hasn't spoken to me since!

WIBU to say this?

My mum does it, says she was practically a single parent as my dad was away a lot 🙄

Good for you OP. Nobody likes their ignorance and lack of sensitivity to be pointed out. Let her huff and sweat.

YANBU. DH has had periods of working away from home, generally works long hours - he comes home, he helps makes decisions even if it’s by FaceTime/email.

Meant to add that even though it can be lonely sometimes it is nothing like being a single parent.

YADNBU!!!

You will get this said to you often from women who are not but what they might be communicating is I can understand why you are struggling and I am too and feel alone at times

Then there are those that are just competitive in parenting difficulties

eugh you are not being unreasonable!

i hate it when people say they are single parents and their partners work away!
solo parents x days a week yes...not single/lone

pisses me right off! I hope she apologises!

I had someone say to me how lucky I was that I got a night off from the DCs when they're with their dad as she never has any time to herself. She's a SAHM with secondary school,age children.

I said that she could to if she left her husband.

This thread is from July...

She sounds quite spiteful, rabbiting on about someone running he baths and taking the baby when she knows you’re a single mum to a baby.

She’s not a friend. If she was a friend she would have said ‘shit, I really put my foot it it, sorry won’t happen again’. She’s annoyed that you stood up to her not because she’s embarrassed.