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To be fed up that I sold my flat over 2 months ago but the buyer keeps contacting me

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FreshFreesias · 19/07/2019 20:56

I completed on the sale of my flat 2 months ago. I was happy to swap contact details with my buyer - it is nice to remain on friendly terms as I know how trepidatious it can be to move somewhere new and I was happy to answer any (reasonable) questions. Also the odd bit of mail might slip through the redirection so it’s helpful if they can forward anything.

All was quiet until a received a flurry of questions from the extremely irritating estate agent saying their boiler had broken down and asking me for information about who had installed it and where was the warranty etc. I explained that I had responded to their solicitor’s queries to their satisfaction at time of exchange, as it was a new build I had passed on a final completion certificate and gas safety certificate but hadn’t activated a warranty on the new boiler - something that had never occurred to me until that call, submerged as I was in all the other red tape selling a property involves.

I can see getting a boiler warranty would have been a good idea but really it was the job of the buyer’s solicitor to obtain all the necessary paperwork and if they’d asked then I would have done it. Anyway, the boiler had been installed for a few years and was in perfect working order when I left.

I gave the estate agent the contact details of my builder who I said might be able to shed some light on why the boiler had broken and emphasised that while I was sorry to hear about this, in the spirit of caveat emptor, their boiler problems were no longer mine to deal with.

A few days later I receive a very prickly missive from my buyer asking me to activate the warranty `as a matter of courtesy’ as apparently only I can do this. I said I had no objection to doing it but as the refurb was project managed by an architect (who ripped me off so badly that I’d rather pull out my teeth than have any further dealings with him), he was the only person who had access to required myriad details such as date of installation, name of installer and their CORGI ref and whether the moon was waxing or waning at the time.

She was also in a state of high dudgeon as the tricky neighbours had sent her a bill for redecoration agreed during my ownership which I’d clearly told them in writing to pass on to me after I moved but which they `mistakenly’ sent to her. I had made all this clear in the conveyancing forms to her and her solicitor but I told her I would settle the bill and not to worry as she had copied me in an email thread to them saying she was furious and trying to get hold of her solicitor for clarity.

I suspect if she had been a little more emollient and less entitled I might not have been so irritated. In her position I would have used charm and apology, realising I needed something from someone who really didn’t need to help me. I

I had to discount the property vastly to get a quick sale after years of tortuous building work and an architect who had nearly ruined me. I was so hugely relieved to sell, even at a vast loss, but to be plunged back into that terrible time after the amazing relief of being free from it has really rattled my cage.

To make things worse, I am dealing with a family bereavement so she hasn’t caught me at a good time.

I’ll be over it in a few days but just thought I’d have an anonymous vent on here. I mean, when does caveat emptor not mean caveat emptor?!

I wonder if anyone else has an interesting story about buyers staying in touch with sellers. My brother married the woman whose flat he bought so happier alliances than mine can be made.

OP posts:
motherofcats81 · 19/07/2019 22:00

The warranty definitely won't apply now if it was a few years ago! You buy a house, you deal with the boiler issues. Definitely block her.

WTFthatsweird · 19/07/2019 22:00

I agree with one of the very first questions - are you a writer?
Your post was very well written. Just curious!

We are selling and buying at the moment and I'm glad I read this. No way will we be keeping in contact with the buyers.

Bookworm4 · 19/07/2019 22:03

@JustMarriedBecca
They are CF, plants from garden! Who would even think of this 🙄

lborgia · 19/07/2019 22:07

I was rather relieved to see Joxer’s unkind post, as I have had the piss taken out of me all my life for having a wide vocabulary, and was starting to wish I’d lived in OP’s alternate universe.

Fortunately there are those who realise it’s not a hanging offence, and even those who appreciate it.

It’s a common

lborgia · 19/07/2019 22:08

Sorry - “it’s a common...” belonged to another post?!

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 19/07/2019 22:11

My dad will occasionally help out/offer information on the house he sold 5 years ago. He enjoys being useful though and the new people are nice.

Your woman sounds like a CF.

Whisky2014 · 19/07/2019 22:14

To be fair, it sounds like she asked for 2 things? The warranty to be enabled and the payment to the neighbours.
Just do that and then say no more contact.

Flamingo84 · 19/07/2019 22:15

When selling my flat about 15 years ago there was a cash buyer interested who obviously wanted to rent it out. It was a top floor property with a small attic space but not big enough to stand up in. While we were still in negotiations he applied for planning permission on my flat. I still have no idea what he was going to build as it was a studio and had brand new double glazed windows!

Needless to say his application was turned down seeing as he didn’t actually own the property. Then when we finally got him to pay and were moving into our new property I got a call from the estate agent asking where a set of keys were (we’d posted them all through the door except the estate agents copy as agreed).

Then an hour later he got the estate agent to call asking which of the wheelie bins in the communal area was his. This was back in the days when a bin was just a bin and didn’t require house numbers on the side or it’s own locker. I think even our estate agent was a bit embarrassed to call about that one. I politely said he could take his pick but it wasn’t really anything to do with me anymore.

Knittedjimmychoos · 19/07/2019 22:18

I'm also charmed by your choice phrases. I liked 'emollient' 😂

Very gently let her down.
. I'm so sorry blah blah but any further queries need to be directed to your solicitor.

Nofunkingworriesmate · 19/07/2019 22:23

Do all you can to activate the warranty put them in touch directly to with shit architect
Let them know kindly you can’t deal with any more enquires
Do a Royal Mail Re direct and no Mail should end up at theirs
Block number but keep email open for shirt while

FreshFreesias · 19/07/2019 22:25

In response to kind posters who asked if I'm a writer; I wrote novels some years ago but in recent times all the life blood was sucked out of me dealing with this wretched property - hence being so triggered, as the millennials say, by my CF buyers plunging me back into that wretched place.

OP posts:
Franklyyes · 19/07/2019 22:27

Don’t give your personal contact details - however chummy you made be on the run up to the actual sale, once they own it everything changes. I always make sure I leave all the info about the house and as much quirky details as poss. Then let them communicate via solicitors.

longwayoff · 19/07/2019 22:29

Stop responding. The sale is over. You are no longer involved. Block her or change your number. Its over.

Echobelly · 19/07/2019 22:32

I just wouldn't go there. Our buyer had our number and I didn't hear a thing from him until a few months later when he texted me to ask something about our freeholder who lived in the same building. I knew exactly what it was - we had rowed with them because they totally unreasonably refused us permission for alterations and we'd managed to reframe that in our forms as 'Oh yes we had a disagreement but Gosh! It was all our fault for doing things wrong! And there's no bills outstanding from this' (the latter being true, we settled everything, even though we disagreed, because otherwise we couldn't sell the place) and new owner was trying to alter. I told my husband and he said just not to reply and not to get involved - fortunately new owner didn't try me again.

And I was rather pleased they did manage to conduct their alterations in the end, which were much more significant than we were trying to do. Unlike us, new owner was a property developer and probably rather more hard-nosed in that kind of thing.

WhoTellsYourStory · 19/07/2019 22:32

I didn’t give my details to the sellers of my house as I’d been warned they were bonkers (couple going through a very acrimonious divorce), and the woman messed me around constantly, even threatening to pull out on the day of completion. I was so relieved to get in there at long last. I’d been there a week and she turned up on the doorstep, had a massive rant about her husband, burst into tears, then asked if I liked her “blingy” wallpaper (which was in the process of being removed). I got the locks changed after that. People are mad. Block her number - it’s no longer anything to do with you!

theunrivalledjoysofparenting · 19/07/2019 22:32

Well, tbh, you should have activated a warranty on the boiler! But if you have all the info about when it was installed, pass them on to her.

FreshFreesias · 19/07/2019 23:14

@attheunrivalledjoysofparenting There is no 'should' about it.

I wasn't asked for a warranty before exchange - you can't buy a property and start wailing about missing paperwork afterwards.

All necessary paperwork must be collected by the buyer's solicitor before exchange; if he hasn't done his job it is not the vendor's fault.

I'd be perfectly happy to respond to reasonable requests but this involves dealing with a tiresome and entitled buyer, involves brain-numbing admin as well as the horror of having to deal with a dishonest architect. I think I'll pass 🙄

Thank you for all the helpful posts which confirmed what I thought. Great to get this off my chest.

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SlipperOrchid · 19/07/2019 23:22

Your writing is the best I have ever read on MN.

Unfortunately I don't have anything helpful to add to your issue though.

Durgasarrow · 19/07/2019 23:40

If the entire house self-immolates it is not. your. problem.

SneakySlinkieSiamezee · 19/07/2019 23:51

She just contacted you twice though, right?

Tillygetsit · 20/07/2019 00:07

Viewed the house we are now in. They asked where we were living and it turned out to be his grandad's old house. He asked if he could look at it as it would bring back happy childhood memories. They decided to buy it and we did the swap without estate agents.
Before contracts had been exchanged, we came home to find a tree surgeon just about to demolish a row of trees. My OH is a tree surgeon so they shook hands, chatted a bit and the man left with trees intact.
Now that is what I call CF on their part.

theunrivalledjoysofparenting · 20/07/2019 00:16

Well, whatevs. The warranty for the boiler is down to you, not your architect, so why expect your poor house buyer to suck that up?

Your writing is not that great Hmm

You plainly just want to engage with posts that agree with you so, fine.

But you sound a tad mean-spirited. How many times has the buyer contacted you?? If you bought a house and the boiler broke after 3 months, you’d be pissed off too.

PerkyPomPoms · 20/07/2019 00:54

Tilly did you have a chat with them after tree surgeon left?

Sandybval · 20/07/2019 04:36

@theunrivalledjoysofparenting because they should have asked for any documents etc before completion, it is now not the OP's responsibility. Unless the previous owners sabotaged the boiler in order for it to last a few months (unlikely) then dealing with a faulty boiler is one of the joys of home ownership- whether you have been there a few months or a few years.

31RueCambon · 20/07/2019 07:53

@TillyGetsIt, OMG they took the trees!??

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