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To be fed up that I sold my flat over 2 months ago but the buyer keeps contacting me

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FreshFreesias · 19/07/2019 20:56

I completed on the sale of my flat 2 months ago. I was happy to swap contact details with my buyer - it is nice to remain on friendly terms as I know how trepidatious it can be to move somewhere new and I was happy to answer any (reasonable) questions. Also the odd bit of mail might slip through the redirection so it’s helpful if they can forward anything.

All was quiet until a received a flurry of questions from the extremely irritating estate agent saying their boiler had broken down and asking me for information about who had installed it and where was the warranty etc. I explained that I had responded to their solicitor’s queries to their satisfaction at time of exchange, as it was a new build I had passed on a final completion certificate and gas safety certificate but hadn’t activated a warranty on the new boiler - something that had never occurred to me until that call, submerged as I was in all the other red tape selling a property involves.

I can see getting a boiler warranty would have been a good idea but really it was the job of the buyer’s solicitor to obtain all the necessary paperwork and if they’d asked then I would have done it. Anyway, the boiler had been installed for a few years and was in perfect working order when I left.

I gave the estate agent the contact details of my builder who I said might be able to shed some light on why the boiler had broken and emphasised that while I was sorry to hear about this, in the spirit of caveat emptor, their boiler problems were no longer mine to deal with.

A few days later I receive a very prickly missive from my buyer asking me to activate the warranty `as a matter of courtesy’ as apparently only I can do this. I said I had no objection to doing it but as the refurb was project managed by an architect (who ripped me off so badly that I’d rather pull out my teeth than have any further dealings with him), he was the only person who had access to required myriad details such as date of installation, name of installer and their CORGI ref and whether the moon was waxing or waning at the time.

She was also in a state of high dudgeon as the tricky neighbours had sent her a bill for redecoration agreed during my ownership which I’d clearly told them in writing to pass on to me after I moved but which they `mistakenly’ sent to her. I had made all this clear in the conveyancing forms to her and her solicitor but I told her I would settle the bill and not to worry as she had copied me in an email thread to them saying she was furious and trying to get hold of her solicitor for clarity.

I suspect if she had been a little more emollient and less entitled I might not have been so irritated. In her position I would have used charm and apology, realising I needed something from someone who really didn’t need to help me. I

I had to discount the property vastly to get a quick sale after years of tortuous building work and an architect who had nearly ruined me. I was so hugely relieved to sell, even at a vast loss, but to be plunged back into that terrible time after the amazing relief of being free from it has really rattled my cage.

To make things worse, I am dealing with a family bereavement so she hasn’t caught me at a good time.

I’ll be over it in a few days but just thought I’d have an anonymous vent on here. I mean, when does caveat emptor not mean caveat emptor?!

I wonder if anyone else has an interesting story about buyers staying in touch with sellers. My brother married the woman whose flat he bought so happier alliances than mine can be made.

OP posts:
Elletine · 19/07/2019 21:28

Your vocabulary makes me happy 🦋

Piglet89 · 19/07/2019 21:31

@JoxerGoesToStuttgart you’re the minority: rest of seem to have delighted in OP’s elegant prose.

YoThePussy · 19/07/2019 21:31

My sellers turned off the hot water when they left with no instructions on how to turn it back on. I was shamed into getting the Estate Agent to ring them for me after a week of cold water and trying every switch I could find. They were great, explained what to do (I was the idiot, it was the one cupboard I had forgotten to look in). I thanked them profusely and that was that. My boiler broke two months later, my problem, I sorted it out.

I wish I had known the people I bought my house from. They sounded lovely and I know I would have liked them. Not to be however.

Ratbagcatbag · 19/07/2019 21:32

I swapped numbers with the people I bought off and they were lovely.

I do confess I did text three times, but it was stuff I genuinely couldn't make work through me not knowing how, rather than something broken.
But I was always incredibly polite, finished with lots of thank yous and said if only ig wasn't too much trouble.
They were lovely and helped me out, but equally they didn't redirect their post and for about 6 months I got more for them than me. Again as they'd been so nice in the move I didn't mind (I was starting again with my DD after a split, they left trampoline, swings, bunting in my DDs room with her name on plus a new princess dress for her as well as furniture to see me through). I still see them occasionally around town and we always have a catch up. It's really nice.

Pizzacasserole · 19/07/2019 21:33

I’d say block her.
I sold a car a few years back I put it though it’s MOT at the local councils garage prior to selling it so I knew it was a decent MOT.
It passed with no issues.
I sold it on, about 8 weeks later I got a message from the new owner saying there was something wrong with it now could he have a partial refund. I said no sold as seen.
I then got a message another week later saying can I return it for a full refund please my daughter is allergic to the dog hair in the car. I have never owned a dog and the car was bought from new.
I blocked him in the end, you can’t be nice to some people they just take advantage.

JustMarriedBecca · 19/07/2019 21:35

We bought our house two years ago. They haven't changed their addresses on ANYTHING. This summer they contacted us and asked if they could have some of the plants and stuff from the garden.

Ummm no

Littlejets · 19/07/2019 21:35

Nothing to do with you anymore. Block them.

Mummyoflittledragon · 19/07/2019 21:36

I also love your vocabulary. 🌟

cstaff · 19/07/2019 21:39

I actually knew the lady who sold her house to me. Our brothers were friends and still are 20 years on. It would never have occurred to me to contact her if something wasn't working in what was then my house, my responsibility. Crazy carry on.

coolwalking · 19/07/2019 21:39

I agree, Block them.

Lighthearted for us - our prev owners moved to the next street. Their cat came to our house every day for 6 months. It jumped in the windows, back door. Pissed all over the curtains.

Nearly every morning we would be woken by the owner at 6:30am calling the name of the cat at the bottom of our driveway.

Eventually it stopped but we still shout the name of the cat in a high pitched nasally tone if we want to annoy the other!

TheStakeIsNotThePower · 19/07/2019 21:40

I moved over the road so my buyer knew where I was. He sent in cleaners before he moved in and told them to knock on my door if they had any problems, so I was faced with a cleaner asking how to work the hot water (it was solid fuel so, erm, light a fire). He knocked on my door the other night actually to ask if he could put his horse in my garden for a few days.

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 19/07/2019 21:44

you’re the minority: rest of seem to have delighted in OP’s elegant prose.

Confused and? Am I not to have an opinion because it differs from others?

IncandescentShadow · 19/07/2019 21:45

FreshFresias So sooner do I see off one CF then another one pops up. It's like there is some kind of cheeky fucker school, churning them out.

I've gone through a spate of them recently, from the neighbour who only wanted to pay 1/6 of a share of communal driveway expenses instead of 1/3, because she was single, to the person who put a handwritten note through my door, bitterly complaining that I had closed my own gate on my own track so that she could no longer walk through it without the bother of opening it.

People just seem to complain so much, and so bitterly. I sometimes feel glad to just get through a day without any bitter complaints being thrown at me. Is there some kind of complaining school they all go to?

OP - just ignore her. She can't force you to do any of this, and all this should have been sorted out before she purchased. She will have had a period, usually a week, in which to address any non-working items in the house, and that is long gone.

Oliversmumsarmy · 19/07/2019 21:45

Why are you even speaking to her.

She has bought the house.

She is an adult.

She can work the rest out.

Redshoeblueshoe · 19/07/2019 21:46

Don't block them. I want to read the next installment Grin

Popskipiekin · 19/07/2019 21:47

Your vocabulary makes me happy I simply came on to say this, but Elletine got there first. And I notice there’s a whole group of us similarly entranced.
As you were, OP.

cakeallday · 19/07/2019 21:47

I had the same thing. Buyer ringing via estate agent to plague me with questions when things went wrong with the boiler or a leaky toilet or the burglar alarm. I hadn't actually lived there for 10 years and they knew I'd been recently bereaved (parents' house). What is some people's thought process?!

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 19/07/2019 21:49

Different scenario, but we adopted our cat directly from a lovely family. The mum and I have kept in regular contact, and become quite friendly. She sends me photos of their beautiful children, I send her photos of cat-face (also beautiful, if annoyingly hairy right now.) Earlier this year the cat became poorly, and it transpired she needed hugely expensive dental treatment which, of course, wasn’t covered by our insurance. Her previous owners offered to half the cost with us - we said absolutely not, but it was so, so lovely of them to offer.

Candymay · 19/07/2019 21:52

You write beautifully!

IncandescentShadow · 19/07/2019 21:53

Oh, and I had someone turn up at the farm we bought who was related to the seller we had bought it from, who wanted to have a look round. Bit of a surprise but I did let her see round without inviting her in. Bit wary as we had one of our sheds broken into shortly after buying it and the seller had such a bad reputation that we always suspected him of doing it. Hence being rather wary of relatives popping up randomly. We now have an amazing camera system everywhere which records all movements and which we can even view on our mobile phones, and we publicise the fact, and its amazing how no-one seems to turn up now!

groundanchochillipowder · 19/07/2019 21:55

Blocky McBlock!

AhNowTed · 19/07/2019 21:56

I'm going to go against the grain here.

I don't see any problem with them asking for the warranty- their new boiler broke, so of course they'd need the warranty and if they can't instigate it I see no problem asking you to.

Equally your old neighbour sent them a bill. No problem with her clarifying the situation.

I had similar with our buyers. They tried to set up the Hive account and app, and British Gas said I needed to contact them to transfer the account. I did so, few emails back and forth and that was the last I heard from them.

I did however leave them with a 2 page document spelling out how stuff worked, where the stop cock is, how to remove the secondary glazing etc etc so probably avoiding more questions or just made their move a bit easier.

HingleMcCringleberry · 19/07/2019 21:57

Joxer, of course you can have an opinion! But the opinion you venture is... I have no opinion about the buyer, and anyway, TL;DR. Kind of a pointless post - not unlike this one!

I too have enjoyed the pleasing prose.

Holenewme · 19/07/2019 21:58

I bought a new house at the beginning of the year and the previous owners moved to a smaller house on the other side of town. I’ve been getting it done up room by room and at the beginning of July finally got some scaffolding up to get the house painted and guttering fixed. I’m getting it painted a in cheerful green paint which I think suits it perfectly.

I bumped into an ex-colleague in town who is friends with the previous owner. Apparently previous owner can see her old house from her new house and burst into tears when she saw what colour I had painted it. Which puts a bit of a downer on it to be honest.

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 19/07/2019 21:59

But the opinion you venture is... I have no opinion about the buyer, and anyway, TL;DR. Kind of a pointless post - not unlike this one!

That makes up most of MN tbh Grin