Am I wrong or was DP?

[crossroadsmum]

I have NC for this but long time lurker occasional poster.
I just want to know if I am being unreasonable about something that happened the other evening.
DD went to the gym. She is 18 and walked up there it's about a 20 minute walk, if that.
She called just as DP (not her dad) and I were sitting down to a late dinner. It was just starting to get dark and she was walking home and she said she was worried about a man acting strangely. He had been on the other side of the road and had slowed his pace to hers, then crossed over to walk behind her. He had stopped at a bus stop and then when she had turned round to check he had gone and she didn't know where he was and she didn't want to get off the main road to walk the quieter roads to home.
I said right I am coming to get you (she was only 5 mins away at this point so close to home). DP was really cross that I did this. He thinks she was manipulating me to get a lift. I think I did exactly the right thing. I believe there was a man that was worrying her even if he wasn't doing anything intentionally. He may have wanted to catch the bus but she was worried and that was enough for me.
So was I wrong? I dont think I was but thought I would ask the wise mumsnetters, thank you.

If it were me, dp would have been trampled on my way out in my haste to protect DD.

To the pp's who said about how he wouldn't understand as he has never felt like that, I have actually had an argument about this before when he said that women do not get scared or worried any more because there is no need and more men get attacked than women.

And that’s his fine excuse for not wanting you (which did not affect him) to pick up your scared dd? What a fucking wanker.

He sounds like my ex - my life was infinitely less stressful after leaving him.

You 100% did the right thing in collecting your daughter. The grief you are getting from him is only a reflection of who he is and his unempathetic, misogynistic views.

Best of luck to you

Of course you were right to pick up your daughter, it's a no brainer.

The fact that this loser has been forced into your poor children's lives since they were aged 7-11 is heartbreaking though. He doesn't care about them, he resents the time and love you give them. Even if he has a solid gold cock why would you put up with this?

I'm glad you are making the right noises now but I hope you follow this through. You say that these children are your world - show them this, prove it to them or they could forever think he is more important to you than they are.

All the best

I think he was wrong. Your daughter clearly felt unsafe and she must have felt that for a reason. He probably doesn’t know how those kind of situations feel!

Crossroads mum, you sound very aware and like a great mum who will always out her children first. Good luck

Good luck OP, do let us know how you get on. I'll be cheering you on!

She would hardly be angling for a lift if she was only 5 minutes away!

What a shame for this lass that she has to live with someone so insensitive - come to think of it, are you quite sure you want to live with him?