To think that it’s disgraceful not to sort out your child’s tongue tie?

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I just can’t understand why somebody would leave it? How did the child suck on a bottle or breastfeed? Surely it’s standard to fix it? The (now adult, early 20s) can’t stick out his tongue/lick an ice cream and how, if you have tongue tie, do you use your tongue to help you swallow food?

Well, given that this tongue tied adult made it to 20 suggests they can eat and drink.

My youngest has tongue tie but the midwives said his latch was fine so they didn't think he needed an operation. He has had no issues with weight gain. I have heeded the medical advice I was given, but according to you that is disgraceful...

My eldest DC has a minor one. The midwives told me not to bother having it cut because it was so minor and would not affect his life at all. He’s nine and still has it, I can confirm it has not affected his life whatsoever. So no, I don’t think that makes me a bad parent.

Maybe it wasn't standard to fix TT 20 years ago?

I can swallow with my tongue flat down to the bottom of my mouth,can't you?

I have a severe tongue tie and have no problem eating or drinking. You sound a bit insulting to be honest.

From someone who had an exbf with tongue tie I agree!! 7 years and no oral sex.

Well, first, the tongue tie can be cut any time if it starts to cause an issue. Second, it doesn’t always affect latch and feeding and can improve over time. My daughter has a mild tongue tie and is still bf no problems. It has improved over time. I think you’re possibly being a tiny bit overdramatic?

If they have made it to adulthood, they clearly could feed.

My DBro had a tongue tie which he had correed by his own choice in his teens. It had never caused him any difficulties. His reason for getting it fixed? Pleasuring his girlfriend.

I don’t think they bother to correct it unless it causes problems bf. Certainly in my area anyway.

DP mid 20s has tongue tie cant stick his tongue out. Eats and drinks fine never had any issues.

DS has tongue tie again eats and drinks fine. Never had any issues with feeding even though he has "bad" tongue tie.
Shock horror how mean was I to leave him and not to put him through unnecessary pain when he was/is managing fine

Still alive in his twenties so clearly not dying of thirst or starving to death and yes you're being insulting

It wasn’t standard to fix tongue ties about 7 years ago or wasn’t very well recognised.....

Why the judgement?

None of the HVs/nurses/doctors noticed DDs tounge tie, she broke it herself at 6 months old with some overenthusiastic eating yoghurt with a spoon. Bit of screaming and a mouth full of blood and it was done. She fed absolutely fine and was ebf, although the bf was more comfortable once she broke it.

I know a fair few adults who can't stick out their tongues so I don't imagine it was as standard procedure as it is now. If it doesn't affect quality of life I think an op is unnecessary, certainly not disgraceful to leave things be if they aren't an issue.

There was a study recently saying in many cases that it might not be necessary.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-48934994

Disgraceful? Massive over reaction. I'm 35 with severe tongue tie and honestly it's never affected me other than I wasn't able to get my tongue pierced as a rebelling teenager which in hindsight was probably a good thing!

I don't think it was as big a thing when I was born... I fed fine and that was that.

I went to school with a girl who was tongue tied. I think maybe she had it fixed in her teens, but I can’t say for sure if she did.

I'm an SLT... it's not necessary to "fix" it unless it's causing a problem.

My DS has a tongue tie and I did want to snip it (because I have a Mum-head with my children not an SLT-head). He's had a couple of paediatricians as he was a poorly prem, they've all said that it doesn't need fixing. They were right.

Your post it a bit shitty, I don't like your tone!

I was advised that fixing a small tongue tie could make it worse due to scaring. It's only tongue ties that cause speech problems that get operated on.

Oh what a lot of crap
You’re disgraceful for trying to make people feel shitty for this
I have 4 boys
All 4 have ties all 4 made it to 18/14/9 & 8 without having theirs snipped fed fine 2 breast fed.

Well, given that this tongue tied adult made it to 20 suggests they can eat and drink

Boom. Thread over.

Impressed he's made it to 20 without being able to swallow food. He sounds like a medical marvel.

On mumsnet, having a tongue tie snipped is the standard advice for anyone struggling with breastfeeding - well more than advice, more like a mantra.

When DS was born 30 years ago, I had never heard of tongue tie and, as none of my breastfeeding mum friends mentioned it either, it can't have been much of a thing in those days. Though I have no idea what the situation was 20 years ago.

I didn't know what a tongue the was until DS was 7 months old. By this time my HV said well he's coping so no neednto refer

I think the question we should be asking why something so simple isn't looked at and sorted at the new born screening

There's a possible link between folic acid and tongue tie, which might be why it's more prevalent now, as women are taking folic acid to avoid spinal defects.

I also suspect it was under diagnosed or missed a lot in years gone by. I wouldn't latch from birth and have never been able to stick my tongue out far at all, so I probably had a tongue tie affecting me, but no one had ever even mentioned it to my mum. It's not caused any problems other than the initial difficulties with breastfeeding, however.

All 4 of mine have severe tongue-tie and all were breast-fed. They are all miraculously able to eat ice creams too.