To share on facebook or not?

[owlettafeather]

I've been unwell and in intensive care for just over a week. Obviously, close friends and family know, but there are a number of people who dont have a clue.

I don't tend to share huge amounts of detail on facebook, and don't want to seem like one of those attention seekers checking into hospital, but it would be an easy way to let people know in bulk.

Would you put news like this on facebook, or is it impossibly crass?

No, the people that are important surely know.

If they didn't notice or ask why you weren't available then they shouldn't know. The people most important already know how you are because they were stood by you, you don't need to go out of your way to tell others.

What about a group message on FB messenger?

Or what about just posting on my FB.
I don't vague book, I don't beg for sympathy, I just update with what's going on.
It's not a secret, I have a chronic illness so hospital is part of my life.

I have a friend with an illness where she is regularly in hospital, including intensive care sometimes and she posts regularly about it. It allows her to stay in touch with people, feel less isolated and keeps people up to date on her life.

I would say to post, talking to people is not attention seeking.

Yes, that!

I wouldn't. Last year an acquaintance was in ITU and her husband was regularly posting photos on FB of her on a ventilator while giving updates on her condition. I was horrified by the photos. Thankfully she recovered.

Ps hope you're on the mend OP

I wouldn’t do a big message as it puts everyone in a group chat and everyone gets stuck with the notifications.

I like social media and seeing posts from friends. So I’d say yes- I don’t see any harm in ‘ thank you everyone for your lovely messages, I have been unwell but I’m recovering nicely’.

My friend was seriously ill and passed away. Facebook memories, comments from her family, videos and photos have been a big source of comfort to me.

As long as you’re not one of those people who overshares every single detail I don’t see the issue.

You are also making people aware your home is empty.

If my friends and family really wanted to burglar my house, they would just do it during school hours when we are at work, they wouldn't bother waiting for one of us to be in hospital.

No, the people that are important surely know.

Calling people is not the first thing I would do, and unless you have a private room, it's much better to update on facebook than using your phone on a ward where other people need to rest! It doesn't stop some idiots to have lengthy conversations, but god, it's a hospital, shut up - some patients are really unwell and don't need your bellowing nonsense.

anything can be judged attention seeking by haters anyway, they just shouldn't be on your friends list, ignore them.