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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think this wasn't actually funny

57 replies

Tyrotoxicity · 16/07/2019 18:20

Family gathering at the parental abode at the weekend. I had a two-day-old tattoo that was still being cling-filmed. The film was slipping.

I asked my dad if he had any masking tape.
What for, he asked.
Just to tape this, I said, vaguely indicating the tattoo.
No masking tape, he said, but I can find the staple gun if you like.

For context, this is body modification number eleven. When he found out about the first, he threatened me with a pair of pliers and physically assaulted me. The bruise took weeks to fade. I was fifteen. He's made "jokes" about every one since.

AIBU to think, given the history, that these jokes really aren't funny, and to find them actually slightly threatening?

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WoWsers16 · 16/07/2019 18:21

I think you're over thinking if I'm honest - I see it as a bit of a joke x

BogglesGoggles · 16/07/2019 18:23

Given the context it’s not funny

weirdquestionhearmeout · 16/07/2019 18:24

I was going to say YABU but because of the history with with his assault, YANBU!!

QueeniesPotOfRouge · 16/07/2019 18:25

Agree with PP, given the context it’s not funny at all. In different circumstances it might be (well mildly), but not here.

mbosnz · 16/07/2019 18:25

Given the context, not a joke, more a threat.

Runkle · 16/07/2019 18:26

Yeah not funny but I wouldn't have asked him for the tape to be fair. You seem to be aware he's prone to verbal and physical abuse (WTAF by the way) so why stoke him.

TabbyMumz · 16/07/2019 18:27

Given the history, why on earth would you bring his attention to this new tattoo,?

Al2O3 · 16/07/2019 18:27

@WoWsers16

I can only think you did not read Tyrotoxicity's full post.

LordNibbler · 16/07/2019 18:28

I don't think assaulting someone with a pair of pliers is a bit of a joke. Hmm

Al2O3 · 16/07/2019 18:28

Victim blaming coming forth.......

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 16/07/2019 18:29

He assaulted you causing bruises when you were 15. That’s pretty serious in my book. His joke is small fry in comparison.

Disfordarkchocolate · 16/07/2019 18:31

I wouldn't be spending time with someone who assaulted me as a child.

miaCara · 16/07/2019 18:32

I wouldnt visit someone who was abusive about body mods with a 2 day old tat . You are naturally guarded about them even if they arent visible.
Lesson learned - keep away from him and dont ask him for help .

Original poster
Tyrotoxicity · 16/07/2019 18:34

Given the history, why on earth would you bring his attention to this new tattoo,?

I didn't, insofar as was possible. Didn't mention it, didn't ask his opinion, didn't try to show him it. Really did need the masking tape (had to use the limb for some physical work and didn't want it getting knocked), waved vaguely at the limb without shoving it under his nose. Couldn't ask anyone else as it was his house.

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Zebraaa · 16/07/2019 18:36
Hmm
TheSharkInTheDark · 16/07/2019 18:41

Why did you still have the cling film on after 2 days?

Ellisandra · 16/07/2019 18:45

Why do you still see someone who smacked you with a pair of pliers as a child?
That would give me more to think about than whether he was funny or not (he wasn’t).

AwkwardPaws27 · 16/07/2019 18:49

Your dad sounds awful, for the previous assault - without that, it would have been a typical "dad joke".
(BTW, you shouldn't be keeping cling film on that long)

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 16/07/2019 18:49

I'm guessing you're now an adult but if one of my DC had a tattoo at 15 , I'd be doing more than a staple gun and I'd be gunning for the c**t who tatted my child Angry
And gunning for the child who thought it was a good idea

PP said why ask him anyway re the tape .

Tiredtessy · 16/07/2019 18:53

I wouldn’t even be speaking to this beast let alone spending time with him.

Original poster
Tyrotoxicity · 16/07/2019 18:54

Why do you still see someone who smacked you with a pair of pliers as a child?
That would give me more to think about than whether he was funny or not (he wasn’t).

It is giving me a lot to think about. As are many other instances from childhood. Unfortunately I was also abused by someone outside the family, and for seventeen years everyone around me has told me all of my problems and all of my difficult relationship with my father is as a result of the second abuser.

Only realised a couple of weeks ago that believing that lie might not have been the best idea. Much thinking to do now.

Why did you still have the cling film on after 2 days?

Tattooist's recommendation; it's in an area highly likely to get knocked on things.

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UnaCorda · 16/07/2019 18:56

Without the history, mildly amusing. With the history, really not very funny.

MrsTerryPratchett · 16/07/2019 18:56

Have a good think about whether you want to spend time with someone who did this.

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SunshineCake · 16/07/2019 18:58

Get help, OP. This is awful Flowers.

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 16/07/2019 19:01

No, it’s not funny given the context

Also

He's made "jokes" about every one since

Then you really should’ve known to expect it and tbh, learned your lesson about telling him you have a new tattoo long before number 11.

Why do you keep telling him about each tattoo?

I’m sure you could’ve done without taping the clingfilm.