to think this wasn't actually funny

[Tyrotoxicity]

Family gathering at the parental abode at the weekend. I had a two-day-old tattoo that was still being cling-filmed. The film was slipping.

I asked my dad if he had any masking tape.
What for, he asked.
Just to tape this, I said, vaguely indicating the tattoo.
No masking tape, he said, but I can find the staple gun if you like.

For context, this is body modification number eleven. When he found out about the first, he threatened me with a pair of pliers and physically assaulted me. The bruise took weeks to fade. I was fifteen. He's made "jokes" about every one since.

AIBU to think, given the history, that these jokes really aren't funny, and to find them actually slightly threatening?

It's not your fault, you didn't deserve it and you should consider reducing your contact with your father to zero. I'm so sorry you've been let down by the people who should have looked after and protected you. I hope you find a way to break free from your dad's appalling behaviour.

Dont bother runkle you cant say boo in here

i would have been thrown out for getting anything done at 15

Gabs she didn't need permission. OP your posts are a bit vague. How did he threaten you and how did he assault you? Why do you still talk to him and let it be known you're getting more tats, piercings or whatever?

BTW 2 day old clingfilm in this weather is a breeding ground for bacteria. Hope it was at least medical clingfilm.

Abusive people don't change. He has form for violence re your tattoos, so the safest thing would be to never mention tattoos in his presence & avoid having to spend too much time with him. Or is there some strange dynamic where you are hoping one day, out of character, he'll say that's a nice tattoo & be accepting? Won't happen IME.

Would you see a counsellor?

Way beyond that point. Finally found my way to Specialist Trauma Services a few weeks ago.

She said he threatened her with a pair of pliers and physically assaulted her, which these days could be just grabbing an arm.

He went completely ballistic, shouting in my face, and threatening to rip the piercing out with a pair of pliers. I had shut down completely in self-defence by that point. Then he hit me as hard as he could, leaving a hand-sized bruise that took several weeks to heal.

Thanks all for the tattoo aftercare advice - it got plenty of airing and is healing nicely. Wasn't exactly the point of the AIBU, but always good to learn something new!

Way beyond that point. Finally found my way to Specialist Trauma Services a few weeks ago.

Good. I hope it goes well and helps you.

He's a bad person and you should cut off contact with him. And maybe slow down on the tattoos.