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AIBU?

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to question DS' Achievement Award?

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cakedup · 13/07/2019 09:36

Every year, the school have an evening of presenting Achievement Awards to students in year 7 - 11, two students for each subject.

DS is profoundly dyslexic and struggles academically. But tries hard and is well behaved. In year 7 he won an award for the SEN department. I had mixed feelings about this but he seemed happy enough. In year 8, he won an award for PSHE. He has no idea why he won this award and was genuinely confused by it. He felt it wasn't really deserved and that his name had got picked out of a hat.

Now in year 9 and he has been nominated again. I am obviously pleased, always good news. DS wasn't over excited - to be fair, it's a loooong evening, in an extremely hot hall, watching people walk on/off stage. We won't know what the award is for until we get there and are presented with a list as we walk in.

DS has no idea what the award is for, it's usually the super brainy kids who get the awards. He suspects it's for textiles. There has been a constant change of teachers for this subject and they've barely done any proper work. But they have to give an award to someone and DS is an easy target because he is well behaved and school like to encourage him because of his SEN as he has had self esteem issues regarding this.

AIBU to turn up on the evening, check out the list of awards, and if DS has been nominated for textiles then just head home again? DS says if it's for textiles it is completely meaningless.

OP posts:
TheCatInAHat · 13/07/2019 12:18

I would be so thrilled if one of my kids was awarded for character and attitude (if that’s what it boils down to for your DS).
Many of us who were super academic at school (I was) can tell you that it doesn’t always equal career/life success and happiness. Most of the successful adults I know are resilient, positive, tolerant and without ego (but not necessarily university graduates) so if that starts at school and your DS is being recognised for that I’d be delighted.

HarveySchlumpfenburger · 13/07/2019 18:16

Do they have specific criteria for all the other subject awards, OP? Is it always done on attainment or is there an element of perseverance and resilience in all of them?

Awards are a bit of a minefield tbh. I’m sure it’s quite possible to get it totally wrong but with the best of intentions.

Isatis · 19/07/2019 13:31

Out of curiosity, what did the award turn out to be for?

Di11y · 19/07/2019 13:44

don't leave, how would that look to other students who didn't even get an award? bet they'd love a textiles award if they weren't nominated for anything?

SlightlyMisplacedSingleDad · 19/07/2019 14:16

Wow. You're going to get talked about a LOT in his therapy sessions when he's 30...

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