Shopping with a toddler and baby

[Sugartits2012]

I have a 7 month old who hates being in the pushchair and a hyperactive three year old, so I absolutely detest going shopping with them. My DH wants to go shopping to buy new clothes for himself, he wants us to come along but not in the actual shops. He expects me to entertain them outside the shops for ages whilst he browses alone.

I explained that it is better for everyone if he goes shopping alone, and I stay home with the kids. He’s now in a strop stating I can’t cope with two kids in public and I’m ruining “family time”.

Am I being difficult? I just think it’s better to keep the children at home whilst he shops in peace. Rather then running after a toddler in a busy shopping centre and a crying baby.

He sounds dreadful. What’s his mum like? Is she supportive of you?

My abusive partner used to use phrases like "what sort of weirdo would do that', or "any normal person would do this" or "you're being over sensitive" etc
It's really clever abuse because it doesn't seem enough to mention as a big deal but over time you realise every little comment has chipped away at you until there's nothing left.

He also used to do nice things, like your partner does. Which further confuses things. In fairy tales the bad guys are all bad and the good guys are all good. In real life everyone is a mix which makes it harder to leave.

In the end my sister said; it's not really about being right or wrong about him. It's about, do you like how you feel about yourself when you're with him?

In fact he was also really a mummy's boy too and his mum gave me a tutorial once about how to serve his breakfast in bed. Could you be with my ex??

Every day on mumsnet i am introduced to a new way a man can try to control.his partner.

What is wrong with your Dh and why can't he choose some items of clothing without an entourage?

I cant actually believe anyone would think his demanslds were acceptable. What a dick!

He is abusive. Extremely abusive.
He is setting you up to fail in everything, criticising you for everything, you're damned if you do and damned if you don't.
Please please please take this seriously and get some support.
Start a new thread in relationships.
Call Women's Aid.
Talk to a supportive friend or family member.
Tell your GP.
Get counselling if possible.
You need to gather your strength and get your ducks in a row to LTB.

You need to serve his next meal sprinkled with cyanide instead of salt and pepper! He's a despicable abusive pig