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to feel uncomfortable (mixed sex accommodation)

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Chochito · 11/07/2019 22:37

I'm on a work project for a month with 9 colleagues from different parts of the company. I knew one of them before as I worked with him on a 6 week project last year. I don't know any of the others.

We are all staying in university halls of residence style accommodation. The building is usually only occupied by men but as we have it for private use we have the women staying on the 1st floor rooms and the men staying ion the ground floor. There are 3 women and 8 men on the project.

Some of our clients are also here and staying in the same accommodation. There are 3 women and 4 men. The female clients are staying on the 1st floor and the male clients on the ground floor.

The clients have en suite rooms, but 9 out of the 11 workers share communal bathrooms (shower cubicles, toilet cubicles). There is also a communal kitchen, on the ground floor, which can be accessed by the corridor with the men's bedrooms or by another door from the outside of the building.

Everyone has access to all parts of the building apart from people's bedrooms and there are no doors apart from to bedrooms, bathrooms, and kitchen.

2 of my colleagues are married (man and woman) and have been given an en-suite room on the first floor.

Is this odd or am I overreacting?

OP posts:
Flashingsilver · 11/07/2019 23:11

And all of you have a quick meeting about it.

merlotqueen · 11/07/2019 23:13

I would really hate this. It would make me very anxious as I am a very private person. How cheap to put you and clients in this position. Shock

steff13 · 11/07/2019 23:13

And all of you have a quick meeting about it.

Do it at your next group shower. 😂

Wearywithteens · 11/07/2019 23:13

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Orangeballon · 11/07/2019 23:15

I would not want to wash my fanduff in front of anybody.

martinidry · 11/07/2019 23:15

I'm with @JaniceBattersby

Fuck that, I'd be straight out the door and on my way home.

Do you get paid enough to be treated with this level of contemptuous disrespect?

Datun · 11/07/2019 23:16

Do you mean like this, OP? And is everyone naked, or wearing a swimsuit?

to feel uncomfortable (mixed sex accommodation)
Justbreathing · 11/07/2019 23:17

Well you really didn’t make that clear and you’re analogy to halls is stupid. Because they have private lockable showers.

You’re basically in a low rent council run gym.

No in that case, I wouldn’t stand for that.

SapphireSeptember · 11/07/2019 23:18

Nope, YANBU.

Where I'm going in August has a shared bathroom but the showers are in cubicles (thank goodness.) I would not want to be showering at the same time as other people. Just nope, not a chance in hell.

IhaveALooBrush · 11/07/2019 23:19

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Chochito · 11/07/2019 23:19

The men tend to shower together, I sneak in and shower before everyone else gets up and think the other woman also does it at random times when no one else is around. I think she skipped lunch one day to go and shower, as she had dampish hair in the next meeting.

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Justgivemesomepeace · 11/07/2019 23:19

Communal showers? What sort of place is this? I cant believe students or anyone would be happy to have communal showers. Ive just imagined having to see some of my colleagues naked in a shower and its really not a nice thought and the images won't go away....i cant imagine theyd be too pleased to see me in no clothes either. My naked body is something i dont even look at if i can help it. Who the hell thought that was ok? You'll have to get a rota and guard the door for each other or something.

Applejack5 · 11/07/2019 23:19

I don't think the accommodation set up is a problem, except for the showers! But I would feel that way whether they were open to both sexes or not... there is no way I'd be accepting having open communal showers with any of my colleagues, male or female. What a joke!

How many shower rooms are there, and can you lock them / take it in turns so you get privacy?

HelloyouKant · 11/07/2019 23:20

You’ve got to be fucking joking am I showering, naked with my work colleagues. Morning Pauline, nice muff. I would resign in a heartbeat if anyone even suggested it. It’s medievil.

Chochito · 11/07/2019 23:20

Flashingsilver There's only one set of showers and toilets so we can't put up signs.

Datun Yes, like your photo.

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C8H10N4O2 · 11/07/2019 23:20

Why are staff not in en suites as well as the clients? Whatever type of organisation do you work for?

Datun · 11/07/2019 23:20

Is it like my picture Chochito?

And what do they expect you to do? Shower with other women and possibly a man ? Naked?

Justbreathing · 11/07/2019 23:21

Get together and have a sign on the door saying occupied. For each individual and work put a rota.
Then get home and find another job

Datun · 11/07/2019 23:21

Sorry, crossed posted. No, you are not being in slightest bit unreasonable, in that case.

I've never heard anything like it.

Justbreathing · 11/07/2019 23:22

I mean the main door. Each person takes the whole space for 10 mins each.
That’s unless there are hundreds of you,

Is it amazon btw. Sounds like the kind of thing they might do!

EustaciaPieface · 11/07/2019 23:29

I go to a cheap council gym but we have shower cubicles!

GrandTheftWalrus · 11/07/2019 23:29

I'm away with work and theyve split married couples because there are no ensuite. So all female and all Male to a block and all days or nights.

We are in uni accommodation as well.

Thump · 11/07/2019 23:30

No, I wouldn't like that.

Ontheboardwalk · 11/07/2019 23:30

No fuck that shit. I’d be out of there YANBU

Thump · 11/07/2019 23:32

All gyms I've been members of have shower cubicles with lockable doors.
All youth hostel accommodation I've been in in the UK have the same.

What country are you in?

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