I took DS to the park today, with a change of clothes as it was due to rain and there’s a sandpit there which he loves. We had brought some sandpit toys too.
Got there and were happily playing (there’s no toys as such in the sandpit bit except what you bring yourself) and a little girl about the same age as DS (2) came over and tried to take his sandpit toys off him. I explained that they were his but we’d happily share the other sandpit toys we’d brought, so gave her a couple of bits to play with. Her mum came over and we chatted whilst watching the kids play; I tend to keep a close eye on DS as he’s only 2 and I worry about him running off, falling etc. He decided he wanted to play at the other side of the park so I got up to go with him and the lady laughed and said ‘leave him to play himself, you’re being too overprotective, he’ll be fine’. I laughed but explained that I wasn’t comfortable doing that and went with him. Her DD kept playing in the sandpit with our toys (again, happy with that as DS had lost interest in them).
After a while she came over and joined us again, made small talk- we had been talking about struggling with kids and I mentioned I’d had post natal depression when DS was born and she said how did you know? I said I’d spent a lot of time crying and feeling overwhelmed and she LAUGHED and said you actually just sat there and cried all day? I got a bit defensive at this and changed the subject; she asked me what I did and I told her (office job, nothing overly interesting) and she said that was ‘boring’ and she could never do anything like that. At this point I was getting a bit annoyed so started moving away with DS but she kept talking!
I was wearing harem pants and a hoodie and she said ‘don’t you ever wear makeup?’ I said no not really, I would like to start wearing a bit but other things seem to get in the way and I run out of time in the morning. She told me she always makes the effort to wear makeup for her DH. fine, each to their own. She then said ‘I bet you always wear joggers and scruffy clothes don’t you?’ I’d genuinely had enough at this point so picked up DS as it had started raining and said we were going to head off. She then told me I needed to make sure I dressed nicely and wore makeup otherwise ‘your husband will end up cheating on you, you don’t know what he does at work all day’. Er, if he’s going to cheat on me then he’s not the kind of man I want to be with! Her final comment was ‘by the way, your toys are in that sandpit over there somewhere’ (which is a REALLY big sandpit) at which point I just went to get them and then left.
AIBU or have I just met one of the rudest people ever?!