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Help settle a restaurant debate.

441 replies

IcedTeaForMe · 10/07/2019 13:25

I wasn't one of the people in this scenario but I was having this discussion with a friend who was.

There are five people out to dinner and they're splitting the billl. One person(my Friend) Karen has a gift card for the restaurant given to her by her employer. The gift card more than covers her share so she generously says that the rest of the gift card can be used to deduct from the bill for the other diners meaning that they'd pay around ten pounds less than they would have without Karen's gift card. One diner objects and says that the remaining bill should be split between all five(including Karen) and not the remaining four because she hasn't actually contributed any money to the bill, only a gift card that she didn't pay for.

It seems pretty clear cut to me who was in the wrong, but I'm curious to know what MN thinks?

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Atalune · 10/07/2019 13:26

Karen was very generous and the “friend” was being a pedant and a cunt.

SylviaAndSidney · 10/07/2019 13:27

The objector is a cheeky ungrateful bastard.

Kidworries · 10/07/2019 13:27

The objecting diner is in the wrong. Her share has been paid for by the card and giving every one £10 less

RosaWaiting · 10/07/2019 13:28

I think it's socially unacceptable to just cover your own bill with the gift card in this situation

she should have taken herself there for a meal! Or just one other person who might not disapprove.

SagAloojah · 10/07/2019 13:28

The objector is a twat. I hope Karen rescinded her offer in respect of the twat and they paid their full share with no tenner off.

RosaWaiting · 10/07/2019 13:29

PS I don't think Karen is in the wrong, but let's face it, most people would find this socially unacceptable to say "I have a gift card, no bill for me, woo hoo".

RB68 · 10/07/2019 13:30

friends voucher so more than fine for using to cover hers and contrib to others and NOT deduct and divide

StormTreader · 10/07/2019 13:30

Karens gift card was equal to her contributing that amount of her own money - the other person is being a CF of the highest order.

Hoppinggreen · 10/07/2019 13:30

The only time the objector would be reasonable would be if Karen had forced the restaurant on everyone purely because she had a gift card and the food was very expensive/rubbish

cheeseislife8 · 10/07/2019 13:30

I agree, the objector is BU. They would all still get the benefit of the gift card, even with Karen's meal being fully covered. The gift was for her, not her CF mates

Whitney168 · 10/07/2019 13:31

The only situation where I could see Karen actually being in the wrong would be if she chose the restaurant because she had the gift card, but budget-wise it was outside of the norm for the group.

However, assuming good friends, I would just have split the card/vouchers and everyone paid less (and have done so in the past).

CornishMaid1 · 10/07/2019 13:31

The objector is wrong. Karen was being generous.

Bluntness100 · 10/07/2019 13:31

The objector is wrong, it doesn't matter if it's cash, credit card or gift card how you pay, the objective is to pay for your share.

The objector was basically demanding a portion of her gift card and that's the ultimate grabby cf.

Original poster
IcedTeaForMe · 10/07/2019 13:32

PS I don't think Karen is in the wrong, but let's face it, most people would find this socially unacceptable to say "I have a gift card, no bill for me, woo hoo".

It genuinely wouldn't occur to me that anyone would have a problem with it. I wouldn't think twice about anyone else doing it.

P.S Apologies for the drip feed but if it makes a difference Karen covered the tip.

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BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 10/07/2019 13:32

Objector is a CF! I hope Karen took back the offer and covered her own share of the bill. How she covers her share of the bill is her own business.

Judashascomeintosomemoney · 10/07/2019 13:32

Atalune
As is often the case, the first poster on the thread nails it 😂!

mummabubs · 10/07/2019 13:32

It wouldn't offend me at all if someone used a gift card to pay for their portion!! Objecter is just being an ass.

crustycrab · 10/07/2019 13:32

She was being more than generous giving her friends £40 from her gift card. It's the equivalent of money, works exactly the same way in the restaurant.

She should've said ah ok, we will each pay for our own then and kept her £40! CF

MyOpinionIsValid · 10/07/2019 13:33

I think Karen is correct. The objecter is a twat. Grin

Lets assume the bill was £200, so 40 quid a head. Karen has gift card for 100 quid and throws that into the pot. That leaves a blance of 100 to be split 4 ways so 25 quid a head.

Or Karen could withdraw her gift card and everyone pays £40 a head. Without the gift card, everyone is worse off.

saj90 · 10/07/2019 13:33

Wow that's cheeky!!

saj90 · 10/07/2019 13:34

Posted too soon...what did they end up doing?!

Original poster
IcedTeaForMe · 10/07/2019 13:34

Karen didn't choose the restaurant.

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MrsExpo · 10/07/2019 13:34

The gift card had been paid for, the restaurant already has the money in hand for the card, so the card was offered in lieu of cash and represents Karen's contribution to the final bill. The fact that Karen didn't actually pay for it herself is irrelevant, surely.

Very generous of her and the injector is being a total cf for objecting.

MrsExpo · 10/07/2019 13:34

objector .... of course ..... flipping' auto correct ...

Bambamber · 10/07/2019 13:35

Surely it doesn't matter how you pay your share as long as you do pay it? Generally a gift card is bought with money so the meal has essentially been paid for with money gifted to her

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