To tell him he's behaviour is annoying me?( new guy )

[resteer]

4 months ago I started seeing a new guy.
The last week his been annoying me.
Half way through a conversation on WhatsApp he will read my message then not reply for a hour or more later but at the same time he is keep popping on WhatsApp.
Last night he did it,yet he was snap chatting me whilst he wasn't replying and we had a convo (yet wasn't replying to my WhatsApp)
This morning I woke up and he text me morning etc so I replied,he was replying every 2 mins then he hasn't read my last message but has been online.
It drives me up the wall.
I've seen what he does when he's with me.
He gets the message on his home screen ...puts his phone down then forgets.
Do I tell him it bugs me?
Or will he think I was crazy ?

Yeah I chat to my friends on WhatsApp but not as much as him.
It's just when I think nearly 4 hours with zero messages yet he has been online.
It's really irritating.

Man, I'm never getting WhatsApp. Sends you bendy.

I think you should discuss this with him. Purely so that he can see how needy and controlling and possessive you are and then for his sanity he can dump you.

You’re seriously whingeing that in a four hour period while he’s at work he hasn’t contacted you but is in contact with others and you’re carrying on like a petulant child with the ‘clearly they’re more interesting’ manipulative crap.

Tell him, give him a chance free himself from this stifling bullshit now.

How hard would it be for him to send a message saying hello
That is all I mean
Don't expect a full page novel.

But why does he need to message saying hello when you last spoke 4 hours ago?!

It's nice to check in.
I just like to know he's thinking about me.
He's clearly chatting to someone constantly

Maybe because he knows you'll message straight back and expect more messages? He knows you're ill and at a loose end or maybe he expects you to be sleeping and doesn't want to disturb you.

It doesn't matter why. You expecting this constant contact and checking up when he was last online is edging into territory nobody wants to be in.

Who knows, but the way you're obsessing isn't really normal behaviour.

just when I think nearly 4 hours with zero messages yet he has been online.

Four hours? That's fuck all. I can go much longer without replying. Sometimes it's days when husband is away. He's busy, I'm busy so chats are picked and dropped and picked back up when there's time. (Together 20 years)

If a new boyfriend told me he's unhappy with me taking too long to reply to him and that he's checked and knows I'm online and this makes him feel worthless and makes him question who I am taking to and what about and if they are more important to me, I'd genuinely see this as a big massive red flag warning me about possible control issues and I'd end it.

If you don't trust him and think he's chatting to other women, then get rid of him, it's not healthy or good for you to be checking his online behaviour every few minutes, you'll drive yourself crazy.

Thank goodness I hardly ever use WhatsApp.

Does he charge his phone in an out of the way place maybe? I only charge mine upstairs if I need to do it during the day and out of sight out of mind.

I don't understand this mentality at all. I'm very happily married and have no need to hear from my husband on an hourly basis. If he constantly messaged me I'd think he was going senile

It's the beginning when your unsure how the person feels so you spend all the time trying to work out if the lack of texts means he is going off you or he's met someone else etc etc
It's driving me mental

Genuinely, I think you need help to deal with this level of anxiety. It doesn't seem proportionate to me. Unless he's a dick and treating you so badly that you are questioning everything?

He's not.
He just keeps telling me about this girl who is trying it on with him.
He showed me her picture.
He went out at the weekend and text me first thing Sunday saying this married woman was all over him and her husband was arguing with her.
It's making me paranoid that he is chatting with this other girl
I hate it

Okay, that makes more sense. He is absolutely behaving like a dick and all these stories about other women seem designed to keep you on edge.

I don't think he's a keeper.

I'm just sick of never feeling like I'm good enough tbh
It's exhausting

Dump and move on. It's too intense to feel this way over messages and he's feeding your uncertainty and worry by being a complete dick. A complete dick by trying to make you jealous over other women.

Dump and find better. And if the next is normal, not a dick, and you find yourself obsessing in WhatsApp, then look to break up again.

There's a girl trying it on and a married woman who can't control herself in front of her husband, so two of them? Well that's nice for him. Also it's probably bullshit. Jealousy isn't a helpful emotion; either he wants to be with you so you laugh about this stuff, or the relationship isn't working, which is it?

DH is convinced that his new dentist fancies him. Maybe she does, probably she doesn't, but either way it hasn't stopped me taking the piss out of him about "that sexy tooth crack", "mmmmm the kinky stained tooth" etc.

Fgs move on op. This man is fucking with your head and you are tying yourself in knots.

Cut him loose. If you're this paranoid after 4 months what makes you think it'll get better?

This isn't about him not messaging you, this is a trust issue.

You don't trust him to be faithful, you don't trust that he's not talking to other women. Leave, it'll be better for both of you.

Why do you think he is telling me this?
Surely he knows must women would be a bit jealous.
I honestly don't know if I'm coming or going.

Absolutely bonkers. You wouldn't have survived back in the 60s when my boyfriend would call once in the preceding week to firm up arrangements for the Friday/weekend.

Why do you think he is telling me this?

Because he wants you to know how 'lucky' you are to be with him, he has women throwing themselves at him. Tell him to eff off and if he ever pulls that stunt again you're done. Or just dump him anyway.

You do sound a bit more crazy with every post buttttt I can kind of understand why from your last post about the alleged other woman.

Life is too short, OP. I think it's best just to move on now while it's still early days

Jesus, is this how relationships are judged these days? What the hell do you think we did back in the day, when there was only txt and no read receipt??! He's on snap chat, so maybe he prefers that to the (guessing here) heavy conversation on WhatsApp. Chill out child. It's early days