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...in hoping he gets knob rot and it falls off?

261 replies

harriethoyle · 09/07/2019 19:32

Supposed to exchange in a chain today. Buyer has demanded 10k reduction for an invented problem (not on the survey!). I either fold and lose 10k or stand on principle and possibly lose the sale. AIBU in watching Wimbledon with a stiff gin and wishing untold vexation on his head?!

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PaulinesPenStash · 10/07/2019 06:27

What a cheeky arsehole😠

ForInstance · 10/07/2019 06:46

YANBU, although you need to sort out whether it’s his head or his knob in which you’re wishing the vexation. You’re inconsistent between your post and your title Wink

CruellaFeinberg · 10/07/2019 06:50

@Justaboy

I think its safe to say that price haggling isn't the done thing in the UK!

You can haggle, just not so far down the line, not on fucking exchange day

Proteinshakesandovieshat · 10/07/2019 06:51

We had this. Years before we bought our house it had flooded once. Flood defences were improved and but was classed as low risk to flood. We boughtnit no issues.

When we sold it, another 5 years later, the buyer 2 days before exchange decided they wanted money off and a further survey where they come and drill holes in the wall and other things, because no one had told them it flooded. My solicitor called me and told me. I explained that they had been round several times. I showed them round and told them myself. Because I didnt want the situation where we got an offer then the buyer dropped out because it had previously flooded.

We also bought a new build and the exchange date was the final date with the builder.

The buyers had dragged everything on so long I told my solicitor they either exchanged on the day agreed or they could piss off. No further survey, no money off. My solicitor said their solicitor had said that I should be reminded I would lose the house I was buying if they dropped out. I simply reminded my solicitor that I was not that sentimental. If I lost my new house, there would be another one. Either exchange went ahead, as planned or they could piss off.

15 minutes later I got a call saying exchange was going ahead.

On the other hand. Last year I was at the bottom of the changing and someone in the middle was stringing it out. Couldnt get life insurance, because he had to go for an assesment. Then wasnt going in to go through the contract, kept cancelling appointments.

Another exchange date was upon us. My solicitor called and said it wasnt going ahead again. I had, had enough. It had gone on 6 months. I was staying with a friends because exh had attacked me and I was sleeping on a sofa with my kids. The marital house had sold the 6 months before.

I snapped and told my solicitor, we either exchanged, or I was pulling out and would rent someone where while I looked for another property. And i would have done. I was getting fed up of dates constantly changing because one person was trying to put it off.

Again, within 15 minutes it was confirmed we were exchanging. Turned out this person was a teacher and was wanting to put off moving until summer holidays. Which I understand but up until that point they hadnt communicated that at all. If I had been told, in the beginning that I could have rented somewhere until the summer holidays. After I had put my offer in, until completion.

Some people fuck about for their own gain. Financial or to fit the timeline to them. It's like they forget that the chain is full of people with their own lives and financial responsibilities.

harriethoyle · 10/07/2019 10:15

Just booked a contractor in to look at "problem" and give me a price to fix, if it is an actual problem. Thanks for all the good wishes!

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MzHz · 10/07/2019 10:21

Good for you!

DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou · 10/07/2019 10:34

OP, they are cunts aren't they?

We just lost our buyer who pulled out just before exchange due to a stupid non-issue.

We now have new buyers after we reduced the price a lot for a quick sale. We are currently quibbling over 5k to get it sold to them.
I've passed the message on to them that if they even think about wanting to drop the price before exchange then they can swivel. I will lose them as buyers if they think they can fuck us around further, even if it means losing the house we want.

I hate being fucked around and it always seems like we're the ones taking all the hits.

This time round they can all fuck off with their threats and bullshit.

harriethoyle · 10/07/2019 10:41

I think the problem is @Dontbitetheboob (great name btw Grin) is that we would never dream of acting this way when purchasing and so it's doubly vexing when it happens cos you never get the benefit but only the grief!

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Ratbagratty · 10/07/2019 10:55

I had this all be, said we needed new electric board and rewire, wanted 10k off price. They picked the wrong thing to flag up. My mum works for an electrician, who had done our wiring and put a new board in with full certs previously.

We demanded their survey that said this. It didn't say anything about it. We said no way and have them a detailed report on why they were being CF. Turns out they wanted the money towards putting in radiators and a new boiler!

Say no he a CF.

Cheeserton · 10/07/2019 11:05

Why indulge his nonsense when you've had surveys? Waste money on contractors? Just tell him no!

Justaboy · 10/07/2019 12:07

You can haggle, just not so far down the line, not on fucking exchange day

Exactly!, so why isn't this system being changed as it direly needs to be?

Or who is it benefitting the EA's the legal ones just who?.

smallereveryday · 10/07/2019 13:25

If he wants the expense of more legal fees and another survey .. if he pulls out when you refuse .. because that's what it will cost him.. then he can fill his boots.

Say no. It's the oldest shittiest trick in the book.

JacquesHammer · 10/07/2019 13:41

Just booked a contractor in to look at "problem" and give me a price to fix, if it is an actual problem

Good idea IMO and I would have done the same.

You have to be very sure if you’re going to accuse someone of bluffing that you know they’re actually not serious.

plasterboots · 10/07/2019 14:03

Good call OP, don't give in!

Motoko · 10/07/2019 14:19

OP doesn't have to accuse them of bluffing, she can just say no, regardless.

MonkeyTrap · 10/07/2019 14:21

Unless he’s cash, he couldn’t take the reduction and still exchange today. If he’s getting a mortgage he’d need a revised mortgage offer reflecting the purchase price.

Tell him to FO.

plasterboots · 10/07/2019 16:08

@Ratbagratty I love that story, they must've looked like right planks! Although I bet it still left a bitter taste?

I have to say that if someone was like this with me, even if they backed down I'd not be bending over backwards to be leaving the place clean and tidy! They shook themselves in the foot!

PhillipeFellope · 10/07/2019 16:21

Someone did this to us, 10k drop. In exchange day. Told him to fuck off. And indeed, off was the direction in which he did fuck.

Ratbagratty · 10/07/2019 16:47

@plasterboots yes very bitter taste, especially as we let them have a significant price drop on the asking price!

They came across as a bit new to the game but I think there was another family member "in the development trade" pushing them to do this. (The estate agent may have mentioned this to us!).

@harriethoyle what did your contractor say? Have you gone back to your buyer yet?

Housemum · 10/07/2019 17:53

So what’s the update? House buying is so bloody stressful! We moved last year, we knew the people selling the house we bought so we told the solicitor up front about things that would cause issues (lack of planning for an extension and a missing gas certificate - things that can be sorted by an indemnity policy, we’d already had confirmation from council that the extension had been there long enough not to be an issue). Sure enough, come exchange date nothing had been done and it was all delayed and we had to rush getting these issues sorted. Frustrating as we paid for a “proper” solicitor but actually one of these call centre conveyancers would have probably been more efficient!

CaMePlaitPas · 10/07/2019 17:56

On principle I wouldn't exchange and walk away.

MrsBadcrumble123 · 10/07/2019 18:03

Our buyer did this it’s called gazundering! We told her to F off we’ll sell the house to someone else....we exchanged the next day and my potty training toddler spent our last day there without a nappy on

harriethoyle · 10/07/2019 18:05

So update is that there is no emergency work that needs doing, as I thought, but there will be some future work which need doing - think a misted pane of glass which eventually need replaced but no urgency. Funnily enough replacement cost is a FRACTION of the 10k he wants off. So have said I will knock off the replacement cost but otherwise he can boil his head. Have given a deadline and will stick to it. So now we wait...

Does it stick in my craw to offer anything off? Yes. Will it cost me more than the reduction if I have to remarket, find a new place, etc if my chain collapsed? Yes. So am trying to be pragmatic Angry

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harriethoyle · 10/07/2019 18:06

Lolololol @mrsbadcrumble123 GENIUS!

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perfectstorm · 10/07/2019 18:10

He wants a ten grand reduction for a misted pane of glass to be replaced? Is it diamond-studded?

YABVVVVVVU. If his knob falls off, it will stop hurting. For the rot to cause true agony, the knob needs to remain in situ.

Really sorry you're dealing with this. It should be against the law to pull stunts like this after exchange, unless a really serious issue arises.