To think there is a grave in my garden?

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NC for this as the pics are outing.

Moved in to my house in April and it has what I thought is a really ugly raised bed in the garden. Now the summer has arrived I've realised it gets no sunshine on it at all so isn't a raised bed after all.

DD and I were pottering our there this afternoon and we came across this plaque on the raised bed.

WTF.

Is it a coincidence or is it a grave?!

The Daily Mail are cunts!
The Daily Mail are cunts!
E I The A D O
The Daily Mail are cunts!

Get out there and get your own fucking stories, you bunch of idle twats!

Oh Gingernaut you made me spit my coffee out!!

First sentence mentions it could be outing

Daily Mail really does not give a fuck eh ? Twats

It reminds me of this book which I read recently

www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B074ZNQ81M/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_U_x_.B0jDbHP5FF58?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

I think you’re doing the right thing OP

I would think most people wouldn’t want their child’s resting place (if that’s what it is) to be disturbed and I would think those saying dig it up as it’s a way to keep their memory alive must be in the minority. I found reading those comments a bit upsetting. However it is your garden so really you can do whatever you want but if day try to be respectful, which you do seem to be.

I say this as someone who had a stillbirth at full term earlier this year. We put a lot of thought into where we would bury our daughter. We didn’t consider burying her in our garden for very long but we did discuss it (we moved into this house about ten days after the funeral and don’t think we would want to move again) and we dismissed it because we can’t be sure we won’t move but we wanted her as close to us as possible so I could understand why someone would do that. It’s sad that they didn’t have any more children.

Sorry I know this is a somewhat lighthearted and intriguing thread. I am reading with interest too.

I hope you get to the bottom of it OP.

Just saw the daily mail has published the story. FFS. I wouldn’t have posted if I’d read that. What tw*ts.

CoolCarrie Thu 11-Jul-19 14:16:39
Ruth Rendell used a very similar idea at the start of A Fatal Inversion..., it’s one of her best imo.

I knew this seemed familiar, I must give RR a re-read

ffs, the daily mail has published the story link

MrsButterBosom Wed 10-Jul-19 20:10:14
I’ve had 10 miscarriages and am a huge history/archeology nerd. If I could have buried my babies I really love the idea of someone finding them and investigating their story! I know a lot of people won’t find it “respectful” but I’d rather someone “disrespect” mine or my babies graves of it stopped them being forgotten entirely. After all that’s the whole reason we bury people - so they are never forgotten. Why we built pyramids and long barrows and all sorts of monuments. The dead never want to be forgotten and I think thousands of years of this need, this want, this urge, shouldn’t be trumped by an early Victorian idea of “respect” born out of grave robbing. OP, dig if you want or research and see who might be there and leave it alone. Either way I’m so happy that this family are being talked about , wondered over and remembered! Who here will forget the time we all came across a possible grave in a garden on Mumsnet?!?!

We buried our MMC in a pot under some lavandula stoechas. We sealed it in a klip jar, I forget what they are called, - and a few sealed sandwich bags too - and I put a photo of us in there and I wrote all the details on the back.

Hopefully it's never disturbed, but in the future, if it ever is, whoever finds it will know what it is and who we were etc, if they are anything like me, I'd be intrigued to fuck and need to find out all about them. Hopefully they'd re-bury it too.

DM 'journalists' are cunts.

my old house (XH still lives there) has a couple of dogs buried at the bottom of the garden. one of them was an enormous rottweiler, and i swear you could have buried a human in the grave we dug for him.

we were half expecting a visit from the police as the neighbours were very nosey, but remained unchallenged.

makes you think, doesn’t it? i bet people get up to all sorts.

It’s Jo Tweedy from the Daily Mail.

Lazy lazy journalist

Wonder what she got paid for the article.

Where did journalists get their stories from before Mnet?
I guess they had to work.
At least they can't ask for degrees to do the job, anyone can read and copy a story from here.

My brother moved to Gunnislake, Cornwall recently and has dug up all the bones of a horse from his land.

On the brighter side, if the family is out there, would be a good chance they’d see it in the DM.

The daily mail are cunts to a man.
Fuck off

Yes op, ask the neighbour if the husband was called Harold.

I think the old lady was very lucky that someone as kind and caring as you bought her house

If anyone is looking for A Fatal Inversion, it's Barbara Vine (RR pen name) I recently read it and thought it was very good, totally did not see the end coming.

And in fact I read it and thought "oh right, well okay" ...I finished it late at night in a hurry, and after lying down with the lights out mulling it over I thought "wait a minute....." put the light back on and went back a couple of pages to re read and BAM! Really good ending when you don't speed read to the end as you cannot stop yawning

Damn you DM and fucking this up.
No doubt the OP won't return now and I don't blame her.

Stupid arseholes.

Can MN not do anything about the daily mail taking their stories? Do they not want to do anything to protect their users?

I was thinking similar - is DM allowed to do that?

They used OP's photos too which are definitely her copyright.

They used OP's photos too which are definitely her copyright.

I think there is something to say thar you surrender copyright when you post on MN.

Can MN not do anything about the daily mail taking their stories? Do they not want to do anything to protect their users?

I was just thiking this, i know you post online you cant really control what happens but if the sodding daily mail keep taking stories it's surely going to stop people posting. I certainly am more wary of what i would post now.

I've seen it on the daily mail. Not happy about it!

I did notice that at no point does the reporter mention that it is the possible grave of a still born, wonder why that could have been 🙄

I hope the family don't see it before my neighbour has had chance to speak to them.

I'll be writing an email to complain. She's also said that I found a gravestone! Hardly!!