To think there is a grave in my garden?

[IsItATomb]

NC for this as the pics are outing.

Moved in to my house in April and it has what I thought is a really ugly raised bed in the garden. Now the summer has arrived I've realised it gets no sunshine on it at all so isn't a raised bed after all.

DD and I were pottering our there this afternoon and we came across this plaque on the raised bed.

WTF.

Is it a coincidence or is it a grave?!

It's not a grave. It's completely the wrong proportions.

It's most likely just a Hellgate

The old lady was obsessed with her beloved Playstation 1 and spent every waking hour on it. She was utterly heartbroken when it finally gave up the ghost and couldn't be repaired.

If you look very carefully, you'll see the faint shadow of a faded 'y' at the end of the plaque.

Can you look up the census records online and see if there was a Harold who then disappeared?

Oh this is so sad........whatever it is someone lost their baby. It isn't meant to happen that way

Oh this is so sad........whatever it is someone lost their baby. It isn't meant to happen that way

It is sad, but it doesn't necessarily mean that it was a baby. It could have been a 95yo parent burying their 75yo son.

Shameless placemarking.

I'm impressed you're keener to dig it up than you are to check the deeds!

What's holding you up !
Get digging 👻

My vote is for memory garden.

If the house was built in the '80s, do you know what was there before?

Really sad this got over grown and neglected.

Google the old lady, see if it says “loving wife of the late Harold”. If it says “loving wife of Harold, not seen since the 80s along with beloved dog” then you know it is a grave.
I’ll be in the Winchester until you have safely updated.

It’s most likely to be buried ashes I’d have thought?

Memorial garden or ashes scattered there.

Though I am reminded of a mother/son combo in my hometown who lived in a really rundown house, he had DS and passed away. Rumour has it she buried him in the garden.

Either way I hope you find the answer OP, good luck!

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll "if you look very carefully, you'll see the faint shadow of a faded 'y' at the end of the plaque"

Op, is your name Mandy Jordache?

I second also being in the Winchester, having a pint, waiting for this to all blow over 👀 good luck OP.

Even if it was a 75yr old son buried by his 95yr old mother, it's still a mother burying her baby. It's still not the way it should go.

Even if it was a 75yr old son buried by his 95yr old mother, it's still a mother burying her baby. It's still not the way it should go.

Very true.

Is that cat poo on the plaque? I can't work it out

Shamelessly place marking

@IsItATomb when my DD was 3 - many moons ago - we were at our caravan for the summer & my son's goldfish which we'd brought with us died. They were upset so I wrapped it in a little shroud & we had a funeral where we all said a few words then buried it under the caravan. For days after she's sit around pretending to be bored then suddenly announce she'd had a good idea - we could bury the goldfish again. We did it for about 3 days till my ex realised what we were up to & next time we went out for the daily exhumation & reburial it was gone.

Are you planning on taking out the cement? If so you need to dig down to the level you want to remove it. That’s a lot of digging!

I think it’s covering something ie sewage, piping etc. There has to be a reason it’s like that as it’s not for the looks!

Just because a raised bed was built in an area with no sun does not mean it's automatically a grave It just means someone wasn't a good gardener.

henny I agree. Sometimes, MN is a font of useful knowledge and support. At other times, you get advised to have the police dig up your raised flowerbed.

I might be cold hearted but I don’t think it’s disrespectful to dig it up and see. It’s not like you are doing it knowing it’s a grave and doing it for fun.
At the end of the day if it is a grave then it is just a body, the soul will have left long ago. Treat it with respect obviously but you don’t have to keep it in your garden.

at the back of our garden there is a mini grave yard of 5 graves complete with tombstones from the people who originally settled here. I have plans to expand it....

Before I got to the bit I haven't quoted, I thought you were planning on bumping off members of your family 😂