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To think there is a grave in my garden?

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IsItATomb · 09/07/2019 19:21

NC for this as the pics are outing.

Moved in to my house in April and it has what I thought is a really ugly raised bed in the garden. Now the summer has arrived I've realised it gets no sunshine on it at all so isn't a raised bed after all.

DD and I were pottering our there this afternoon and we came across this plaque on the raised bed.

WTF.

Is it a coincidence or is it a grave?!

To think there is a grave in my garden?
To think there is a grave in my garden?
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BearRabbitPants · 10/07/2019 07:40

Sorry nothing to add but a place mark Blush

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IsItATomb · 10/07/2019 08:17

You guys are hilarious.

I'm out and about this morning but once I'm done I'll get the deeds out and have a look. There's a lady who lives a few doors down who's been here forever and who knows everyone's business so if anyone's going to know, it'll be here so I'll be keeping my eyes open for her.

Also, my mom works in an old police station on the computers and has all policey people pass through and said if she sees anyone from forensics she'll show them my pictures and see what they think!

It's not poo on the plaque!! It was covered in dirt and me and DD hosed it down to see what it was. I thought it was going to be a "bless this garden" sort of thing!

I'm not bothered about coming across a body when I start digging. If there's anyone in there I don't think there will be much left of them now, it looks ancient! I see death in my line of work and am immune to it I think.

Also, if there's not a body down there I'm going to ask DH if he can put me in there when it's my time Grin

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Skittlesss · 10/07/2019 08:40

I think they defo killed someone and buried them Grin

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IsItATomb · 10/07/2019 08:43

I have a patio too. I'm really hoping my house isn't like Cromwell Street...

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Gingerkittykat · 10/07/2019 08:53

Is the plaque attached to something or just loose in the earth?

What is it made of?

It doesn't look really old, more of a decoration than a grave marker.

Weenurse · 10/07/2019 08:55

Good luck, glad I’m not the one digging

flamingjune123 · 10/07/2019 09:10

If this is a grave, particularly of someone's child ( no matter what age that person is) I think you should leave it alone
I too believe the soul will have left the body, however someone has placed that earthly body there to be left in peace.

TerribleTwosPhase · 10/07/2019 09:30

I would imagine having someone buried in the garden would make it quite difficult to sell the house at some later date.

This is also my thought, is it maybe best just to leave it alone and be totally unaware? (Says me whos nose would totally get the better of her and probably need to check)

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 10/07/2019 09:59

Puzzledandpissedoff I loved your adams family clip.. but I was thinking more of the 1982 film beginning with P. I won't mention it in full as I don't want to worry OP.. but PLEASE don't dig it up to build a swimming pool OP

ChocChocButtons · 10/07/2019 10:01

My uncles still born sister is buried at his old farm house. This was in the 50’s tho obviously.

DtPeabodysLoosePants · 10/07/2019 10:03

Shamelessly PMK. I was just thinking their haven't been any juicy threads lately and here you are with your grave-in-the-garden!

SoupDragon · 10/07/2019 10:08

If we are lucky, there will be a locked safe buried there.

Travis1 · 10/07/2019 10:14

oh wow! How interesting.

BentBaastard · 10/07/2019 10:18

Blimey
I’m utterly fascinated by this

MRex · 10/07/2019 10:47

From the title I wondered if the photos might be of my grandparents' old garden and was going to explain it's 3 dogs. I hope you find a dog or cat skeleton, it's awful when people lose their child. Call the council and ask the planning office if there is a grave?

We and our neighbours used to find bones in the gardens a lot. In the early days someone had called the police for a large femur, it used to be a farm and the leg turned out to have belonged to a horse.

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IsItATomb · 10/07/2019 10:50

I have an update.

I spoke to a neighbour and she said that the old couple who owned the house had a stillborn son and she believes the plaque would have been for him.
The neighbours next door neighbour helped the old lady in the run up to the birth and afterwards so she's going to speak to her to see if she can find out anymore about whether the patch is a memorial which seems very likely now.
She said that the couple didn't have any children after that and only had nieces and nephews.
She's going to see if her neighbour can get in touch with them to see if they want the plaque back.

Very sad indeed Sad

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MRex · 10/07/2019 10:54

That's very sad, particularly never having another child. All that pain instead of the newborn snuggles. I hope your neighbour remembers his name.

Okyah · 10/07/2019 11:04

Oh that’s so sad. There is so little to tangibly keep of a baby that comes into this world stillborn so it would be lovely no matter what you decide to do with this area, to keep his memory alive somehow - maybe a plant or a tree and if you aren’t able to return the plaque to keep it there? The poor parents.

MrsHardbroom · 10/07/2019 11:09

@IsItATomb haven't we all ?! Grin

GoFiguire · 10/07/2019 11:10

“Haven’t we all” what? Had a still birth? Errrr....... no Hmm

Drum2018 · 10/07/2019 11:13

Aw, that's so sad. They probably had it planted with lovely flowers back in the day. I have a rose bush planted in our garden for our baby who died - no plaque though.

Pinkyponkcustard · 10/07/2019 11:27

Ah so sad, you need to plant something nice somewhere for that little baby

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IsItATomb · 10/07/2019 11:29

Very sad.

I've got a cherry tree growing in the garden, if they don't want it I'll put the plaque there for them.

I hope they can look down and see that the house is now the family home that they dreamed of.

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IsItATomb · 10/07/2019 11:31

@MrsHardbroom was making a reference to one of my earlier comments about my waiting to bury my husband in the garden, she's not on about the still born!

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MrsHardbroom · 10/07/2019 11:36

Thanks for clarifying- hadn't read to the end, sorry for any confusion.

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