To think my MIL is a CF!?

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MIL told me she was visiting today and asked if she could have some tea whilst she was here. Said yeah that's fine.

I don't mind when she comes as she watches my DS whilst I run errands/do the housework.

The bit that's making me feel she's being a CF is the fact that she text me prior to coming to ask if I had some food in, if not she would bring something of her own to make

I don't know if I'm just overthinking it, AIBU?

I honestly don’t get why that would offend or bother you.

No it’s fine. At least she didn’t insist you went out and got stuff for her. Perhaps she is going somewhere after and needed lunch and could spend more time with you if she ate at yours.

She wanted to make sure there was food and offered to pick some up if necessary. I don’t see the CFery

What? How could you be offended by this?

I think she's being polite and considerate. What a nice woman!

No it's fine. She was just hungry.

I can see no way in which she's being a CF? She double checked you had food in for tea and offered to bring something if you didn't? That sounds helpful to me.

Literally the furthest from being a CF. She sounds considerate.

No worries here. She may have worded it awkwardly but it seems like her intention was good.

Don't really get what is wrong with what she did

Sounds like a very considerate and helpful MIL.

Yep. Pretty much the opposite of CFery.

Why on earth would that be cheeky!? You sound like a coiled spring. Perhaps it's convenient for her to eat at yours tonight (whilst you use her for childcare) and to make your life easier she offers to her own food. Honestly

She should have assumed you had a fridge bursting full and risked going hungry

She sounds really considerate! YABU

Another yabu from me, she sounds helpful and considerate.

Sounds like a considerate thing to do. What is the problem you are seeing with it?

I presume you are thinking it's perhaps a passive aggressive dig that you are not always organised or something?
Unless she has previous, I think you are being daft.
Sounds like she was being considerate.

You sound awful I mean seriously wtf. She considerately asked you in advance if you had any food if not she would bring some and prepare it presumably for you all to have?! That's not cheeky fucker that's a lovely woman. You should be inviting her to tea she obviously tries to make an effort. You are rude. I wonder if youd be this rude about your own mum/parents.

I don't know I just wouldn't bring my own food to someone else's house

YABU

Nothing about that is rude or cheeky

I’m a nanny lol I bring my own food sometimes to work. hahaha am I a CF?

Why are people on MN so weird about this. Sure it’s offensive to bring your own food to a dinner party. It’s not offensive to invite yourself round for tea and then offer to bring it with you.

She sounds the very opposite of a cheeky fucker. Kindhearted and thoughtful.

But she asked if she could have tea and you said yes?! If she was staying a while to watch DS while you did whatever she was probably just forward planning in case you had no food in.