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Original poster

To be annoyed at my dh

75 replies

Redyoyo · 08/07/2019 20:34

Its the summer holidays here, dh and i are doing the childcare between us. I get the shopping delivered on a Friday, food consumption is normal over the weekend whilst dh is working. On a Monday and Tuesday dh is off and by a Tuesday night we have no food left. Not even a biscuit, no snacks and I've just discovered he's eaten the Italian sausage for tomorrow nights dinner! I've spent £90 since friday and today he bought the kids a McDonald's! AIBU to be mad at him for being a greedy pig!

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PawPawNoodle · 08/07/2019 20:37

How long is the shopping meant to last?

cricketmum84 · 08/07/2019 20:53

Where are you shopping for £90 of food to be completely gone in that space of time??

I spent £80 at LIDL on Saturday and have a fridge full of food and ingredients for every meal until Friday!

How can he possibly have eaten that much food??

Northernparent68 · 08/07/2019 20:54

Well he has to eat, surely you have stand by food, like a bag of pasta

vincettenoir · 08/07/2019 21:14

YNBU to be annoyed. But the food is gone now and there’s nothing to be gained by staying mad about what she has done. You might just need to talk about how to plan the rest of the week going forward. This might be a bit of a learning curve for him snd although it might (quite rightly) seem obvious to you that if you’re at home in the week you don’t power through all the food, he doesn’t seem to be switched onto that yet.

Original poster
Redyoyo · 08/07/2019 21:38

£90 usually lasts a week, so that's 6 dinners, we get one takeaway, at least 7 breakfasts and packed lunches and snacks for the two kids. The past couple of weeks the shop has lasted 4/5 days max and to top it off he had his friends round in a daddy daycare afternoon today and they ate my hidden packet of topics for my secret cuppa once the kids are in bed.... gutted!

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cricketmum84 · 08/07/2019 21:41

He ate your topics??? LTB. Seriously. 😂

My DH wouldn't dare touch my chocolate!

Butterymuffin · 08/07/2019 21:41

Send him to the shops with his personal spending money, ie that he'd normally spend just on him, to buy more food with

Fedupatforty · 08/07/2019 21:43

Have the same problem: it drives me mad. It’s like he’s some kind of locust that attacks my fridge the minute the delivery man leaves : aren’t teenage boys supposed to grow out of this? Why do they do it still in their thirties/forties.

I tried putting a weekly meal planner up on the fridge with the weeks meals on it so that he could figure out what was needed for meals: didn’t work 😕

cricketmum84 · 08/07/2019 21:46

@Fedupatforty I have to do this with 14yo DS as he got into the habit of trying to make full on meals when he got home from school using all the stuff I had earmarked on my meal plan!!!

He doesn't do that anymore but he has started a habit of midnight sandwiches. So we get up the next morning and there's FA left for pickups!! Drives me insane.

He still wouldn't dare touch my topics though.

2toe · 08/07/2019 21:46

Maybe my logic is odd but why not get the food shop delivered on a Wednesday so he has fewer options on his days off and might not swoop on it like a vulture.

sadkoala · 08/07/2019 21:50

WTH I'd be quite pissed off at that?

WTF does he do just sit there and stuff his mouth ???

sadkoala · 08/07/2019 21:53

I'd be putting sticky notes on every individual item so he opens cupboard/fridge and sees "hands off the sausage greedy fucker" "don't even fucking think about eating this" "put your greedy hands on my topics and it's the last time you'll have hands"

Etc

Fedupatforty · 08/07/2019 22:03

Maybe you could put the food in the washing machine or the hoover cupboard. If he’s anything like my DH he’ll have no idea how to open it...

TitsInAbsentia · 08/07/2019 22:08

2toe
Maybe my logic is odd but why not get the food shop delivered on a Wednesday so he has fewer options on his days off and might not swoop on it like a vulture.

I like this idea, he'll be crying on Monday and Tuesday when there's no food left and you can tell him why it didn't last and send him to the shops with a a list you just happen to have ready.

tolerable · 08/07/2019 22:08

i didnt know you couldstill get topics?

DontCallMeShitley · 08/07/2019 22:15

You need a lockable fridge safe.

OKBobble · 08/07/2019 22:19

Yep either only buy a couple of days worth of food or get it delivered on your first day off

Ukelou · 08/07/2019 22:26

Seriously we are advising a grown woman to change delivery days because a grown man isn't responsible enough to not eat the families food. Teenagers a bit different but this is an adult who is so greedy and selfish he eats everyone's food. He needs to stop and you should not be rearranging to manage him he's an adult he should manage himself.

jelly79 · 08/07/2019 22:30

Topics are a Great choice of chocolate bar.

Why is your cuppa a secret?

Tell him to go shopping!

Original poster
Redyoyo · 08/07/2019 22:49

Topics 4 for a pound in Tesco just now!
I don't want to change my tesco delivery i like the Friday guy!
I'm liking the post it idea I'll do this on friday!

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mrsm43s · 09/07/2019 07:00

Is it not fairly obvious that if the children are off school and you/DH are off work more, that you need more food in over the holidays? Also, why are they your Topics, not family Topics to share? I would think it was fairly normal to offer some biscuits or bars that were in the cupboard to guests.

balonzz · 09/07/2019 07:08

I had 2 partners who were greedy fecks. They seemed cheerfully unaware of mess that needed cleaning around the house, but they could spot a 'hidden' mar bar at 20 paces.

balonzz · 09/07/2019 07:09

I didn't have those partners at the same time, to be clear

BullBullBull · 09/07/2019 07:18

If he’s hungry, he should be allowed to eat

Isatis · 09/07/2019 07:36

Feed him on toast for the rest of the week and point out that it's because he's already eaten what he was supposed to have on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday.