Apologises if this is long winded, I'm very hormonal and heavily pregnant and I don't think I am being unreasonable but it's hard to tell in the state I'm in, I'll try not to drop feed. Here goes.....
My best friend (Lets call her sue) and I have known each other for over 13 years. We worked together for most of that and I have always found she is the person I can talk to and confine in. About 2 years ago, we both left that particular job, and even though we no longer worked together, we spoke and met up all the time. She was like a second sister to be and she always says she feels the same. Over the last year, our contact has slowed down a bit but we are still there when we really need each other, and we pick up where we left off IYSWIM.
late last year, I discovered I was pregnant. Completely unplanned as my DP has had chemo so you can imagine the shock, plus I have a teenager from a previous relationship, and DP has taken the role of step dad wonderfully.
After telling my DP and DD, Sue was the next person I had to tell, and I also really wanted her as my birth partner as she is the level headed person you really need in labour, and I really wanted her to be apart of it. She was over the moon, said yes straight away and has generally been very excited about the entire thing. Over the last few months, we seem to have had less and less contact, she has been going through quite a few problems which I have tried to support her with but throughout it all, she has a ring the baby being born is going to 've amazing etc.
Jump forward a few months and I have such severe PGP and other health issues, my obstetrician has decided to induce me. The date I have been given is only 3 days before my due date, but they don't want me to go too far over. I was given tomorrow as a date 2 weeks ago, told sue and she was even more excited. Since then I have a wreck worrying about the logistics etc as the hospital is a good 45 minutes away.( I have been put under the peri mental team as my anxiety and depression has spiralled) but I wasn't concerned as I knew I could rely on sue, (My DP doesn't drive, and a taxi is about £50.). We were supposed to meet up at the weekend to chat about arrangements etc, but she went radio silent until 1am this morning, so rather than chat with her, I had to message her the plans. I then asked her if she was still ok to drive, to be met with silence again. Didn't know what to think, until 3 this afternoon when she announced she didn't know if she would have the car, as her DH might need it.!!!!!! I have no fucking idea how she was planning to get to the hospital tomorrow if labour was kick started early, and I'm now panicking and back to stage one.
My AIBU is this, should I tell her just not to fucking bother, and drive in myself (only other option) and ruin a long friendship or should I just maintain a silence and just let her get on with it in the knowlege she probably isn't going to be there.
Sorry for the long rant, hope it makes sense