Row - reading list

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My American husband can not believe that my daughters school do not have a (year 8) summer reading list. We have explained they don't but he doesn't believe us. How can I prove that the list does not exist without embarrassing ourselves? Does your school set a reading list? Is it something we just don't do in the UK?
NB obviously my daughter will be doing her own reading over the summer, yes I'm really annoyed he 'doesn't believe' us.

No!

Why do you need to prove anything? He asked, you answered - that's the end of it.

I have never known a summer reading list.

Let him ring the school and ask.

One if my children’s school does (private, girls 4-18) ...but it’s the only one. (We’ve had several different schools in the past few years).
It’s a bit pointless for her as we’ve already read the majority of the books on it and the other two aren’t her thing.

My dd (yr 8 state secondary) has a reading list that she was given in September but it was more recommended books than compulsory. I think this is more common in the states as they have such a long summer break.

Tell him to sign her up to the Summer Reading Challenge at the library.

Let him make a fool of himself over it. He’s being a knob for not believing you

Summer reading challenge is for primary school kids but you can still do your own.

Ds was given a list from which he needs to read one book over the summer but generally, no there’s no summer reading list.
I do look at this list for dcs to choose from if we re looking for inspiration
schoolreadinglist.co.uk/

He ‘doesn’t believe’ you? Why would you lie?

Very easy to prove - give him the school's contact details and suggest that he check for himself.

If he doesn't believe you tell him to contact the school and ask.

We don't want him to call the school as they know me well and my daughter is very studious and I feel it will be embarrassing and opening up a stupid family row publicly.

He said my daughter could be lying - she doesn't, he compared this to when she hadn't properly looked for her trainers a couple of weeks ago which is frustrating but different from lying.

I have complained about the school communications before so he thinks I might have 'missed' the list. 🤷🏻‍♀️

There is suggested reading available from her school library, it's not a summer reading list.

We always had one. It was the highlight of my summer. The year before we moved from prep to senior school we had a 100 book list, I went back having finished it

I really wish it was more of a thing here, I think it’s so valuable.

@JacquesHammer She will read her own choices, we just can't manifest a list that doesn't exist.

She will read her own choices, we just can't manifest a list that doesn't exist

I’m not suggesting you do.

I’m saying it’s sad that more places don’t do it as IME you read stuff you’d never consider.

Find a list online as a compromise?

Is she not his daughter? Why would he assume she is lying? At my son's school there are suggested reading lists but mainly to give ideas as to what to read but not compulsory reading. To be fair as DS was an avid reader the one for his age group was usually inappropriate as having already been read, too simplistic or too young for his taste.

If he feela she should be doing some reading one quick look at the uni threads suggests she should be starting to read things that interest her rather than forced down routes.

His attitude to you both is a much bigger issues than any reading list.

In the US we have summer reading lists from 6th grade up. Two or three required books and a report on each of them, due the first day of school. My grandson is 11th grade - He has Hemingway's "Old Man and the Sea" and Melville's "Moby Dick". He will wait until the last week of summer vacation to read them and the last day to do the reports!

Let him contact the school and make a fool of himself. You can then have the I told you so smug grin.

Yes we have a reading list.

Last 2 schools haven't though.

In the US it's standard as the summer holiday is much longer - 10-12 weeks. After a certain point it's not just a reading list but also a report to submit the first week of school on what you've done as well. In the UK with shorter summers it's not as necessary. But your DH can come up with one on his own using Google if he likes.

I've never head of it in the UK - my older two are at secondary and it's not a thing at their school or the schools DH and I went to.

My eldest has been part of a book reading group - swapping books and comparing notes about them -but that's stopping over the summer.

I assume it because 6 weeks isn't as long as the average USA 10-11 weeks.

If you're from the UK and been through the UK system - surely you have superior knowledge on the matter of UK school system so should be listen to?

He sounds like a prick. Maybe you should look at the wider issues here. Why is he discounting the things you say?

ours does a reading challenge of 50 things. like reading a book by a new author or a book set in space. it's not compulsory but some fun things too.