AIBU about baby dad?

[Mini1977]

AIBU to ask DD's dad to have her for 1 night?

So my ex and i split up a few months back after being together 8 years, we also have a 6 year old DD. I have always worked full time (in order to pay bills its a must) so our DD attends after school care and now currently summer club. I pay all the bills myself and always have, i also pay for our daughters after school care etc without a penny from my ex as his excuse is always (well your the one who wants to work).

Since we have split up the only time DD's dad has seen her is when he collects her from after school care or summer club, from there he will sometimes take her for fast food and he drops her off back home again (sometimes he picks me up from work as i dont drive because i simply can't afford to)! So all in he spends about 1 hour a day with his DD but also some days he doesn't pick her up so they don't see each other!

Some friends invited me out for a few drinks at one of our friends house, i havent been out socialising in around 2 years as it always caused arguments in the relationship if i went out regardless of where i was going so i avoided going out.

So anyway i messaged DD's dad and asked if he would mind having her overnight for 1 night so i could go to my friends and he said "thats just because you dont want her" talking about DD! I do everything all on my own for my DD, never asked him for money towards anything that our DD needs even while in a relationship, i was only asking for him to have DD 1 day. I completely understand the logic that if you have a child its your responsibillity to look after said child which is what i do everyday but am i really being unreasonable to want DD's dad to have her for 1 night?

@Mini1977

i pushed everyone away because of him and his control

I know this is a bit off topic, but that ^^ is not necessarily a permanent situation.

I was in an abusive relationship and became totally isolated. It was HIM that pushed my family and friends away - or, more accurately, hid me away from them - even though I thought and felt that it was my doing at the time.

But the people who properly mattered still loved me. It was the same family I had abandoned or hid from, called by a friend I'd turned my back on, who finally broke me free. They were waiting for me, they wanted to help me, and they still loved me after all (I felt) I'd done. They understood I had been in panic mode and wasn't making or wasn't able to make my own choices.

I was utterly convinced everyone would have turned their back on me, been angry with me, felt hurt and betrayed by my withdrawal, been ashamed of the stupid choices I'd made and the bloody mess I'd gotten myself into. That was a sizeable contributing factor to how complete my isolation was, and it became a vicious cycle.

I was wrong.

Please don't assume that you have pushed everyone away. For one thing, YOU didn't. For another, the people who truly love you will just be happy to see you, and to see you safe. If they don't know the truth, let them know it was not your fault, and they'll probably understand. Please try to reach out, if you have not yet, before giving up on your people.

I wish you the best of luck and happiness.